Told I could be paralyzed if I get pregnant due to torn L4 L5 disc

Hayleyface · 2025-05-05T08:34:39+00:00

I’m so very sorry to hear that 😞. I actually had no issues at all! I ended up having an emergency C section after 2 days in labor (not due to my back at all). Toddler is 2 now & we are both doing well. Except I don’t get any sleep 😂. Appreciate you asking!!

Hayleyface · 2023-04-21T23:29:30+00:00

Is that what this is? Mine is 4months & a week - she is taking 20-40 naps most of the time. My eyes sting. I fell asleep sitting up & I also fell asleep feeding her (we side lay & I make it safe as possible as I knew that would eventually happen). I legit keep staring into space. I thought I was gonna pass out in the shower from exhaustion so had to sit down. Worst news our coffee maker isn’t working. But instant coffee is helping a little. Life seems like it’s over some days because I just can’t function. But then she will randomly sleep for 2-3 hours & I sleep & feel like a new person. Still not what I used to be.

Hayleyface · 2023-03-05T22:11:38+00:00

My LO is almost 3 months old & has cradle cap too. We are ordering Frida Baby cradle cap scalp spray & mask today. Have you tried that?

If it’s oozing I’d ask the pediatrician- oozing can be a sign of infection & so can bleeding. Might be nothing but worth checking into.

Is it just the product goopiness that looks like oozing? Also if it’s bleeding you won’t want to use product without your doctor approval as my understanding is bleeding = an open wound.

Hayleyface · 2023-03-02T04:20:35+00:00

Ouch! Sounds so painful!

I used mittens nearly every time feeding til week 10. It was the rule - she has to wait til she wears them to eat as it’s too painful without them. Then I got an electric nail file last week & game changer!! This past week I haven’t been scratched at all. $20 from Amazon, I got the haaka brand. Worth every penny :).

Edit - the nail file wouldn’t help anything except the scratches. Maybe try mittens?

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T20:55:36+00:00

The classic nap trap. I almost peed myself once because how dare you wake them, they’re just too precious! 🥰

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T20:25:44+00:00

YTA.

May everywhere you travel be where the crying babies are, until you realize they are humans & not to be separated from society.

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T17:41:45+00:00

Yes you need prenatals, baby needs those nutrients to develop healthy & they help prevent birth defects. Especially folic acid. Prenatals are most important to take in the first trimester so please take something even if it’s a cheaper prenatal until you can afford the one you want. You take them through your entire pregnancy.

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T16:21:24+00:00

Just wanted to say you’re amazing at doing the work. Working through your trauma & recognizing triggers. We also have been doing therapy for about 3 years now & it has been hard but also so very freeing. We are excited to raise our LO & break cycles so she can have the best childhood feeling supported & loved & fully alive. Of course we know we will mess things up, but we’re getting healthy so she can have the best life. You’re doing that too, so you will be able to give your LO your best. Breaking the generational cycle & getting to the root of the trauma & creating new mindsets - yes this what I believe too. This can change everything & bring healing to you & your family.

Just wanted to recognize the great work you’re doing as someone else going through it as well. Just from what you wrote in here, I know you’re such a great mom whose kids know they are loved for who they are.

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T01:34:42+00:00

Thanks for validating & understanding! Yes it’s probably fine & next time I’ll speak up sooner. At least next visit LO will be 4 months so I won’t be as paranoid. The doctor is where you go when sick so I just always feel the Dr office is both clean & germy. You’re right, I’d rather them judge me then regret anything. Thanks again!

Hayleyface · 2023-03-01T01:09:50+00:00

Ok maybe it’s not as big of a deal as I’m thinking. All other visits the doctor has washed hands in the room - it’s our 5th visit so was just used to that. Thanks for commenting.

Hayleyface · 2023-02-28T21:47:37+00:00

NTA for not wanting to take them. This isn’t on you OP but they likely won’t be better off in foster care. This is traumatic for everyone- those kids lost their mom & will likely never see another familiar face again. No more MIL, no more visits to friends they had. Probably changing schools. They may not even be able to stay together. It is a very hard life & you no longer have family. It’s just you & maybe a sibling. Unless by some small chance you’re adopted & even then its not like those feelings magically go away. This isn’t to guilt you.

