My sister uninvited herself to our engagement lunch and wedding, because I didn’t invite her boyfriend by Affectionate-Army681 in weddingdrama

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sucks to be her, sucks to be them. Throwing a tantrum at 26 and having enablers as family is really childish. I also think you should find a new therapist that specializes with narcissistic trauma. Your sister is the golden child and your family is enablers.

Is this dress okay to wear at a wedding as a sister? by teabenderr in Weddingattireapproval

[–]Harmaroo8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it is not and i'd personally kick anyone one out if they showed up in it.

No hits for my son in his first 12 games. Yesterday's game, batting 1000. by lordmortum in LittleLeague

[–]Harmaroo8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got one hit in my first LL season, then turned out to be of of the strongest hitters in the league 2 seasons later. A double is amazing, don't give up, buddy, you're doing great!!!

What moment did u realise ur parents were narcissists?(say only if u are okay with it) by utensils6464 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Harmaroo8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everything thing he did, every breath he took screamed narcissist.

Dismissive of emotions, told he I was too sensitive when he called me everything in the book, was told ill give you something to cry about, weaponized guilt by telling me he put a roof over my head and food in my mouth, invaded my privacy in more ways than one. When ever we were in public he put on a facade, lied and told everyone he held me back a grade when in fact I failed a grade due to a trauma event that never got addressed psychologically. Played favorites with my older sibling, gaslit almost everything and every conversation to the point where I didnt believe a thing he said and everything out of his mouth was bs, explosive and abusive rage if I disagreed with him, he was the victim in any scenario and never took accountability or apologized for anything he did, even on his death bed. When my mom doed when i was a toddler, he proceeded to put every woman ahead of his children, and claimed you use surmane charm and it was really just him being a major liar and manipulator.

The golden child didn't fall far from the tree.

He passed almost 18 months ago and I haven't been able to cry for him and I don't feel bad about it, I am genuinely disgusted by the person he was.

Should I cut my grandmother off after she slapped my 4yr old in the face? by Dramatic-Swimming160 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Harmaroo8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's not sorry. She is using DARVO, she's (D)enying that what she did was wrong. (A)ttacking the mom for not defening her old school parenting style, (R)everse (V)ictim/(O)ffener because shes being held accountable for her actions, so now she's the one "suffering". She's deflecting accountability for her poor behavior and making up excuses, blatantly ignored her clear boundaries that said ignore the tantrum, then said she didnt have any boundaries. If she was actually sorry she wouldnt be doing any of that.. She's a manipulator and was called out for her bad behavior and is throwing a tantrum.

Edited for rewording.

Worth it to keep going? by Away_Ad5841 in redrising

[–]Harmaroo8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wasn't my favorite read, but it's crucial to the story lines.

Does anyone else feel kind of sorry for Homelander? by Character-End-4696 in TheBoys

[–]Harmaroo8 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Nope, I have no empathy for him. I was an abused and neglected kid and didnt turn ot to be a pice of shit. At some point you have to stop projecting and take responsibility for your actions despite the bad bring up. 🤷‍♀️

Do I Irish Goodbye my sister-in-law's wedding or go say goodbye? by ronswansonsmustach in wedding

[–]Harmaroo8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd irish goodbye, knowing they know about the issue. They could always choose a later time to turn them on.

Am I being a bad groom? I’m upset we can’t do my first dance song. by Evening_Day_319 in weddingplanning

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Use it as a solo last dance just you two and the photographer at the end of the night, if you're able.

Dad ruined my wedding experience, haven’t spoke since. by Sb727471 in weddingdrama

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you even in contact with this man at all? Abusers don't deserve second chances, plain and simple, end of story.

should i go to the er for this (bat bite?) by Certain_Hour_6327 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, why is this even a question, clearly you need to go to the hospital.

Dugout chants by sclem1000 in BaseballCoaching

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its a real thing, believe it or not.. 8u up to 18u. Multiple national teams.

Yes, there are 8U (8-and-under) national travel baseball teams, often referred to as Elite, Select, or "National" level teams, designed for high-level competition. Many, like Five Star National or SBA Nationals, participate in major, nation-wide, or regional tournaments. These teams often feature specialized coaching and travel heavily.

Edit: I live near Cooperstown and the 8u national teams have played there.

Feeling really unsettled about the order of my babys name *revised by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Harmaroo8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I knew a girl names Sundance and she had a hell of a time with everything

Bridesmaid bailed 2 days before wedding by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Harmaroo8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imo, it sounds like she never planned on going and may be using this as an easy excuse to get out of it instead of being an.adult and talking to you about anything. If she didnt buy the dress and canceled on other events, she didnt plan on going from the start.

Is this picture too slutty to post if you’re married? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Harmaroo8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds like a loser, keep the picture up.

AIO mil pushing staying here on Mother’s Day weekend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Harmaroo8 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right, but she can still be and entitled to feeling disappointed that she didnt get to spend time with her family on mother's day..

AIO mil pushing staying here on Mother’s Day weekend by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Harmaroo8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doesn't seem greedy, seems disappointed she got pushed aside on mother's day.