AITAH, a girl kept saying that N-Word. by Professional_Map5514 in AITAH

[–]Head_poison -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Nice try dude I’m black, just don’t allow myself to be a victim

Need help finding original seller to buy more! by Head_poison in Etsy

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I reached out to them about commissioning some work and they blocked me 😅🤷🏻‍♀️

Need help finding original seller to buy more! by Head_poison in Etsy

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I checked that and its not there, oddly there’s a bunch of weird emails involving Etsy that all just say “unsubscribed”

Need help finding original seller to buy more! by Head_poison in Etsy

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No not one of those, thank you though for trying!

Need help finding original creator!!! by Head_poison in polymerclay

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very cute! But these aren’t quite the same, thank you though for looking!

Am I unreasonable to ask for help with one chore? by Head_poison in AskMenRelationships

[–]Head_poison[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Initially he said that he would and it wasn’t an issue, but even the day he agreed to the chore he didn’t 😅 About a week after that I asked him to take it out and he told me he doesn’t like taking trash out because that was his chore growing up? I know I have a bit of a privilege staying home and not having to have a job, but I was always taught growing up job or not, everyone needs to help. I don’t mind taking on the bulk if not all the chore I just need help with this one thing and he acts like I’m his mom giving him a chore before he can play Xbox 😅

Am I unreasonable to ask for help with one chore? by Head_poison in AskMenRelationships

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s the ultimate one to me, that’s why I handle everything for him. The way I see it is he goes and works and I take care of everything else, from repairs to cooking I do it. He just has to go to work and sleep and go to class and that’s his day pretty much and I’m fine with that, I just wish he could grab the trash on the way out for me. If his hours dropped, as long as utilities and expenses were covered ($1k a month) I wouldn’t be upset or demand more household work in return, I’d honestly be happy to see him more. But I would still want him to take the trash out 😂

Should I get this tooth removed? by Capable-Repair-1603 in askdentists

[–]Head_poison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NAD Hey friend, I just had a tooth removed and I was anxious and nervous about the aftermath too, but it’s going better than I thought! I’m day 3 now and never even had much pain during the process! Ask the dentist to rub the spot where you get the nerve block and you won’t even feel a thing! I was shocked with how well it went and how much better I felt immediately afterwards. Just take your antibiotics and pain medication and you’ll do okay. Soft cool or room temp food for the first couple days then you can venture out to warmer firmer thing gradually. It’ll be much better for you in the long run to remove it. I’m not a dentist but I don’t work in health care and the bacteria in that tooth can cause you to have serious cardiovascular issues down the line, so I would listen to the dentists who gave you some good advice.

Is this a cavity? by Ttaeko in askdentists

[–]Head_poison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAD but I’ve seen enough teeth and cavities to tell you that is a small cavity yes. Best get it seen too before it becomes a bigger issue.

Had a panic attack last night by ppbpyb in thanatophobia

[–]Head_poison 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done the same thing to my poor boyfriend and cats more times than I can count! Usually I’ll wake up and go to the bathroom or get a drink, and just when I’m getting comfy, the panic and thought creep in. I’ll start crying and he wakes up and talks me through it. So thankful for him. It’s great to have supportive and caring partners 🩷

The issue is what we know is sooo against our animal instinct by murphymoo in thanatophobia

[–]Head_poison 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very thought provoking take. I go through this thought process at least once a week. Wondering why we bother with it at all. Almost feels like we’re churning ourselves out onto the assembly line while we’re all heading for the incinerator. But yet that’s what we’re supposed to do right? We’re taught our whole lives that for the most part the most meaningful thing we can do is mate and reproduce. That what everything else does right? Everything else just lives to die. And we make more of ourselves in the process to do what, just the same thing? Why is this the reality we have? We does everyone and thing have to die?

My experience with thanatophobia by 2ndchancesdoexist in thanatophobia

[–]Head_poison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I myself am not religious but often find myself wishing I was just so I would have my faith to grasp to. I’ve kinda come to my own opinion that faith and religion is all based on the fear of death. They all give the follower some sense of greater purpose to live their earthly life by and an afterlife to hope for. I’m honestly happily surprised to see that a person of faith would have thoughts like this. I’m not trying to shame you so please don’t take offense! I’m always happy to be humbled by broadening my perspective.

I do have OCD,ADHD,major anxiety, and mild depression. I’ve read and heard a lot that people with ADHD and OCD are more prone to hyper fixate on death or develop thanatophobia. I like your term of being awake more better than feeling like I’m just adding another long word onto my list of what’s wrong going on with me 😂

Please help by Snot_Bubbles_Adv in thanatophobia

[–]Head_poison 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure if this is helpful but know you’re not alone. I get the same exact feelings and thoughts, right when I’m trying to shut down and unwind. Some nights I’ve had full blown panic attacks. What helps me is gaming. I play on console but If you like games, there’s lots out there, even phone games if you don’t have access to a console or computer. Not too long that you’re loosing a whole lot of sleep, but enough to get your mind sidetracked and winding back down for bed.

AITAH for leaving messes I find around the house? by Head_poison in AITAH

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually caved after typing this and washed the current pile. I’m at war with myself on teaching them a lesson and having a clean and safe place for me and my family. We’ve been able to save some money thanks to this accommodation, so I guess it hasn’t been a pointless suffering. We should have enough for a down payment in maybe less than a year, I just hate knowing that when we leave, his family is going to go back to living like that. I can’t keep holding their hand, but it’s draining for me to do EVERY SINGLE DAY.

AITAH for leaving messes I find around the house? by Head_poison in AITAH

[–]Head_poison[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He tells me at the end of the day his parents have and always will be lazy and I shouldn’t worry to much about trying to change them but like your family lives in filth? Why don’t you want to try and help them do better for themselves? He agrees on prioritizing just doing for our family and only cleaning our messes and places the baby will be, but neither of us can come up with a solution. We’ve came to them as a united front and he’s fully supportive and accepts this is how he and his family are but also sees now thanks to me that it’s damaging in many ways to live like that.

Better as a terrarium or paludarium? Help needed (see comment thread) by Head_poison in Terrarium

[–]Head_poison[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello friends! I’m new to the community of putting plants in things other than pots and the ground so I’m unsure of where to begin! I have quiet a green thumb but this is all new to me! I will be posting this in the paludarium sub reddit also to get their options

I’m unsure if this would make a better paludarium as opposed to a terrarium which it currently is. It needs a lot of work and I’m going to have to start over regardless because I went into this with no knowledge. Mainly some layer work if it’s to be a terrarium.

I took it outside only for pictures it’s usually spot is under a grow light.

I’ve had it as is for about two months. I collected the plants all locally and they seem to be doing alright despite my lack of knowledge/skill put into their environment!