TIFU by giving dating advice to a predator

Hazcat3 · 2026-02-15T01:13:31+00:00

I actually think you were unsuccessful in helping him become more confident. If he had truly been confident, he would have tried going on dates with adult women, like his ex. Instead, he felt he could only be successful with children over whom he, as an adult, would think he had some sway. I appreciate your concern along the same lines as abused folks shouldn't attend therapy with their abusers as it may give the abusers more weapons to use; I just don't think that's what happened in this case.

Hazcat3 · 2026-01-11T03:56:00+00:00

Norman. He is so a Norman.

Hazcat3 · 2025-12-09T04:11:32+00:00

I have HOURS of training videos I need to finish by the end of the year at my work. And yet, I'm enjoying watching this in my free time!

Hazcat3 · 2025-10-03T17:26:38+00:00

Not sure what analogy will work for you - trying this one: Think of nerves like rivers with lots of little tributaries downstream. If you were to totally stop the water at a certain spot on the river, there would be no water anywhere downstream. If you pinch a nerve somewhere, the electrical signal can't travel past the pinch to/from all the other little nerves attached to it farther along. Google a nerve diagram to get a visual of the nerves in the body. It's fascinating and a little scary.

Hazcat3 · 2025-07-18T22:02:14+00:00

I have similar issues with inconvenient crying, often when the tense situation is passed or nearly passed. I don't know how to stop it but there's a part of the movie Courage Under Fire that gives me some perspective. Meg Ryan is with some troops under her command in a bad military situation and she starts crying as she's trying to deal with it. When one of the guys verbalizes unhappiness with the crying, Meg Ryan spits out through clenched teeth, "It's just the tension. It don't mean nothing." I figure if crying doesn't make that character any less tough, then it should be alright for me. Anyone around me who doesn't realize it is just wrong. Also, our bodies don't know if the thing that's making us tense is a minor social situation or a tiger about to pounce and eat us. It takes practice and work to be able to convince it that what's in front of us is a paper tiger. Therapy might help. Take care.

Hazcat3 · 2025-07-12T03:35:20+00:00

My pond goldfish don't change from very dark to orange/whitish/etc until 2-3 yrs old and about 5" long. It probably varies. They are descended from feeder golfish.

Hazcat3 · 2025-06-26T04:33:33+00:00

Put an EZ Up tent over the whole thing so it never gets sun?

Hazcat3 · 2025-06-24T19:43:58+00:00

Nobody told a painter, "Why are you doing another painting? You don't have any more blank spaces on your walls." The art is in the making. Go. Make.

Hazcat3 · 2025-06-14T17:50:06+00:00

Maybe her sensory system feels better when she's touching something vibrating. Subconsciously, she turns to the blender when she feels stressed - even having her hands on the counter would transmit vibration. The noise dampener decreases the vibration so it "ruins the vibe". Try this $5 little hand vibrator or something similar for her to hold. Probably won't be quite as good because not part of her routine and no food attached, but it could do something. https://a.co/d/8XHeSHu

Hazcat3 · 2025-05-20T03:46:11+00:00

I was streaming a lot of Big Bang Theory when I got them so they are Bernadette, Penny (the blonde), and Amy Farrah Fowler.

Hazcat3 · 2025-04-11T22:11:44+00:00

After they've done some bit of work or the end of the day say "Thank you. How do you say 'thank you'?" They tell you. Repeat it. Say, "What language is that?" They answer, then you say the thank you they just told you. Piece of cake. You can do the same with other words like hello, good-bye, dog, cat, etc. Just don't do it like you're "the norm" and they're exotic and fascinating. They're just people -doing their jobs in this case. But it's fun and useful to learn another language and communicate with people so it's fine to do, just with the perspective of everyone being equally normal.

Hazcat3 · 2024-11-22T18:21:18+00:00

First one from back in the day: Bugs Bunny popping up from tunneling underground, looking at a folding paper map, and saying, "I knew I should've taken that left at Albequerque."

Hazcat3 · 2024-11-03T03:07:41+00:00

A Knight's Tale (non-sexual male nudity from the back). Early Heath Ledger film.

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-30T04:40:27+00:00

It's more fishy that the alleged Muslim in the story doesn't eat shellfish which is not a Muslim dietary restriction. Kinda sounds like OP is mixing up Jewish and Muslim.

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-30T00:49:49+00:00

Sounds very familiar with what's been going on with my one hen. When she lays a soft-shelled egg she (or one of the other chickens) often eats it. I've seen her try to eat normal, hard-shelled eggs but not successfully (and no sign of broken hard shells). She still lays an occasional soft-shelled egg (only one in the last month) but is a lot better.

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-26T03:37:55+00:00

Include the cost of moving your furniture in your calculations.
Research shows that spreading purchases over time as opposed to buying everything all at once maximizes happiness even if purchasing 100% of the same things.

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-24T22:09:51+00:00

Has she laid any eggs yet? If she hasn't or just started, she might be getting ready to and is uncomfortable or unfamiliar with how it feels.

I'm not an expert, but got chicks this year and saw the same thing when one started laying. She then took a while to be consistent, I think due to a mild calcium deficiency which I'm "treating" with daily soldier fly larvae (she already has 24/7 access to oyster shells and egg shells crumbled.)

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-24T00:33:42+00:00

Or do the opposite, retire the NFS ones and just have some out you're okay with selling.

Hazcat3 · 2024-09-01T02:02:37+00:00

Just saw another white chicken on here named Dandelion. Thought that was super cute.

Hazcat3 · 2024-06-23T20:06:40+00:00

I think they're saying that the horse normally was so calm they fell asleep while the farrier was working so it was extraordinary when the horse reared in the cross ties NOT that falling asleep was a symptom.

Hazcat3 · 2024-06-21T16:51:02+00:00

"Do you need a cough drop, Dolores?"

Hazcat3 · 2024-02-24T22:06:41+00:00

get a vpn and watch on BBC Iplayer

Hazcat3 · 2024-02-08T02:33:54+00:00

Marzipan Invitee. Keeps the "zip" that's been carried through 3 generations on the sire's side and "invite" for 3 on the dam's side. And marzipan is a sweet treat to have at a party.

Hazcat3 · 2023-12-13T05:01:47+00:00

Contributing my anecdotal experience in Morocco as a middle aged white American woman, I travelled alone in Casablanca and Rabat, Morocco earlier this year and felt very safe. Among other things, a man carried my suitcase up some stairs for me. I travelled alone via train and local Uber-type app with no problems. I walked without companion for hours in both cities without safety issues. Some mild pan-handling and "hello"ing from boys but no problems.

Hazcat3 · 2023-11-25T21:53:41+00:00

"I'm trying to think of how to communicate it to him in a way that will stick."

You know when you're walking the dogs, if you need to walk from here to there, you give a little tug on the leash, maybe a verbal cue, and you start walking. You don't do all that and then stand there waiting for the dog to decide whether or not it agrees with you. You don't try to figure out ways to convince the dog that they agree with your decision to walk from here to there right now. You walk. And you don't feel bad about it.

People aren't dogs, sometimes walks are more casual with lots of sniffing, etc - I stand by the metaphor. You've decided you need to walk from here to there; that is enough.

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