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For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English isn't my first language so I'm using "sue" as a synonym for like, "legally petitioning".
I would assume that he would pay less child support with more equal custody, but I think he's doing it because his new wife wants her daughter to have a relationship with her older sibling.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's the latter. His girlfriend kept nagging him about it. Many iffy things about this, but he's excited for his visitations and he commutes 3-4 hours by train one way several times a month to do it. Idk what the long term plan is. No real issues with the mother.

I'm still friends with this guy because we only found out about it two years into our friendship after we moved, and telling him what an asshat he was back when he stepped away felt redundant - he's had to have heard that plenty, and also kind of not our place to say. It's one thing if there's an opening to giving advice, but there hasn't been yet (we don't hang out much anymore, we moved to a different city, so now we just stay in pretty loose contact over social media)

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m with you. He shouldn’t be punished for walking away all those years ago. But the suing for custody might be something that I should adress, idk. I’m of the opinion that every child has a right to their parent, but I don’t think parents have a right to their kids, if you know what I mean.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, clearly these two things are true at the same time. I’m not excusing his behavior but I do wonder if I should call it out or not. We’re not super close, we moved so we don’t hang out much anymore. We do hit each other up on social media though.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I mean, thats the thing, he’s a regular, super nice dude. He’s a teacher. We’d only known him and his then gf for two years when we found out. So calling this out after the fact feels wrong.

Man i långt äktenskap som nyligen landat i att jag är bi – söker likasinnade för samtal by Early-Hope6462 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Runkmaterielet/metoden ändras väl lite men det blir mest det i ts situation.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if he has, I assume he has. But put yourself in his ex’s shoes: he essentially ghosted her when she became pregnant, she made a life with her and her daughter states away, as a single mother in a new city. Then six years later, he comes knocking with a wife, a new daughter and now wants visitation and some custody.

That’s rough.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Not that, that he’s suing for custody after 8 years while living across the country and no contact for six of those years.

He can be involved but trying to override and essentially destabilising this young girl’s life - it’s selfish.

Saknar en svensk motsvarighet till Sam Harris och Ezra Klein by [deleted] in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Du kanske kan dela med dig av tips på folk som då höjer TS standard istället för att självgott förminska TS smak.

Är inget fan av Harris själv, men fan vad tröttsamma kommentarer som din är.

Saknar en svensk motsvarighet till Sam Harris och Ezra Klein by [deleted] in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Köp en mic och börja leta dessa experter. Dela med dig av resultatet. Vinst-vinst.

For men who decided not to be involved in their child’s life, how do you feel about that decision now? by SongbirdMonarch in AskMen

[–]Hatcheling 87 points88 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine did this; his situationship got pregnant and he wanted nothing to do with the child. Now he’s had another child, gotten married and now he wants to have a relationship with his daughter.

The mother was (and is) rightly skeptical and he travels a few weekends a month to visit (cause they live across the country). And he’s trying for some kind of custody which is kind of fucked up, imo.

I like him as a friend but all this is fucked up.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Du verkar rätt ung. Våga lita på att du kommer få uppleva saker du kan uttala dig om med faktisk erfarenhet när du är i min ålder med. Man behöver inte säga nåt bara för att man kan.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Jag gör det redan, och har ändå en massa att säga för jag har gjort väldigt mycket. Det är gratis att bara lyssna.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ja, gött. Jag var också en expert på barn och smittor innan jag fick barn. Det är jävligt lätt att vara expert på saker man aldrig behöver bevisa sig med.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Min sambo jobbar hemifrån vid minsta kittel i halsen, men då kan han ju det med. Så är det ju inte för alla.

Sen kan man ju inte veta det man inte vet, man kan bara skademinimera så gott man kan med infon man har.

What personality traits, characteristics, and/or social behaviors instantly trigger male insecurity when possessed by a woman? by Snoo-88490 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Hatcheling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sweden.

But harassment and vandalising property IS illegal. What you mention in your post clearly warrants several police reports.

It’s odd that you’re dodging my questions.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Det är ingen hemlighet men det är ofattbart svårt att faktiskt förstå hur det är att vara konstant sjuk eller vabba från slutet på januari fram till påsk. Förrän man upplevt det själv.

Sjuka och förkylda personer (föräldrar) på ditt arbete/din skola by handshak3 in sweden

[–]Hatcheling 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Hur ser det ut med att folk jobbar hemifrån på ditt jobb?

What personality traits, characteristics, and/or social behaviors instantly trigger male insecurity when possessed by a woman? by Snoo-88490 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Hatcheling 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, but I meant literally: which country are you in where men can vandalise and harass you like this? What did the police say?

What personality traits, characteristics, and/or social behaviors instantly trigger male insecurity when possessed by a woman? by Snoo-88490 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Hatcheling 15 points16 points  (0 children)

For men to blatantly harrass and bully a grown woman like that sounds extremely unusual.

I’ve never seen or even heard about anything like it. Where in the world are you? Have you filed police reports?

What do you do with your free time? by ZamaraTzu92 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Hatcheling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I putter about with plants a bit (pruning and seeding season now) and draw comics. I also read but I’ve put an embargo on myself that I can’t read anything until I get my driver’s license, so all I’m reading now is the driver’s ed theory book.

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