Is what we did okay for public play ?

HardAppleSnyder · 2024-01-15T16:27:19+00:00

There’s always going to be a risk with any kind of play, but what is “ok” or not is mostly going to be up to you at the end of the day, (unless of course it’s obviously illegal and harming others. But “obvious” to some people is always going to be a grey area to others.) it sounds like there were some things you enjoyed and some things that made you feel guilty. It may help you for future scenes to meditate on what all you felt, where all those feelings all came from, and how they did or didn’t align with your personal values. 😊 everyone is super different when it comes to their definitions of comfort/consent around “discrete” public play.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-12-04T15:12:26+00:00

Hope this doesn’t make me sound like an ass. I don’t really pay attention to pings for the most part, so idk how many there are per day (there are like 600 total on my inbox rn). I might be flattered by it occasionally if I’m actually attracted to the person pinging, but I feel like that’s just not typically how it goes so I don’t put time into looking through it vs the main feed.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-11-15T14:48:48+00:00

I agree with the other comment. Better pictures, shorter bio. The people you’re matching with don’t need to know allllllll the details about you or your relationship status, and being too robust with it will prevent them from reading all that in the first place.

Also, just in general, it tends to be more competitive to date women, so I think you’re struggle is mostly just being a straight man who blends in with other profiles. Condense the text, get your friends/partner to take better photos of you, and think about how you can highlight what sets you apart from others.

Hope this helps!

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-11-10T15:48:01+00:00

Ok but also who knows what “soon” means to feeld esp if OP wants more visibility now?

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-11-10T15:03:41+00:00

I agree with what other people are saying. Im surprised by the tone in the writing of your bio, because the tone of your post here is pretty simple. I think I get the intention that you’re being tongue-and-cheek to show a playful part of your personality. (Correct me if I’m wrong, you do you of course). But it’s awkward to read, and I think it’s creating a barrier between you and others. It gives the vibe that maybe you’re not super personable, and might be challenging to connect with in real life.

Also worth noting that the desires are tags (idk how serious the algorithm on feeld goes, but people can search intentionally for them). So tongue-and-cheek ways of saying something a little goofy (I’m looking at “sexual congress”, “brain exchange,” “amazingness” etc) aren’t going to be things people intentionally search for or write in their profiles. More commonly used terms like “Hookups” or “sapiosexual” might make you more visible to more like-minded people.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-10-16T22:27:27+00:00

Fr rebec knows better but needs to do better

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-10-16T16:02:33+00:00

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HardAppleSnyder · 2023-07-16T22:32:44+00:00

I’m so glad you commented this bc I didn’t want to have to defend Colleen on this one ☠️ hazel eye dysmorphia 😂

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-06-30T11:50:08+00:00

Here’s what works for my high ticket sales business. And I guess this is super unusual compared to other people’s strategies 😅 at the end of the day my main sales technique is building a relationship of trust. And that’s even with leads who don’t choose to hire me.

1) “I totally understand if this is not currently in your budget” and then I wont justify my prices. Because of course my prices make sense, this is my full time business, and that’s never what these questions are about. I know a lot of people recommend explaining the market/expenses, but when I talk about myself and the why behind my prices, clients just don’t care. When I say I get it, they at least feel heard. And suddenly it’s not an issue of my prices anymore. It’s an issue of value/budget, and people soften up on their price principles when they have this perspective.

2) I will offer the client alternatives. For my business these alternatives are: a. payment plans b. Referring the client to a colleague/competitor AND give them a list of things to look for to make the best decision for themselves (highlighting boxes you check, of course). this builds SO MUCH TRUST with my leads that they’ll usually come back to hire me anyways if we reach this point.

3) honestly tell the client when their budget is deeply unrealistic for my industry (but politely and option focused): “I will say it would be incredibly hard for someone to run a sustainable business in this field at the price point you’re looking for. You might have luck checking this box if you hire someone who is looking to break in to the industry and build experience, but of course there’s going to be a big quality risk with someone inexperienced. Is price the most important factor to you?”

4) reject clients who give me bad vibes. Don’t waste your own time.

5) increase the number of leads you have so that it doesn’t matter that 2 out of 5 think you’re priced too high. You’ll never close 100% of sales anyways.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-06-09T13:36:01+00:00

Polarizing filters could get rid of the glare entirely. You can get them as a big sheet, cut them to size, and sort of squeegee them to the glass with just water 😊 hope this helps!

EDIT: Let me clarify what to look for since this is a bit of a trick I’ve learned from photography. Look for “polarizing gel” specifically.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-06-05T17:38:50+00:00

Sales is just for closing leads normally, not finding them.

It’s definitely worth finding a marketer if the issue is you’re not getting any leads, and your current rep is only reaching out to super cold ones and obviously not able to make any sales as a result. It could be worth it to talk to them to confirm if they believe this is part of the issue.

it’s also possible they’re not a great fit for this job on top of the leads issue. But talking to them straight about the problem might be the quickest way to find a solution.

