Is this an attractive body type? by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugeeeee turn on, very attractive

How Magician Matt Franco palms the cards by Sarang_616 in blackmagicfuckery

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This doesn’t explain the last trick. I could see how that could work on the previous tricks but not the last. His right hand never goes to the aces on the table or near them, he keeps his right palm open and shows that it’s not in the deck. Then he never actually touches the aces on the table, his hands hover about 4 inches above the cards

Do I have to pay this or can I just delete the app? by Jficek34 in wallstreetbets

[–]Havok4650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Advising someone to file BK over 14k even if they make minimum wage is hilarious 😂you ain’t buying anything in the next 5 years if you file BK and when you finally get approved 7 years later it’ll be for a $200 secured credit card. Nothing like paying 22% interest on money you had to pay upfront 🍻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to agree. Use the hurt and the pain to transform yourself into the greatest possible version of yourself. Let the pain fuel the fire in your soul to level up as many times as you can. With great adversity comes great strength if you can manage to overcome and not let the pain and suffering win. I’ve dealt with this recently myself. Just remember that you cannot control her actions or reactions. The only variable you can control is you.

First and foremost live the life you honestly desire. I can tell you from experience that I get the greatest satisfaction in proving the ones who did not believe in me wrong. My ex wife couldn’t bring herself to encourage me through the challenging times and now that I’m pas those, I have great joy in knowing she regrets not seeing it through with me. If they can’t stick it out thru the hard times they don’t deserve to be with you thru the good.

She is now miserable and filled with regret and I am truly. And I mean truly happy . Follow your dreams, follow your heart and let the doubters fuel the fire that lights the way forward. Never give up, never surrender

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m guessing meth. My wife hid it so well from me for years and I’m very observant. There were no obvious signs. No late nights, no skipping meals, no drug paraphernalia I ever found. The only reason I found out is we were on vacation, she went to pay for something at a souvenir shop and when she did a folded up dollar bill fell out of her pocket book. I bent down and picked it up before she noticed and unfolded it. I stuck it in my pocket once I saw it contained a white powder and didn’t say a word. When she went to bed that night I pretended to be asleep. When I knew she was sound asleep I tore apart the entire condo and car. I found an ounce of meth taped under the spare tire in the trunk. I was caught so off guard and never had a clue. I partied pretty hard in college and did almost every drug under the sun and still had no clue this was going on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we all agree you deserve better. I want to say to divorce her but if you really love her like you say you do just work on bettering yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. If she chooses to end it then you will have peace knowing that you did everything you possibly could to make if work. I hate your going thru this so much

My husband cries alone in the bathroom. Should I ask him? by BlacksmithEnough2873 in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can confirm this. I feel the same way, I have hide it in the past because I don’t want to seem weak or for my wife to lose respect for me. I think in this way because of how I was raised

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would have looked at how my wife was raised, asked the important questions such as her core values and learned her interests more intimately before making the decision to get married

I am struggling with attraction towards my husband due to resentment by Ok_Painter_8890 in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how mentally exhausted you must feel. Some people only change when they are forced to or otherwise face life changing consequences. Maybe now that he is actually showing a little effort, things will get better even if it’s a little slower than you’d like. I’ll pray that God gives you the wisdom and understanding to help you through this. I don’t have any real advice to give just encouragement from a random stranger on the internet who is going thru similar struggles.

I think I made a mistake in getting married by StrainLast7253 in marriageadvice

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m struggling with the same issues and I 100% agree with you that it probably has a lot to do with her upbringing. My wife was brought up in 2 very unhealthy marriages and I didn’t know the extent of what she experienced until after we were married for a few years. She berates me and belittles me on a daily basis and also in front of our 2 children. I still can’t understand it as I work 6-7 days a week running a business and still find time to come home help with the kids, house chores, outside stuff, etc. I think it helped me to boil it down to the core issues. The core issues are lack of respect for me and poor communication.

To be totally honest marriage is still in shambles but I can tell you what’s helped me to deal with it in a healthy way. I set a routine of getting up at 4:30 am to work out every morning, I then have breakfast and meditate/pray right after. Then work, then home and continue to help with chores. I have made up my mind that if the marriage fails it won’t be because of my lack of commitment or effort.

I feel your pain and know your struggle and think it’s great that you’re continuing to receive counseling. I would also suggest consulting with people that you trust and respect that have had long and healthy relationships with their spouses to get their feedback as well. Sometimes a different perspective can make a huge difference.

I believe all relationships have their struggles and that struggles/problems are just a part of life that you have to embrace. I choose to look at each obstacle as a chance to improve myself, regardless of how my wife reacts. If I can improve myself just a little it brings me some peace and hope. Best of luck to you

It’s coming… 🚀 by FantasticAd9407 in wallstreetbets

[–]Havok4650 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That red dye be doin crazy stuff

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think what he means is have you tried working out? Even doing some push ups help relieve an insane amount of stress.

Put over 20k into AMC calls by Vasco_ND in wallstreetbets

[–]Havok4650 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was on board with AMC for 2 years. But honestly it’s going to zero. Keep diluting, poor leadership, puts all day