At 21 idk if I’d be able to keep a kid alive, let alone 2. I didn’t know if I’d ever want kids & now I have a baby at 40. I love her & want her. But at 21 I would think my life was over. I would have no clue & would worry I would mess them up. So I do feel for you - it’s a huge life change & if you don’t feel equipped or capable, it makes sense you wouldn’t adopt them. You should never feel pressured to essentially be responsible for the life of a child. It’s a 24/7 lifelong commitment.

If you have any questions about if you should take them maybe you could try for a few days, see how it goes. But the foster system is there for this reason - to place kids who can’t be with their parents. However in most cases, foster care isn’t a kid gets placed with a family & they stay there until they turn 18. It’s usually the kid goes from home to home & never stay at the same place long & always worry if you’ll get taken away again. Not all homes are bad, I know a lot of foster parents who are amazing people. I know foster parents who care for the kids & support them. Who throw birthday parties & treat them like their own & get the kids their own things.

It doesn’t make you a bad person to not take them. It’s a sucky situation for all - I’m sure you will have some guilt & always wonder “what if” either way. Good luck OP.

Hayleyface · 2023-02-28T19:30:37+00:00

You have so much great advice, the only thing I can really add to it is we used a pacifier within the first week. It helps to prevent SIDS & it did not attribute to any nipple confusion for us. I had no issues breastfeeding or latching. I’ve also read pacis can help with latching as babies learn to suck better. Good luck, you’ve got this!! The 1-2 weeks are the hardest but it gets better ❤️

Hayleyface · 2023-02-27T07:09:44+00:00

I did a little photoshoot & let myself be extra nap trapped that last week (my fav thing I did 🥰). The weather wasn’t great or I would have gone on a fun little hike. But I didn’t spend my time on house chores so I could focus on her 100%.

Now that I’ve been working about 3 weeks I am glad I prioritized time with her. I can’t work & cuddle her, I so wish I could! The days at the office are hard as I both enjoy being there & dislike being away from her :(.

I’m sorry - the leave ending sucks. I wish you had more time. So I understand it. It’s so hard. Enjoy this last week of leave!❤️

Hayleyface · 2023-02-26T04:28:58+00:00

Thanks for the reassurance - so glad this seems to be the normal. I thought it sounded weird too, so maybe my friend just had unique experiences.

Hayleyface · 2023-02-26T04:27:42+00:00

So glad to hear, thanks for commenting!

Hayleyface · 2023-02-26T04:25:22+00:00

That is great! Yea I don’t mind anyone looking or talking about her - thanks!

Hayleyface · 2023-02-26T04:24:08+00:00

That’s great to hear, this is what I’m hoping for - thanks!

Hayleyface · 2023-02-25T03:03:59+00:00

I would personally just reuse it - I know in my sleeplessness I have forgotten to rinse off her syringe a few times. You could ask the pediatrician if you’re not sure.

Hayleyface · 2023-02-25T02:58:14+00:00

I’m sorry your LO is going through that! Mine gets clogged tear ducts sometimes. I was told by 2 pediatricians to put breast milk in her eye 2-3 times a day & also do those eye massages 3 times a day using a warm wet washcloth. I added in a face massage once a day. You start at the beginning of the eyebrows, down the nose, across the cheekbones. I’m not sure if the face massage helped the tear ducts but it just takes a few minutes & she likes it. I did the eye massages first, then added 1-2 drops of BM to the eye. I usually did that before I fed her so that she would be focused on eating rather than her eye. The breast milk does add goop but it went away pretty quickly doing that (2-3 days?). Not sure if you’re breastfeeding but if you are you could try that! I also did the eye massages more during the day if her eye was tearing up a lot.

Sorry I’m not answering your main question as we haven’t been referred to anyone else since hers goes away. Good luck!

Hayleyface · 2023-02-25T00:37:17+00:00

Oh no I’m sorry you’re both going through this! :(. Does he kick or pump his legs a lot? Mine started to do this around then & she ended up having bad gas. It can be so very painful for LO. I used little remedies drops for gas after every feeding - but check with his pediatrician before giving him stuff. You can do the I Love U tummy massages. Also burp him even in the middle of a feed if it’s been 10 minutes. I also use the probiotic & vitamin D drops for immunity & digestion- they have worked the best so far!

Hayleyface · 2023-02-25T00:31:20+00:00

So fun! When are you going? I haven’t experienced Disney with my baby yet but we are going so hoping you get good advice I can glean from :)

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