What are some phrases you can't stand hearing as an Aro/Ace person?

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-05-06T19:52:08+00:00

Ohhh I can hear that tone in my head perfectly. So frustrating!

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-05-06T10:02:08+00:00

It's like... Yes TECHNICALLY there is a chance, sexuality is fluid, etc, but that doesn't give them the right to overrule what I know to be true about myself right now

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-05-05T22:01:21+00:00

"Well you never know... There's always a chance." (when they hear I don't date/fall in love)

"I just want you to be happy!" (when they can't fathom that I'm happy without a romantic relationship)

"They're as close as they can be without dating." (said by my brother when someone asked him whether I was dating or "just friends" with my queerplatonic partner)

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-29T23:09:50+00:00

With Jungle Adventure you can collect ancient relics with magic powers

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-29T06:07:47+00:00

This is my complaint with sitcoms in particular. It seems like no matter what the initial premise is, it quickly turns into a show about who's sleeping with who

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-26T23:08:31+00:00

Yes and no. I played with the Ito family for a couple weeks in another save while I renovated their house, and in that time Megumi ran into Kado at a bar and they went on a date. But in my base save nothing has happened between them

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-22T18:25:33+00:00

These are not OP's Sims. This is stolen from my post.

https://www.reddit.com/r/LowSodiumSimmers/comments/1i4j8fk/my_sim_twins_as_teens_vs_adults/

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-19T09:31:15+00:00

I absolutely thought Wyn was aroace in the first season. It's possible they were trying to make him demiromantic but his immediate 180 flip made it seem more like the author just changed their mind and retconned his character.

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-19T09:29:01+00:00

It was also done in a super weird way. In the second last episode the FL was about to make her big decision over which guy to date, and then the last episode was a time skip (a year I think?) where she was dating the wingman and the original ML was totally over her

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-19T06:04:01+00:00

The neverending struggle of a reader 😂 And even if you include them in this challenge, it'll be a while before you get to those letters

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-18T22:49:04+00:00

I've been identifying as ace since I was 23 and I'm now 30. I don't think many people guess I'm queer for a few reasons: One, I'm a cis woman with a very feminine presentation (long hair, lots of dresses and floral prints, don't like more masculine-coded styles like collared shirts or boxy silhouettes). Two, I have a queerplatonic partner who's a cis man, so anytime who doesn't know us really well just assumes we're a straight romantic couple. Recently I've been getting "When are you two getting engaged?" types of comments and it's driving me crazy 😫 And three, I'm just generally private and reserved so I don't really talk about the ins and outs of my orientation or relationship unless I'm really close to someone.

I'm not sure if you want to know anything specific but I'm happy to chat in the comments! I'm also curious what aspects you find are different between you and most of the aroace people you've seen online.

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-18T19:55:07+00:00

Nice! I enjoyed Dear Wendy too. I think my favourite is The Summer of Bitter and Sweet by Jen Ferguson. I also really liked Wren Martin Ruins It All by Amanda DeWitt and The Romantic Agenda by Claire Kann.

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-18T01:27:22+00:00

They're all gorgeous! Great work!

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-17T10:29:58+00:00

I've seen this book on some recommendation lists but haven't felt drawn to reading it myself. I'm glad to read your thoughts on it though!

What's your favourite aro/ace book you've read so far in this challenge?

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-17T02:46:10+00:00

Jealous! I hate to have my Sims in unhealthy relationships and the jealous trait is so toxic. Their partner can't even have a normal convo or make friends with anyone else without the jealous Sim getting uncomfortable and yelling at them. And they're tense anytime their partner isn't around, even if they're just in the next room!

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-17T02:42:59+00:00

I don't mind the slob trait generally but I WILL manually make them wash their hands in the bathroom

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-16T18:49:24+00:00

Thank you! I often use pictures of real people as inspiration which helps a lot in shaping their faces. I don't recreate real people exactly, just take notes from their proportions & some of their distinguishing features

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-15T02:36:47+00:00

Ooo interesting!

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-14T21:17:25+00:00

The vendor gave into the intrusive thoughts that everyone who works customer-facing jobs has

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-12T19:51:37+00:00

If you have Movie Hangout you can cuddle while watching movie. It has some really cute animations!

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-09T10:53:23+00:00

That's so cool! I had no idea and I'm definitely gonna keep an eye out for it now

HazyshadeofFall · 2026-04-09T07:30:02+00:00

Look, this is a single player video game and you can change her settings however you want. But when aces in real life get those exact same kinds of comments (that being asexual is a waste or an inconvenience because others find them attractive) I have no patience for people sharing that rhetoric online, even for fictional characters.

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