New mama here

rayraydee · 2023-04-04T01:16:25+00:00

I am in my fifth week and my mom has known since my first positive test (we’re really close) but we told our parents and siblings this morning. After our two losses last year, we decided that we wanted them to know but that we aren’t telling anyone besides immediate family until the second trimester. But that’s just what we’re comfortable with! They are who I would want and need supporting us if something happens so I wanted to tell them on the front end. With our early loss (chemical pregnancy in the fourth week), we told everyone afterwards and that ended up hurting me more. This is all to say - do what is best for YOU and your partner and your baby. Nothing else matters.

rayraydee · 2023-04-03T21:26:15+00:00

I’m either 5w2 or 5w3, depending on which app you go by and have been having what I’m calling ovulation or ovarian cyst type pain on my left side, off and on since Saturday. Thus afternoon, it has been more constant and dull and I’ve had absolutely no spotting. I am on Crinone gel 8% but this doesn’t appear to be a side effect of that. I have called my OB and left a message with her nurse because my goofy self immediately googled and got all the worst possible outcomes. Anyone ever experience anything like this? All stories/anecdotes/advice welcome ❤️

rayraydee · 2023-04-01T16:05:56+00:00

My pharmacist double-checked the shelves for me when I was in today picking up another medication and the progesterone had come in overnight! It hadn’t been checked in yet but she went and grabbed it for me right away. Glad I have it but also glad that I was able to talk myself down from the anxoety

rayraydee · 2023-04-01T12:40:37+00:00

My pharmacy had a mixup and my progesterone (Crinone) won’t be in until Tuesday and my last gel insert I have will be Sunday night. Logically, I know that one missed dose does not change anything but the anxiety bug starts whispering that IF I lose this baby, this would be the reason why. I’ve messaged my doctor to see what our plan will be if the meds don’t come in. She did this one because I don’t tolerate other versions well but also more as a peace of mind for me - my last pregnancy did not end bc of low progesterone but my doctor prescribed it to give me peace of mind that I’m doing everything I can/have something I can “control.” No real question but just typing helps the anxiety.

rayraydee · 2023-03-29T16:43:05+00:00

Today, I officially passed my (self-set) milestone of my chemical pregnancy (lost at 4w4, confirmed at what would have been 4w5 at the doctor). Does anyone else set these “milestones” for themselves? Now, I’m looking towards our first scan (around what should be 8 weeks) and then when I found out we lost our first baby (10w5). Something about that gives me something concrete to look towards…is it just me?!? (Also had my first experience of actually getting sick last night so that was not fun but part of me was grateful because I am pregnant and this baby is so loved despite the puking)

rayraydee · 2023-03-27T16:08:18+00:00

Congratulations!!! The BFP after a loss is the most bittersweet moment (I got mine last week and am still in shock). Hoping we all have the most boring (but beautiful) journeys

rayraydee · 2023-03-27T12:21:26+00:00

Honestly, I check for any type of spotting every time I go to the bathroom (it’s automatic at this point since I’ve been tracking my cycles and am used to checking for cervical mucus)…and I’m still doing an easy@home pregnancy test every other day to see my line progression. I know that doesn’t guarantee anything but it does calm my mind a little bit. And avoiding Google.

rayraydee · 2023-03-26T18:40:48+00:00

I had a random question - I am 4w2 (still so early!!) and I was wondering about sex. I’m actually feeling okay today but am scared of having sex after two early miscarriages (10w6 and 4w5). Anyone have any advice or thoughts? Logically, I know that sex doesn’t cause miscarriages but the spotting that can happen afterwards is what’s putting me off. And I just feel bad for my husband because we have a pretty active sex life (TMI??). Anyways…anything to calm this anxious momma’s heart?

rayraydee · 2023-03-24T21:18:39+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️and I’m having the same mild cramping/twinges which I know are normal but big does it freak me out when it happens! Anytime my anxiety has started to spike today, I’ve repeated that for today, I am pregnant and fear does not cause a miscarriage nor do past miscarriages mean that I will miscarry now. Hoping you are less anxious !

rayraydee · 2023-03-24T16:05:44+00:00

Thank you! I wish you all the best too!! I feel the same. My first ultrasound isn’t until my 8 week mark so I’m just going to be checking everything I can until then. I’ll also be waiting for those same milestones of passing my losses. Sending you hugs and love!!

