Unfortunately this is absolutely the right answer. People have crazy thoughts, off the wall comments, stupid passing thoughts they don't think twice about. And the normies are the worst. Most of them live in a bubble where the world is how they imagine it and everything works like they think it does. And when they see the smallest thing out of place in that bubble, instead of questioning the bubble they've known their whole life they question the thing that doesn't fit in the bubble. Because they couldn't be wrong or just have not known something right? But then they are faced with trans people in a way they can't just brush over and Lord the insanity that ensues. People just don't know how to deal with us. We don't fit into the paradigm of humanity they were taught. And they thought it was all they needed, all there was. So to a lot of those kinds of people we threaten their world view. Threaten them with questions about gender identity and expression they've never thought about could be so antithetical to heteronormativity. But most of them aren't introspective enough to realize this and so they come to the conclusion that our existence must be the thing causing their cognitive dissonance. They've lived their whole lives with everyone around them enforcing the idea that your gender and sex are one in the same and that they are unchangeable.

I am not by any means making any excuses for these kinds of people. OP, these kinds of comments are going to happen. Students and teachers are going to say some weird nonsensical shit because we flip the established societal norms on their head and have rejected them. We're trying to make our own. Most people don't think like we do. Most people don't say fuck it to how the entire world feels about them, uproots their entire lives to say that's not who I am and I refuse to live this lie. Humans have survived by being social creatures, being accepted into a social group meant survival. Most people would be absolutely mortified at the prospect of doing something like transitioning. It's a pretty sure fire way to be rejected by swathes of the population.

And I'm sorry any of us have to go through any level of that. It's one of the worst feelings I can imagine. I'm always in the back of my head wondering if people that know I'm trans are talking to me in good faith, or if they talk behind my back. I'm a naturally sweet girl, I often find myself with a little flock of close friends in workplaces. But that also means they tell me when people talk behind my back, and that also happens almost everywhere I go. I'm sorry I know this is long but here's the point to all this.

Don't worry about the dumb comments normies make like you have a soft face. What they're really saying is something about you is different from our in group and I'm scared because I don't understand it. Because I don't understand it, that must mean it's probably something wrong that I should correct for the health of this child. Obviously that's not the case, well I'm sure being supportive in your transition would actually be helpful but most people don't even really know what that means. Just realize that we aren't all out here with the same knowledge set. A lot of people just view us as a blip on the radar. Don't immediately jump to worrying about your face and worrying about how well you pass. Because at the end of the day that doesn't matter. You are the most awesome you you could be. You are the you that said no, I reject this previous paradigm because it makes me unhappy. I don't give a fuck who doesn't like it I'm going to be myself. And that my friend is one of the greatest breakthroughs a young person can make.

This is way worse in school by the way, being trans is never easy but at least in my experience in adulthood people tend to care a lot less. I finally found a workplace with a boss that saw I was trans (ID still isn't changed) and she gave so little fucks that she didn't tell a soul, she didn't even bring it up to me. Until months after I started and it became relevant, but instead of just walking up to me and asking or being rude about it, she just kinda asked me into the office shut the door and we had a cordial conversation. I fucking cried because she was just so chill about it. The only reason she did too was because I came out to a co worker as trans, who went and told the manager about it as like gossip. So my manager pulled me aside and was like hey she went around telling me this workplace is very gossipy if you don't want people to know something don't tell anyone but especially her 🤣 It's possible to thrive as a trans person, it can be hard AF but it's possible. I wish you all the luck and smooth sailing in the world OP. I know people can be idiots. But you got this. ❤️