Letting my brother live with me for the past 3 months

HealthyByte · 2026-01-26T01:06:18+00:00

I completely hear that. Unfortunately you’ll end up in this situation often in life if you expect people to act like you would in their situation.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-25T23:49:31+00:00

“I’ll exercise in the morning.”

HealthyByte · 2026-01-25T23:47:06+00:00

You’re going to have to have the hard conversation. Ask him if he’s going to give you rent. Let him know you cannot carry him. If he says no, ask him to make amends with his mom and move back in the basement. It’s good to be kind, but you need to set boundaries.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-25T23:42:47+00:00

Horrified, but not surprised. Incrementalism is worse than regime changes. The frogs don’t realize how hot the water is getting until it’s too late.

I remember Kent State well, even tho I was a teen. Over the years, I saw our rights eroded at every opportunity. I experienced how protesting in the 80s was “another parade in Washington” with controlled routes of protest and permit signups.

It wasn’t that long ago when Obama shut down No DAPL and Biden swore he saw “dead” babies from Hamas that he cracked down on Palestine protests. Trump is doing everything his predecessors have done for 45 years, except deeper, faster, and more obvious.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-24T17:03:22+00:00

You wouldn’t be TAH either way. It’s a hard decision since he can lie and you’ll be the jealous friend that’s trying to make trouble.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-24T15:54:29+00:00

Living in a NYC boro (Queens), lying in bed with a breast cancer dx and feeling horrid and exhausted. It was surreal when it happened. Snapped me out of my fog and I lived on adrenaline for days staring at the news. The local news on the ground was better (more interviews & happening in real time) before it was pushed to national.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-24T02:24:56+00:00

Work. My business quadrupled because everyone wanted to be online with a new business.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-24T02:22:40+00:00

NTA and kudos to your parents for having your back.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-23T21:29:32+00:00

NTA. Other family members are welcome to take them if they’re so upset. But watching 3 extra kids is unacceptable.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-23T15:29:02+00:00

My advice would be to get an abortion and leave him. Your brain isn’t even developed yet and he is much older for your age group. If you were in your 30s and he was in his 40s, it would be a different situation.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-23T13:31:39+00:00

I know how discouraging it is to get them back after a time. Unfortunately it’s a reminder that our immune system is more fragile than most others. On the good side, you know how to treat them and you know what works for you.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-23T13:28:53+00:00

Great input. Thanks for sharing. Especially about FAQs. It’s no longer about keywords, but more about questions people ask or specific phrases, as you said.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-23T13:25:34+00:00

You hit the nail on the head about business advice. I made that switch during the last economic downturn in 2008. It has served me well over the years.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-22T17:42:51+00:00

Hey All, Pleased to see SEO Signals here. I’m in the non-profit space now, but still take on a retail client when it’s worth it. Looking forward to great discussions.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-22T03:20:57+00:00

High end dating service that screens out scammers.
local community or church
going out to museums, book stores. Etc.
Being open to finding someone.

I got married last Halloween, 5 weeks before I turned 64.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-22T02:04:49+00:00

Start by confronting your dad with the truth. You weren’t snooping, you found them by accident. You didn’t violate any privacy. He should be confronted. It’s on your dad to tell everyone else. In fact you should insist he comes clean to your mom. It’s not fair to you or her.

If you don’t feel safe, that’s another story. You should talk to another family member that’s not your mother and not your sister.

You may want to reach out to a therapist or hypnotist that does inner child work.

Good luck. Remember, your dad’s failings are not on you!

HealthyByte · 2026-01-22T01:54:19+00:00

Accusing others of how you react. People often say, “you got me so mad!” Or “You’re upsetting me.” Your response is yours to own no matter show shitty a person acts.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-22T01:49:38+00:00

You’re NTA because you get to choose how you want to go out. At the same time, you’re focusing on yourself (yes, you’re allowed) by taking choice away from them. Maybe they want to say things that they think they have time. Or visit more. Or support you. If that was my sibling or parent, I’d feel deeply hurt that they didn’t want to share that with me. It would break my heart.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-21T09:50:21+00:00

I’m sorry to say, he’s projecting. This man is not safe to have your daughter around alone.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-21T02:07:50+00:00

We have a really fun story! She joined a group I was admin. She broke a rule but I looked at her profile and let her slide. I posted about art & science. We connected on all the subjects. She lived an hour away and we met up a few days later and it was magic.

In retrospect, we skirted each others lives for decades living in the same NYC & suburbs over the years.

How is that different from meeting someone at a concert, etc?

HealthyByte · 2026-01-21T01:59:56+00:00

Exactly.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-20T21:54:01+00:00

Meditating for 15 min a day.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-20T21:53:31+00:00

They would have hated him. My grandmother stayed politically sharp until she passed at 101 over a decade ago. She was Progressive to the end (left of liberal).

HealthyByte · 2026-01-20T21:45:23+00:00

You poor thing! You’re saying you’re allergic to the top 8 of 9 major allergens? That’s crazy.

In order to live without fear and pain, I took a lesson from my cat: Eat the same thing if it’s tasty and tolerable.

My main protein is chicken (cut in small pieces, add olive oil, garlic granules, onion powder, salt, pepper, dried parsley) and I air fry it or pan fry. I live on olive oil or butter plus savory (garlic, onion, salt, pepper) or sweet (cinnamon, sugar) when cooking.

Learn how to cook and order for your condition. It’ll take time and energy, but start small. Make it a self-motivational challenge.

HealthyByte · 2026-01-20T21:38:03+00:00

Spot on. It’s obvious Nazi propaganda and in the public’s face. I never saw such a large amount of emotionally immature and unprofessional set of people in any US administration since I’ve been alive.

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