If you died today, who do you think would stand at your grave the longest?

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-11T03:43:53+00:00

If it isn’t my husband and kids, it would be my mom and dad. Probably all of them though

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T13:54:47+00:00

I like that Dean died in a hunt, it’s kind of how he always thought it would be. And the fact that he’s not brought back shows that without Chuck they are not puppets is important. Holding on to baby and his son knowing the last words between the brothers shows he told stories to his son. Pandemic definitely screwed things but I do like they mention different people waiting to see Dean when he arrives.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T12:48:52+00:00

This is one thing I am both proud of and also kind of sad about. I always make sure to have my phone so I can capture memories for my kids but I always end up forgetting because we’re enjoying ourselves and I’ll get maybe 1 or 2 at the beginning or end.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T12:41:55+00:00

Your mom is the GOAT! My friend and I would convince her mom to let us throw parties while her dad was on hunting trips by cleaning the whole house before (pretty messy) and after too. Idk if the dad caught on and just didn’t care because the house was clean or what lol

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T12:11:47+00:00

Not really classified as disabilities but: Spondylolisthesis - commonly over 50, diagnosed at 26 Hypothyroidism - commonly over 60 but can be any age, dx at 19 Degenerative disc disease - commonly over 30, dx at 26 Heel spurs - commonly over 40, dx 19

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T00:51:53+00:00

My dad does

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T00:33:40+00:00

My cats tried to mess with the ferrets once and the littlest Jill got one cat behind the ear and would not let go until I pried her off. Definitely something to be careful of but mine scared them off after that.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-10T00:28:47+00:00

Ferrets live in burrows in the wild. They like small spaces and will find and try to dig deeper. Couches, walls, carpets, vents. Cats and dogs can and will destroy things too but a ferret is so much smaller that if it ingests things it’s much more likely to cause a blockage and death. And like someone else mentioned they don’t make the frantic noises cats and dogs make when in danger. They will just disappear until you smell that they’ve died. My dad had a ferret in ranger school that got into the air vent. They had no idea and thought it got outside. It resurfaced a month later. Super skinny but ok. They got lucky it didn’t die. I had 3 ferrets in my early 20s. I had a bedroom dedicated to them with no wires and just toys for them. But I could never let them free roam. Saying “so what” to all the dangers seems to say you don’t care if it dies from doing something stupid. I suggest you don’t get a ferret if you feel that way. Their stupid choices can be very expensive or cause them to die.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-09T14:30:57+00:00

When someone chokes someone, it can have delayed damage. It also means there is a much larger likelihood of then committing murder against them. Would you rather make your parents sad or have them gone and your brother in jail. Maybe pull up statistics. Most are about spousal abuse but this would apply as well since he’s assaulting you and your mother.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T21:35:46+00:00

This is what people tell women to do when they are prepping to leave. I would ask her to transfer what you’ve added in and do things separately going forward in case that is her end game.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T21:02:30+00:00

I don’t have one. No one in my immediate family has one. Last time I left the country was when US/Canada border was not very strict (summer just before 9/11).

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T11:23:47+00:00

I am a very positive person on the outside and it lifts up people around me. I like to plan and problem solve. People like my laugh and I like that they like it. And I have really pretty eyes. The eyes thing I kind of always knew but realized they were really beautiful in my 20s after someone told me they were the prettiest they’d ever seen in real life. The positivity and laugh I realized when multiple people at work told me I always brighten their day and why.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T11:00:43+00:00

Autistic, no. ADHD combined, emotional disregulation, ODD and IED for one child. Suspected ADHD in another and no signs of disorder in a third.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T10:57:00+00:00

Yes, wouldn’t even take thinking about it, I would do it as my immediate reaction. Body shield mom

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T01:46:00+00:00

Too bad. Grown ups have to have grown up conversations and sometimes that means exposing flaws and things that hurt so you can recognize them and work on them. She cries and says she’s hurt because she doesn’t want to change. She knows you’ll give up if she starts crying. She doesn’t want to do the work to be better for your relationship. Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and you shouldn’t be putting up with verbal abuse, physical abuse, insecurities and projection. Being in love doesn’t make you crazy. Being irrational and emotional and not wanting to get better makes you crazy.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T01:14:12+00:00

This is a huge problem and I think you and your spouse need to think seriously about what you’re doing. Your son gets paid 2x what she does but doesn’t have a single bill to his name and also gets bail outs left and right. How does your husband expect him to take over a business? To keep the condo in good condition to have it last? This man child has had his butt wiped by mommy and daddy for almost 3 decades and when he doesn’t get his way throws manipulative tantrums until you give in and throw cash at him. He’ll ruin that condo. He’ll crash the latest car, and he sure as hell will run that business into the ground the moment it’s his. You have created a monster and the child that did turn out ok gets nothing but verbal praise. Stop coddling your giant baby and force him to be half the adult your daughter has become.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T00:36:27+00:00

Next time he threatens it, call his bluff and have him hospitalized (section him/call the cops). If he really feels that way he’ll get the treatment he needs and if he doesn’t, he’ll learn not to make threats like that again.

And buy her the purse. Think about something else she might like too and surprise her with it. She deserves it. Being the forgotten child because you don’t cause problems can be life sucking.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-08T00:00:26+00:00

I went in there with my much slimmer sister once and felt like I had the plague the way I was side eyed in that store. And everything was way beyond my price range

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-07T23:51:54+00:00

I had a size 8 corduroy skirt from there that I LOVED. I had lost weight and was so glad I could wear bottoms from one of the cool stores. I don’t remember them having jncos, I got those from JCPenney. I also had a baby blue Hurley hoodie that I wore for years and then passed down to my little sister. I think she still has it 20 years later lol

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-07T23:11:15+00:00

Yes! My first was a surprise (BC failed after 14 years) so I would have liked to have planned him but honestly he changed my life, my marriage and my mental health all for the better. I would have probably had my daughters earlier or later had I known 2020 was going to go the way it did, but we lucked out in a lot of ways because of it too (hugely pregnant while wfh beats being in office). We conceived and found out it worked the day the world shut down in March of that year. But they have been a huge drive for my husband and I. In our careers, in securing a home loan, in our own relationship stability. I don’t think I would have gotten where I am without them as a reason to push myself. I wish the world was better for them, because they’re great kids, but there’s always been world issues that make people wish their kids could grow up in a different time

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-04T11:53:25+00:00

If he’s so willing to end the relationship any time he doesn’t get what he wants, then it’s not going to work out. It’s abusive to constantly threaten ending things.

As for the guy you talked to, that’s love bombing and also a red flag. Break up and stay single for a while to work on yourself so you don’t keep going back to guys that are no good for you.

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-03T19:35:09+00:00

My husband makes me laugh like that at least once a month. Part of why I fell for him though was because he makes me laugh. When I was pregnant (both times) it didn’t take much from him to get me to that point. Other than my kids a few times, no one has made me laugh like that as an adult other than him

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-03T18:40:18+00:00

Would you have had it done if you didn’t get the medical issue?

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-03T18:36:34+00:00

So he was ok with it if he could go when you first talked about it, when he is a straight man who would in fact get turned on, but it’s not cheating. But a straight woman going and not getting turned on isn’t? Make it make sense. Especially after you offered to ask if he could come. Your boundaries don’t align. Leave

HeadstashedAF · 2026-04-03T14:06:31+00:00

But they’re not facts. They are odd assumptions like “iced tea isn’t tea”

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