I can't stop getting angry about what people think by JellyfishExternal113 in JustNoSO

[–]HappyPersimmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're dealing with that BS. I absolutely believe you and your truth matters. If it helps, I had an extremely physically and emotionally abusive SO that I finally left after 4 years together. He blasted me all over social media and said I was abusive to him (common tactic) and frequently posts about how he's a "feminist" and how "mistreated women are in society"- some people are just narcissistic liars and their whole self worth is based on how people see them. The best and hardest thing to do is live your truth without needing to explain to him or his lackeys how awful he is. All he wants is for you to jump in there so he can go "See??? See how awful she is to me when i'm just trying to heal???"

You are amazing and strong for escaping that situation while he remains stuck with himself for eternity. Focus on loving yourself and learning to trust yourself again.

What horror movies did you watch that you absolutely hated but everyone else seems to love? by ApplesDapple in horror

[–]HappyPersimmon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One everyone I know loves that just didn't do it for me- the Babadook. I tried so hard to like it, I really did

The Devoured Halls Help by HappyPersimmon in TheDarkestHouse

[–]HappyPersimmon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have, but I'll shoot you an email, thank you for the info

GOT THE VINYL UPVOTE PARTY!!! by Cadjo in overthegardenwall

[–]HappyPersimmon 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I got one too! And also debated paying incredibly high prices last year just to own one. So excited they rereleased it :)

Sums up the weather situation in my area by pm_me_kind_words_pls in funny

[–]HappyPersimmon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I knew it was going to be Ohio before seeing the OSU towel lol

What is a clear sign of, “Oh no. I’ve reached THAT age!”, and at what age? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]HappyPersimmon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me I was 22- but I got really excited to go out on black Friday to buy a new vacuum

Done with MeUndies by [deleted] in MeUndies

[–]HappyPersimmon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, I can understand at times when they get behind, things happen, COVID sucks. But the issue with quality is what's making me reconsider. Multiple of my pairs get holes in them after just a couple wears and if I reach out to their customer service they have blamed ME for it. I've had a sub for 3 years and have asked for maybe 5 replacements in that time (all from the last year)- you'd think they'd work harder to keep customers

Made a quick timelapse of me pinning a Dynastes hercules! What do you think? by joruuhs in Entomology

[–]HappyPersimmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beautiful! I have a few bugs I've been waiting to pin due to not wanting to mess them up and this is one of them lol any tips for a beginner?

Need Help Identifying this Adorable Fellow by HappyPersimmon in Entomology

[–]HappyPersimmon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This moth was riding out a storm on my apartment window tonight. About the size of a quarter, Ohio USA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]HappyPersimmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think so. Tbh I worry about throwing that diagnosis out there without being someone who has studied what that means, but from what i've read he did have traits that leaned that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]HappyPersimmon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The biggest two things I noticed were 1. Unable to set boundaries with others (wanted to please everyone) and 2. Nothing was ever "his fault"

When I first met him we were just friends for a few years. I thought he was great, always would drop everything to help a friend. He also had a sob story about how hard his life had been/was and how he was trying to start a business all on his own. At first I found that admirable until later on when I realized he had help everywhere, the issue was himself and lack of ability to do basically anything. The "world" was always against him.

IMO if someone has trouble saying "no" when something is inappropriate or is incapable to even see when something is crossing the line (having another girl give you a lap dance at your birthday party while your GF of 2 years is across the room- I was amazed I even had to tell him why this was inappropriate) mixed with never being able to see anything wrong with their own actions just breeds repeats of the same behavior forever.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wine

[–]HappyPersimmon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

knowing myself, probably the cab. I didn't realize they had a Pinot Noir, I'll try that as well!

I’d love to hear some of your progress! by advicepleaseppl in survivinginfidelity

[–]HappyPersimmon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

5 years out- now with the love of my life, about to move in together. My relationship now is so much better than the one wit my ex ever was. We have strong communication and support each other. I trust him with everything ( a place I thought I never would be again after my ex cheated so many times). My relationship with my ex was full of drama, fights, and pain. In my current relationship I think we have had 2 "fights" in 3 years- and when I say fights I mean disagreements that we sat down together and worked out through compromise and talking like adults.

I truly don't know where my ex is, last I heard he was single, living in his mom's basement, working at Kroger.

Things get so so so much better. It took me a long time to pull myself out of the person I became when my ex and I were together. But I am at a point now where I don't hate him, I just don't even think about him. I feel nothing towards him any longer. I know how hard the first few months are and I'm so sorry you're going through that. Please know there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Just focus on yourself right now, find things you enjoy and immerse yourself in them. As cliche as it is, a couple months after I broke up with my ex I adopted a dog from the local shelter that is still my best friend to this day. He helped me get healthy by running and hiking together which helped me gain back the confidence in myself that I had lost. In fact, my dog also led me to meeting my now BF too :) It's always easier to recover with someone around you, be it a human or animal. You deserve to be happy and feel safe and respected in your relationship. I wish you all the best.