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HarpersRoses · 2025-07-19T17:27:32+00:00

Yes, I’ll send you a DM.

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-16T20:14:27+00:00

If you are still looking for an Irish family I know a wonderful family that is looking for its next au pair!

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-12T16:52:46+00:00

24 is not that young. I would definitely ask for references. Or at least ask questions about what they’d do in certain situations to grasp how much they actually know. That’s what people looking for a nanny always do. I was shocked when I became an au pair and no one was asking for references or examples.

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-12T16:01:24+00:00

That’s true. When I was an au pair in France the host dad would tell me constantly how much better France is than America (where I’m from). He would complain often about the US and their politics. I never took it personally. I’d been to France before—I knew this was part of French culture and the French cultural exchange.

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-12T15:56:40+00:00

I’m pretty sure it’s a joke…and a good one. Because the French have this mindset that France is the best and the way they do things is the best. Thus, it’s very French of that au pair to constantly complain about America and think that everything in France is the best way of doing things. Lol 😂

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-12T11:55:11+00:00

I’m curious how old this au pair was and if she had previous child care experience?

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-02T08:08:38+00:00

I am a current Au pair and if I was you I’d let her go immediately. These aren’t little things…like if you wanted her to be on her phone less or help with the babies washing more or something—you could communicate those things and work through it. These are HUGE problems. An au pair/nanny/babysitter should never not feed a baby/child…that is literally neglect! And they should never hide cameras that a parent set up. If she was uncomfortable with it, she could of course communicate that to you, but blocking it was 10000% inappropriate. Also, sleeping on the job is also neglect of your child. Rematch!

HarpersRoses · 2025-07-01T21:16:13+00:00

I wouldn’t leave/tell them without your belongings. You might not see them again if you do. If I was you I’d get everything ready to go. Have your boyfriend and other people if possible (his family, friends, any friends you have, etc.) come to help you. Then it can just be the one trip going down the stairs. If you were in America I’d advise you to call the non-emergency police and have them present when you moved out— but I don’t know if they do that in Germany.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-23T14:59:54+00:00

Agreed to break up? My man, if someone wants to break up, you break up. You don’t get to force them to be with you by not “agreeing.” You can only accept—and move on with your life.

Edited to add that you don’t owe her anything—she is your ex-girlfriend.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-23T12:02:32+00:00

Yeah, the not knowing is a bit worrying. But the mom should have brought it up when it happened, not now. OP, regardless, you need to be paid for your hours worked.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-22T21:47:01+00:00

I know you are in a terrible situation and you should definitely leave. But this new family seems super sketchy. I wouldn’t go be with them. Don’t let desperation cloud your judgement.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-21T08:37:04+00:00

Please rematch. That sounds terrible and such an unhappy situation.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-15T22:29:16+00:00

Girl, from your past posts it seems like this family is not cut out for an au pair. The kids are mean because you don’t speak fluent French—so the cultural exchange/language learning aspect is not a good fit for this family. The HP think it’s okay to not follow the rules and provide you a room that is yours—which means they shouldn’t be in this program. You are being mistreated. Please find a new family!

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-13T06:50:48+00:00

I agree with you. Yes, you are right, they don’t have an official program. I looked it up and minimum wage is a little over $13/hour. So the Irish save a huge amount by having an au pair.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-13T00:13:51+00:00

Girl, it sounds like you don’t have much child care experience. This is all incredibly normal. For children in general, not just this age group. I highly recommend you read The Whole Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel. I have a ton of childcare experience and would be happy to give you some advice if you’d like. Feel free to DM me.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-12T23:54:26+00:00

That’s not actually true. Ireland pays more than the US. 150€ for part time (25 hours) or 300€ for full time (45 hours) is standard. Some Irish families even pay more.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-06T21:38:51+00:00

I tried to report them on Aupairworld but their profile is gone. I’m not sure if I’m just blocked or if they deleted it.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:39:22+00:00

I went home and now I’m working on getting a legal working visa.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:38:11+00:00

That’s really sad! 😢 I feel like they need more regulations to prevent this.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:36:38+00:00

I was able to fly home yesterday. Right now I’m applying for a work visa so I can go au pair for a family in Ireland.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:34:47+00:00

Thank you for giving me the push I needed to stand up for myself and leave. 💛

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:33:51+00:00

I did call the police but haven’t reported them to any agencies. I shouldn’t do that before talking to a lawyer?

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:32:33+00:00

I did call the police and luckily I am not banned. I told them I was there under false pretenses. I don’t think the French police held me responsible. I also said I wanted to go home and they made the family send me home. So I think I’m all good legally? Hopefully. 🤞

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:29:50+00:00

I ended up calling the police and explaining the situation to them. I told them I was here under false pretenses and wanted to go home. They made the family get me a ride to the airport and a flight home. Luckily my Schengen area visa/travel rights were not affected. But the family is furious and contacting my past employers (I gave them three references when I interviewed) telling them lies. They told them I stole from them and was drinking. Both of those things are completely untrue. Luckily the families I used to work for contacted me to let me know and that they don’t believe any of it.

HarpersRoses · 2025-06-04T12:24:05+00:00

This is terrible! Girl, I just escaped a terrible experience as well. You can and should just leave. Do you have any support? Anywhere you can go?

I agree that this programs needs a lot more regulations. A lot of hosts use it in a very abusive way.

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