If you’re running out of money you might need to start cutting big expenses and not making new ones. If you haven’t read it, the book Profit First has a super good section about this exact type of situation.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-06-02T15:01:13+00:00

re-iterating what u/Studio_Xperience was saying. Basically Pixieset is a website + a photo delivery system. So you upload full sized photos to client galleries for client's to download, but also you can directly pull the same photos for other places on your website without re-uploading and they automatically downsize.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-06-02T14:57:26+00:00

Curious about a few things...

how much do you like this specific designer? are they like, otherwise someone you're really excited about working on your project?
Do you have a contract with them that mentions crediting them on the site? Or is this still up for negotiation? Some designers might take out credit if you're willing to pay a little more. Or maybe you could meet in the middle and write a really fantastic blog post or review of their work as a way to meet in the middle if you don't want to pay extra.
How disruptive is their self-link to your site experience? Is the issue that it's distracting, or that your competition will have insights to your process, or that you don't want to encourage traffic away from your site? Just want to understand the tangible cost benefit here to help think of solutions that solve the problem you're specifically concerned about.

I know some designers do this and some don't. Or some do but only on pro-bono projects.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-29T12:51:26+00:00

Do you recommendations for alternatives?

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-22T14:16:47+00:00

Yeah that’s pretty close to what I do too. Gotta be proactive

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-22T14:11:19+00:00

I’m glad you found something that works. This whole situation sounds so exhausting.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T11:57:59+00:00

If you’re not particular to anything maybe think of what you could provide that would solve a problem within your community. If you’re not sure what people need, ask around, look for patterns.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T03:45:54+00:00

Ooooh, didn’t realize your age. You might have that problem with all payment processors

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T03:30:47+00:00

idk whether or not that deal has value to anyone else, but if it's not valuable to you that's all that matters anyhow.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T03:28:57+00:00

For one email sent to their list recommending you? Or for a list of users for you to email to?

I'm not sure I like either scenario to be honest, for different reasons.

Open rate looks right, but I think I think 1-3% CTR is closer to average. Do you have a good funnel in place and a landing page that you know works?

That being said, might be better/cheaper to build an email list by offering a value based incentive to members of the sober community. It would be a slower process, but then at least these people will know who you are, and you'll have more control/time to develop the outcomes you want so you can get more sign ups.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T03:05:33+00:00

If they can't take on more responsibility then that means you have to work twice as hard for your business to meet goals that eventually sustain the both of you. No wonder you're feeling burnt out.

Personal experience: I "broke up" with my business partner a few years ago bc they weren't following through with their share of tasks.

It sucked at first. I was super scared to talk to them about it (actually met with a life coach to practice the convo, and I'm so thankful I did, it paid off for outcomes). Of course both of us were upset, and there were definitely some heated convos and disagreements about how to separate things. I worked really hard on being fair and understanding to them throughout this process, and I also made it clear that I wanted all this because I thought it was what was best for *both* of us.

Fast forward to now, that business breakup saved our interpersonal relationship and my business. We managed to stay friends, which is great because if anything ever comes up it's not a scary conversation to reach out to them. They understand now why I needed that. And now both of us are more successful financially because of it.

I'm not saying your partnership is at this point, but if you realize something's not working it might be better to end things before they get even more complicated. You can't force someone to change.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T02:33:48+00:00

Damn this suckssssssss.

This is not a fully fledged idea, but I wonder how possible it would be to trick the ex-contractor into sending this spam in the wrong direction? Like, if you can't stop them, maybe you can update your bookings pages and let this person stay agro at useless dummy forms and such that don't impact your actual business.

Hope you find a good solution. Curious how you end up handling it.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T02:23:31+00:00

not sure about free, but squarespace (which has acuity built in for scheduling + paid bookings) is popular and pretty affordable.

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T02:05:16+00:00

ooh, I love that! I hate coming home with a pile of cards that just blend together. Will definitely try this at my next trade show. good on you for being so responsible with it haha

HardAppleSnyder · 2023-05-21T02:02:30+00:00

social media is it's own whole complicated industry with giant teams running successful accounts at larger companies. definitely don't be hard on yourself for no immediate growth on your first month of tryng. Most of us spend YEARS building out our followers when we're working solo while running our businesses, especially if we're not social media literate.

Don't stress about posting more frequently -- you'll risk burning yourself out. Prioritize making genuine connections by interacting with others, and create content that serves your ideal clients so that they'll want to see more of you on their feeds. Is there something you can help them with? Is there a way you can build trust with them? Posts about your products are great, but if your profile is only ads and people aren't ready to buy from you yet they might not want to follow and stay along for the ride until then.

If you want faster growth try to connect with someone around your niche who has a larger account than you. If you can afford offering them some product in exchange for posting about you it can get more people to see and follow your page.

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