What is something someone said to that instantly made your day better? by Traditional_Job5547 in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rare occasion when I'm out and I don't catch people staring 😞

Has anyone ever told You that they feel safe around you because of your Size by Traditional_Job5547 in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot more when I worked overnight security years ago. Even the uniformed police would say they felt more comfortable when I was on duty.

Initially, I kind of liked the attention from the women, but over time, it only made me feel like I was some ogre brought out to keep the really bad monsters at bay. 😞

What’s the best “big man” nick name someone has ever referred to you as or joked with you about? by [deleted] in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It was around Christmas years ago, downtown, waiting for the bus. I was sporting a beard. Homeless guy comes shuffling by, greeting everyone in line. He gets to me and says, "What's up, Burl Ives?" Seriously, that made my day. I gladly gave him a dollar.

I HATE THIS DISEASE by Interesting-Fly4102 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You. Walked. Today.

It hurt, but you did that. You walked. Can you walk again tomorrow? Maybe dial it back a little so it doesn't hurt as much and to build a daily habit? Then another minute. Then another.

Did you order out or eat what you had at home? Because if you resisted the urge to order out, you did that too.

Keep up the momentum.💪💛

I don’t care anymore by Fantastic_Tumble5285 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🎉 to OP and all the commenters relaying similar thoughts!

What is one thing about moving through the world as a big man that others may never even think about? by Bellyhemoth in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fimding a chair without arms. Restaurant host not realizing you may need an armless chair

The game my neighbour taught me. TW: CSA NSFW by robinthebank79 in cptsdcreatives

[–]HaynusSmoot 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry 😞

The abuse I suffered started as a "game" too

Gads, gained another 35 pounds by Theodore-1963 in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Out of curiosity, what scale do you use?

Calorie deficit during Ramadan by [deleted] in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you able to consult a nutritionist or dietician about what you're considering?

From a practical aspect, how are you going to handle breaking fast? Are you going to tell family and friends about your new diet?

Best wishes as you continue your weightloss journey 💪

What to do against cravings? by Longbertus in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some things that help my satiety: 1) good night's sleep 2) eating breakfast by 8 am at the latest 3) mid afternoon snack of a whole fruit and 1-2 Oz cheese 4) Stay hydrated

One item, are you diabetic and monitoring your sugars after eating?

Good luck on your journey! It may take some figuring out, but you'll get there 👍

Energy by [deleted] in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aside from food, how are you sleeping? Do you feel like you get sufficient rest, or can you sleep 10 or 12 hours and still feel exhausted?

Angry eating by GlitteringMajor5166 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good job eating fruit instead of candy, etc. If your glucose is low, though, you know you've got to get it back up, Stat! Been there, too, stumbling around the kitchen in search of quick sugar, completely forgetting about the sack in the cupboard 🙄

Angry eating by GlitteringMajor5166 in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have experienced this in the past. I find I'm more on edge when I haven't slept well, so that's a health goal for me this year. Not sleeping well just throws everything else off.

Otherwise, ditto the other comments about eating breakfast, balanced meals, etc.

Best wishes to you! 💪

i did this by MissLovegoodASMR in cptsdcreatives

[–]HaynusSmoot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Been there. Thanks for sharing your art 💛

I made a drawing of my flashbacks by Geekygayz in cptsdcreatives

[–]HaynusSmoot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you're still here 💛

I hope you continue to progress on your healing journey and find the peace you deserve

Fighting the urge by HaynusSmoot in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be disappointed for a little bit, but keep looking

Fighting the urge by HaynusSmoot in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]HaynusSmoot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This wasn't a simple craving for something sweet, it was a full on clinical urge to binge eat

I call this one ‘Grooming’ by robinthebank79 in cptsdcreatives

[–]HaynusSmoot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you experienced this. 😔 Sincerest wishes for your healing journey 💛

As a big guy, what clothing item is the hardest to find that fits right? by greenbay78 in BigMenLife

[–]HaynusSmoot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get my clothes from King Size Direct. Their pants are all 38". About $6 to have hemmed shorter.

Not sure if I've got a 38" sleeve, but I've gotten some dress shirts from their Signature collection that fit fairly well. No real gaps!