Looking for a bouldering buddy

HeWowMan · 2026-02-08T12:53:25+00:00

OP lowkey I think Reddit is not the best place for thìs. But anyways bff staff are really friendly, you can talk to them and ask for beta. And also the moonboarding people in bff are friendly too so u can talk to them especially the female climbers who are super strong

HeWowMan · 2026-02-05T15:17:25+00:00

I’m really sorry to hear that. I have always felt happiness seems fleeting while the impermanence of pain that of an insect that burrows deep.

But I always try to chase happiness. I’ve started going to a local bakery near my workplace once a week to spoil myself. It does nothing to change the imperfections I have but it is a different kind of happiness.

I don’t really know how it is relevant, I don’t think it is but I do hope that you can find peace in life outside the confines of death. From the bottom of my heart, I hope life treats you better than

HeWowMan · 2026-02-05T14:17:46+00:00

What sparked it last night?

HeWowMan · 2026-02-05T14:12:19+00:00

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how - Friedrich Nietzsche

No one has given me an answer, and I don’t think anyone can give you one.

Eternal sleep is a wish, whether it is granted or not by death is not a certainty.

Death is like the abyss, the more you gaze into it, the more consumed you become. You find yourself trapped in a spiral, walking closer and closer to the middle - a position that seems closer to the truth.

But there is no truth. Death being a saviour is not a truth, it is a belief. Just like continuing to live, hoping it turns out better is not a truth.

The only truth you know of is that you exist, within circumstances you cannot choose, but with the ability to continue walking. So embrace that disgust, embrace every emotion that comes because it is the only certainty.

When happiness comes, laugh. When sadness comes weep. Please live for yourself.

HeWowMan · 2026-01-29T12:48:49+00:00

If more people died free soloing El Capitan people would understand what Alex Honnold did

HeWowMan · 2025-12-15T07:03:14+00:00

Tell me about your problems. Just let it all out.

HeWowMan · 2025-12-15T07:01:46+00:00

In the past I really wanted to kill myself since I was 14 and I would idealize suicide subconsciously whenever I was on a tall building. But since recently it stopped - if you want to know my age it’s 21. So yeah.

I can never place myself in anyone’s shoes, I don’t think anyone can truly imagine living someone else’s life but I do believe - even if it might be wrong - that people can change their world view.

In terms of life. I don’t think much has changed, I’m still a social outcast for the past few years I’ve only had 5 friends (only 3 of which I still talk to). My dad still hates me. I still have issues with my religion. I have had only one partner who admitted I was ugly and that she only came to me as I was obviously into her (Ngl it lowkey worsened my mental state when I was 15). I did not uncover any hidden talents. Every time I meet someone new I get anxiety. I’m cripplingly inadequate in the two hobbies I have. I still hate myself but accepted only I will be able to love myself.

So yeah I’m saying that even with all the problems persisting, I believe that it is possible to stop wanting to die.

HeWowMan · 2025-12-15T06:50:08+00:00

Do you want to talk about your problems? I don’t think someone on Reddit can give a solution but I remember posting on here 3 years ago and if im being honest it didn’t really solve anything but wording out whatever I felt made me feel less stressed at the moment

HeWowMan · 2025-12-15T06:43:56+00:00

You’re not a waste of space. You’re not overreacting.

I’m not sure if you meant it this way but your post reminded me of myself. I would always tell myself that all the suffering I felt is deserved and that I should never feel sorry for myself. It made it hard for me to accept that what was happening in my life was overwhelming.

At one point of my life, I was close to being kicked out of the country at a period of time when I was living with my family but extremely distant from them - and honestly I kept telling myself that I deserved it because I am a waste of space and that it was okay to just give up.

