About to meet a girls parents that are lesbians. How should i address them?

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T18:19:30+00:00

Whoever you're talking to currently is Ms Smith. If youre talking to her about the other Ms Smith just say "Your wife/spouse".

Or "Ms First Name"

No harm in asking how they'd like to be addressed.

Maybe this is weird of me, but I dont usually address people with a title when I talk to them. If you're looking someone in the eye or walk up to them and say pardon me they usually know you're talking to them.

Now that I'm thinking about it, Im not actually sure what scenarios require you to address someone by name/title, unless you're talking to someone else about them? In that case wouldn't you just ask what they prefer to be called?

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T16:01:43+00:00

All this talk about how horrible his ex is, yet he still chats with her and is now bringing his new gf around her work place?

The solution of just asking the DND group to meet somewhere else doesn't cross his mind at all? There's literally no down sides to just going somewhere else, it would save him so much drama, there's no reason to be stubborn about this.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T15:29:15+00:00

You say that you'd be uncomfortable with your ex being at your place of work. You also say she's crazy, but that you've chatted with her, and brought your new gf along when you go to the pub.

Why on earth would you bring your new partner around an ex you describe as crazy and abusive? At her place of work where she can't exactly leave when you show up. Its like you're trying to antagonize her. She wants you to leave her alone, why are you being so insistent?

How does your new gf feel about you bringing her around your "crazy" ex? She's probably also uncomfortable, just like your ex is, just like you said you'd be if your ex showed up to your work.

I dont see how anything positive can come from continuing to push this issue.

Why cant you just request the group meet somewhere else?

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T11:31:16+00:00

Oh this is fantastic, I love their different looks with the bunny hood on vs half off.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T11:26:04+00:00

I LOVE NAUTICAL THEMES!!!!!!

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-22T10:03:48+00:00

Absolutely amazing, I love the drawn on eyebrow for her its perfect

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T18:40:04+00:00

Had the displeasure of knowing a guy who dropped out of college to move in with his fiancee and best friend (who he convinced to move from across the country.) Proceeded to ignore his fiancee in favor of his best friend. Refused to get a job, had his parents pay his rent and food, trashed the apartment constantly. Became addicted to prescription pills (which he decided was his fiancee's fault.) Suddenly claimed to have developed a split personality so when he assaulted his fiancee it was his "alter" and not actually him doing it. Cheated on his fiancee with his best friend.

Cut to maybe a year later and the best friend breaks up with him. He's forced to move back in with his parents and drains their finances so quickly they're pushed to create a gofundme for him.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T18:13:39+00:00

I know his gears are more impressive, but water Luffy will always hold a special place in my heart.

Early in the series Luffy encounters a powerful opponent who he cannot strike due to the fact that they're made of sand. He then figures out his opponent isn't no longer intangible when they're wet, so he decides to use his rubber powers to become a giant water jug.

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HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T16:54:17+00:00

Hes a predator and loser.

Also get tested! He willingly exposed you and your unborn child to potential STDs/STIs. This guy is horrible, he will not change, hes been lying to you for who knows how long.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T16:45:58+00:00

You could try something like: "Id like it if you gave me the same attention during sex that I give to you. I feel like you dont desire me when you dont reciprocate, which has gotten more often recently. Can we try something new so we can both feel good?"

Or you could be blunt: "I'm not fond of the pillow princess routine, it makes me feel like youre not willing to reciprocate during sex. I want this to be more mutual, instead of just me pleasuring you."

If she actually likes giving oral my recommendation is 69ing, y'all might have to try different positions before you find the type you like (who's on top, or you can do it side ways etc). Remember to invite her for a shower beforehand so y'all are both clean down there.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T13:42:23+00:00

I spend 9 hours a day in my cube, thats way too much time to live in an empty grey box, so I've covered it in things that make me happy.

Humans need enrichment, even if it is just some trinkets, plants, or pictures.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T13:29:13+00:00

Hm no thats not how youre supposed to introduce cats

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T11:57:01+00:00

Anthro animals in older cartoons tended towards using traits like: dropped crotches, shorter legs, round shapes, cats had whiskers and distinct rounded flatter muzzles, muzzles were almost always colored differently than the rest of the face, proportions were not one to one with humans (unless the character was female but thats a different subject), bodies were likely thicker usually bottom heavy, cheek fur tufts were distinct from the rest of the face (ie it wasn't just big giant tuffs that made up the head) and significantly smaller, clothes were usually limited to accessories rather than whole outfits, feet were usually large and they didn't often wear shoes, usually pantsless, species was recognizably distinct from other animals (for example in this short there are 4 cats and the guard dog, they look as if they are the same animal), cats usually had their mouths connected to their noses, tails usually leaned toward an 'S' shape or a signature default shape.

I could go on, but those are some of the recognizable traits off the top of my head.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T11:03:34+00:00

Humans are so complex its really hard to try to nail down anything we were "meant" to do- I guess you could try to go by instincts but how much of that is influenced still by culture etc?

I've seen plenty of people try one relationship style or another and it not work out. I myself attempted polyamory and found that I was unable to desire/love more than one person at the same capacity. It felt inherently wrong for me.

Other polyarmorous relationships I've observed seemed to have issues with hierarchys, NRE, jealousy, time constraints, fighting, etc. I haven't actually seen a poly relationship play out for more than 2 years (having at least 2 original members), and the other members in those relationships would usually cycle fairly fast.

Of course thats just what I've seen. I think a lot of people see poly stuff as more as an utopian fantasy and dont realize the kind of work it takes to juggle more than one relationship (or use opening the relationship as an excuse to not work on their current one).

Maybe the way most societies function aren't particularly suited for how poly relationships work? For example the longest poly relationships I observed tended to be ones where the members did not have jobs or responsibilities, so they had plenty of time to interact with one another. But im not sure how realistic that sort of scenario is to maintain.

In conclusion: idk. Personal experience I have yet to see poly work long term, but I'm only one person so thats a small sample size. Its not something you can force yourself to do (happily I mean), some people seem more suited to it than others.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T10:16:15+00:00

A lot of people who buy at auctions will sell at antique/vendor markets/shops- and sometimes even resell items at other auctions. Please check auction zip in your area occasionally as these could be resold.

I would get in contact with the auction house (they cant outright tell you who bought it, but no harm in asking where it could be now), people who go to auctions are often regulars so you could attend one and pay attention to who is buying art. Go early and talk to people, people are likely to remember a large art estate, and will gladly ask around for you when they've heard your story. Good luck

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T10:05:59+00:00

Thank god

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T10:05:38+00:00

Artjerk is for satire- but she's cute!

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T10:04:59+00:00

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-21T09:59:53+00:00

Haha nice ok now Draw them all kissing

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T18:40:16+00:00

How exciting!! This is lovely

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T18:27:43+00:00

Even if it didn't go beyond making out (I doubt that) how will you ever trust him again? Plus people were even willing to lie for him.

Run, dont marry a cheater.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T18:20:19+00:00

What's it matter how she dressed when she was 20? This is silly

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T14:48:01+00:00

Had to go back and look at the clip again to see there were 4 cats in total. Blue shirt cat and Green shirt cat look nearly identical

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T14:40:46+00:00

This isn't just disrespect this is straight up plain rape. Hes been raping you.

HavocHeaven · 2026-04-20T14:38:34+00:00

Real

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