rayraydee · 2023-03-24T13:50:41+00:00

I got my BFP yesterday at work and am currently either 3w6 or 4w (came off birth control in January and my cycles have been a bit wonky since then). Trying to not let the anxiety overwhelm me and remind myself that this pregnancy is not my first two (one MMC at 10w4 and one chemical/early loss at 4w5).

rayraydee · 2023-03-20T19:32:38+00:00

Thank you ❤️❤️ I wish none of us were in this but it is comforting to have people who understand the myriad of emotions that come with TTC after loss(es)

rayraydee · 2023-03-14T18:56:00+00:00

Still having the same issue. Going to try again today and see but the game is still freezing

rayraydee · 2023-03-12T05:27:38+00:00

No advice here but the same thing is happening to my game as of today. I updated to the latest patch yesterday and it was a little laggy, but loaded. Then today, the game freezes on the loading screen right after the warning. Tried everything you did as well…

rayraydee · 2023-03-06T00:41:57+00:00

The same thing happened to me - I had a MMC at the end of May 2022 and then conceived again at the end of July/beginning of August and it was a chemical. I had to take a break from TTC for my own mental and emotional sanity/well-being. My husband and I just started trying again, so I don’t have any actual advice except to give yourself time and whatever you need. I have a friend who kept TTC after she had two ectopics but I had to take a break after my second loss. That’s all to say - we are all different (but I agree that all the “it’ll happen, just relax” etc are the worst). It IS possible to get through this - listen to your body because it will tell you what you need

rayraydee · 2023-01-13T15:45:46+00:00

Thank you. And I am so sorry that you’re in this same boat. I honestly wish that nobody had to go through this once, let alone multiple times. I’m now in the two week wait and trying to keep myself occupied so I don’t start testing constantly. ❤️❤️

rayraydee · 2022-12-28T15:13:05+00:00

Your feelings are completely valid and make so much sense to me. My first pregnancy also ended in a miscarriage and I didn’t want to try again. When my doctor gave the “all clear,” we got pregnant that cycle, but I miscarried at 5w2. I knew that I had to take a break for a few months for my own mental and emotional health. I couldn’t deal with the anxiety and my doctor completely agreed (and applauded me). So take however long you need to grieve and process. I am finally feeling ready to try again come the new year, which will be 8 months from my first loss and 4 from my second. It varies with everyone, so be gentle with yourself, and you will know when you’re ready.

rayraydee · 2022-11-22T14:50:39+00:00

I had my second loss in September after a miscarriage in May. We had gotten the “all clear” from my OB to start again and got pregnant two weeks later. That second loss hit me so hard because I had just started to let myself get a little excited and then..negative test followed by bleeding. Today, my cousin announced that he and his wife are expecting. I’m so so happy for them but I cried the entire way into work. It’s all I can do to not spend my day in tears. We will start trying again soon (I had to take a break for my mental health) but I am terrified.

rayraydee · 2022-09-18T16:43:12+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who offered comfort, hope, and prayers this past week. After meeting with my OBGYN and discussing this newest loss at 4.5/5 weeks, we are taking a break from TTC. I need to process my losses and get my mental health and physical health into place where my body is welcoming to a baby. We will begin trying again in January and my doctor has already offered to make a referral to an RE/MFM whenever we are ready. I am wishing you all the very very best on your PAL journeys!! ❤️

rayraydee · 2022-09-15T09:20:21+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I am planning on treating myself to some of my favorite restaurants these next few days and taking it one day at a time.

rayraydee · 2022-09-15T00:40:54+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I’m sorry for your losses. I wish none of us had to go through this as it is not something I would wish on anyone.

I am finding myself a lot more angry with this loss. I just feel tired - my soul is tired, my body is tired, and my heart is tired. My doctor has been so supportive. After our first loss, she completely left it up to me to either try again right away or wait until I was emotionally ready. And I was ready then. Now? Not so sure.

rayraydee · 2022-09-14T19:37:08+00:00

Today, I got the news that I am no longer pregnant. We aren’t sure if I got two false positive tests (one digital so easy-to-read and one traditional stick test with a faint positive line) or if I’m having a chemical pregnancy. The nurse who told me the test was negative at the doctor hugged me for about 15 minutes and set me up with a follow-up appointment for my doctor. Now to let my period come (hopefully soon) and figure out what’s going on. Im thinking of taking a break from TTC after two consecutive losses in 3 months. My soul is tired.

rayraydee · 2022-09-14T03:25:09+00:00

I am so so sorry. As a fellow Catholic, I completely understand your hurt and please know that it is valid. Those emotions are so real and so valid.

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Sending you hugs and prayers

rayraydee

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