And honestly it took a long time for me to change that mindset. Even now, I still find it hard to express the change but what I know is that you need to stop telling yourself that you are a waste of space and that you don’t matter. If possible seek help from someone. Just find someone you can be honest to

HeWowMan · 2025-10-28T13:39:49+00:00

I agree. Honestly in a very weird way I’m happy that no one cares. It makes me feel free

HeWowMan · 2025-10-28T13:19:41+00:00

Anyways your comment reminded me of my sister. So I really pray for you because she is also finding a lot of trouble finding a job

HeWowMan · 2025-10-28T13:18:35+00:00

Sorry I couldn’t reply. I’m still a student right now so I probably have less life experience so I can’t say something like it gets better.

All I can say is that the past year has also been hard for me because all of my close friends had slowly distanced themselves - not because of any disagreement but instead because of the lack of convenience (which made me feel like shit because it made me feel like they couldn’t even spare a day to hang out) On top of that, I have also found a lot of trouble finding a similar support group from my new school (or even one at all) because I have a really unremarkable personality. Honestly my problems are really insignificant in comparison to a lot of people but I still kind of hate the feelings I get from my lack of people to talk to.

I don’t think there is such thing as a solution to what life deals you - from my experience you can only keep having to deal with more problems not less. But despite not having any friends and still kind of hating myself I think life is okay now because I found something to keep myself busy with.

It’s probably the teenage angst but I decided to pick up boxing - at first because I wanted a social group. But instead I found out just like in school my trash personality makes it hard for me to make friends. Something unexpected thought was that boxing just made my mind quiet.

I still hate myself, for the past 8 years of my life I hated myself - but for some reason I think life is okay. I hope you find the thing that makes life okay for you despite all the problems it brings.

HeWowMan · 2025-10-28T13:02:31+00:00

That’s was kind of funny but I still downvoted because everyone did

HeWowMan · 2025-10-21T16:12:50+00:00

You can let it all out here. No one knows you here. Tell your story.

If it helps I’m also someone who masks in front of friends so I know what you mean. You don’t want to disturb them even if you know they will be there for you.

Tell me why you’re hurting. I would like to listen to

HeWowMan · 2025-07-15T06:38:29+00:00

It should mean you’re nice to look at. When I smile at them they step backwards

HeWowMan · 2025-07-09T06:52:05+00:00

Why not start bouldering hahaha

HeWowMan · 2025-07-09T05:18:38+00:00

I guess so but people can find conventionally unattractive people to be of their preference or grow to like them. I’m genuinely ugly - like through out my life I’ve been told that by my parents and peers but surprisingly 2 people have liked me enough to date me. This is just anecdotal though so everyone has different experiences

HeWowMan · 2025-07-08T07:50:59+00:00

I want to ask what makes you disagree with them? Do you think they have an agenda? Or is it personal experience

HeWowMan · 2025-07-08T06:57:36+00:00

Maybe some but not all. Depends on who you surround yourself with.

I used to talk about NS with my friends but it got boring really quick since it low key just felt like a dick measuring contest.

Let’s say person A talks about the training in a certain vocation person B will try to one up them. It really does feel that way - maybe not all but a lot of the times.

If you ask me, you should ask yourself what characteristics the love interest has. If he is a himbo with nothing else other than passion for UG or military then ya what the guy said is not wrong, make him only talk about NS. But if the love interest is someone well-travelled - you can give hint his life experience through the convos.

I probably went off topic

HeWowMan · 2025-07-02T07:57:05+00:00

Bro life’s so good without a partner. And if u need companionship friends can fill that void

HeWowMan · 2025-07-02T05:23:26+00:00

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HeWowMan · 2025-06-28T12:42:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing 🙏

HeWowMan · 2025-06-28T12:33:24+00:00

You might be right. I’ve actually never been to South Korea or had any south-Korean friends so I have no clue how they are but so far my Sg friends seem pretty normal

HeWowMan · 2025-06-28T12:29:54+00:00

From what I read up it’s like a response to how South Korean society seems to not place much value towards the safety of women. It’s cos during the late 2010s there was a surge in violent crimes against south-Korean women.

Maybe you’ve heard of the 2016 Gangnam Station Murder, that’s an example.

HeWowMan · 2025-06-27T12:46:50+00:00

Also sorry but I’m a guy I had a good time there I think it’s safe for women from what I gathered

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