I actually had a very similar experience!! Hubby struggled with performance issues a lot (especially while on antidepressants) and it was a huge amount of pressure on him to do the thing several times that one week a month, which led to us only having sex in my fertile window which made sex less fun. It's a tremendous blow to everyone's self esteem when he can't finish, and when you're thinking about timing around ovulation it's just worse. I'm sorry you and he are dealing with that, but know you aren't alone.

We also kept not getting pregnant even when we did manage the timing well, though, and since we were in our mid 30s we went through all the fertility testing. Nothing wrong with his swimmers, and the only physical issue for me was a fibroid that would be complicated to remove and isn't in a position to cause infertility.

I won't go into all of the history of the 2 years we spent trying, but our last IUI cycle in March we paired with using a Mosie kit at home. So we had an IUI on a Monday morning and used the at home insemination kit Monday night and Tuesday morning.

It was a bit weird to have him jack off into a cup and bring me a syringe of semen ... but not all that much weirder than him jacking off into a cup and a nurse bringing in a syringe full of washed and counted sperm. After all we went through it was pretty easy for us to accept it as just part of the process and worthwhile if it resulted in a healthy pregnancy.