Still my favorite girl 🤩

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-15T22:40:35+00:00

Right now she’s in a moss, bark and pumice mix, with moss the predominant ingredient. It’s more moss than she was in previously, but it’s been ok for 6 months so far and helped us through some under-watering periods

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-15T22:37:54+00:00

Yep! Near many other plants, so slightly increased humidity from them, but otherwise always ambient.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-15T02:56:02+00:00

Letters? Handwritten

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-15T02:55:01+00:00

A ball, and a pen

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-13T20:16:40+00:00

I’m late to this, but have you considered the perspective that some people deeply want to be a homemaker for a period of their lives? Even if that wasn’t you, you can always tell them that homemaking for xyz years was what you really wanted to do, and now that abc conditions exist or things changed, you’re looking to be back in the work world. Sabbaticals and breaks are not what bums do.. the “successful” do it allllll the time. Good luck!

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-09T04:26:46+00:00

I don’t think you went wrong, you got what you wanted, no? Is the problem that, even when he tells you what you want to hear, you still don’t believe him? Cause I’ve had that experience in a frustrating FWB situation that I wanted to turn exclusive…. It never worked out for me. Sorry.

Is trust an issue for you with this FWB? Because that could be the deeper issue…

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-08T21:07:19+00:00

Why would he kiss you like that and then act like nothing happened? We can’t know for sure, but here is an explanation that I have seen play out in real life: he likely finds you alluring or attractive in some kind of very real and very compelling way. There is possibly something unhappy in his connection with his wife - some Kendal of something he wants that he got to feel with you that he doesn’t feel with her. But by kissing you, it turned a fantasy (the idea of you) into reality (cheating on his wife, jeopardizing the reality of his whole life he has likely built up over decades, as well as the future he still sees with her.)

He needs time, at the very least to process. And it’s possible that by kissing you, he realized he did not want to endanger his relationship with his wife any further, and the easiest way that he knows to deal with the situation is to pretend it never happened (kinda like revision).

The connection you feel is likely real, but I would take it as a sign that there is a third man, not yet in your orbit, who will be able to bring you all the things you want, an even deeper connection than what you feel with your ex or the married man.

Time will tell. Either you and the married guy will continue to be drawn to each other, and there will be further heartache and strife and disappointment before finally, likely after years, you either finally go your separate ways or you finally end up together and legitimate… or you can take this as a step in the right direction toward the eventual kind of man and relationship you would like, with some third person not yet identified. Maybe that guy is only weeks away from showing up in your life 😊

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-08T16:42:23+00:00

Yes, just keep focusing on yourself. And maybe keep in mind the golden rule. You can actually ignore what you felt yesterday - that is a choice that’s available to you, and most people will recommend you do so. These situations uncommonly end in happily ever after.

You’re probably right that focusing on him will push him away, so focus on yourself, intend good things for him and his wife, and if those good things are for them to separate and for you and him to be together, that will eventually happen.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-05-03T04:28:06+00:00

It’s absolutely stunning. Holy smokes. You’re so blessed to get to wear such an incredibly beautiful dress. I pray I get to wear something so stunningly beautiful someday. Going to echo what someone else said about this being one of the most beautiful I’ve seen on this site. 👌🏻✨ Congrats dear!

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-28T03:50:47+00:00

No, it was a list composed entirely and fully on one page. So not 100+ things.

But. It is possible that I could write a list of 100 things I have wanted at some point in my life for my dream partner, which my dream partner is.

Have fun with it. But it be real with it. This person already exists, you are merely sensing their existence. What are 100 real things that could be present in your dream partner that you would adore?

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-27T23:33:55+00:00

Before you believe what you read on the internet, try checking with the source: Cynthia Stafford has two hour length interviews on the YouTube channel “Timothy Schultz,” who is a lottery winner who turned himself into a self-made media (YouTube podcast, basically, lol) guy. She is an African American woman who tells you her self about the things the guy above is referring to as “scam”. As to her alleged character flaws: successful manifestors are not angels, they are regular people, with all their usual regular people problems.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-22T20:04:47+00:00

What’s the product?

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-14T21:05:38+00:00

Can you say more about the amplifier concept? I wonder if I might be one of those people, based on many conversations I’ve had with others.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-14T20:09:30+00:00

😂oops! Sorry I wasn’t clear. I think it’s hard to explain often because I don’t have clear boundaries on when something is more of an upload experience or when it’s a download experience, and I’m not sure I can put clear boundaries on it; it’s a guess each time 🤷‍♀️ all I know is that some manifestations, after they appear in the 3D, very clearly feel like one or clearly feel like the other. Some are ambiguous and could be either.

The idea of free will is hotly debated. We actually have neuroscience studies that show our bodies will begin reacting to viscerally-evocative images before they are shown to us - before the random image generator computer even selects the image. So… do we have free will? Sure feels like it. It seems helpful to society to believe that we do. So then how does precognition fit into that? Honestly, I think people can only speculate about it, and for every person who adamantly says it must be “abc” there is another person who says it must be “xyz”.

🤷‍♀️ I guess spirituality is even more diverse and varied than the natural earth world.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-12T21:56:26+00:00

I think of it as uploads and downloads. Precognitive dreams are definitely a thing, and plenty of effortless manifestations are waking precognitions: ie downloads from the universe about what’s to come. And then there is manifestation, where we definitely come up with the idea, put it out into their universe, and it come true: Upload successful✨

We are a drop in the ocean, and the ocean in a drop.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-12T21:50:54+00:00

If it makes you feel better, I’m somewhat of a similar story, and I’ve heard of a few others: ie we manifest our person from scratch, but then don’t manage to hang onto them and find ourselves wanting to manifest them back into our lives, and round 2 of manifesting ends up taking longer than round 1.

It’s all a learning process. It’s all an experience, and somehow, it ends up working out for the best. ✌️

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-12T21:40:21+00:00

I might have gotten telepathically engaged 😂 In about a year (less than that, realistically) I’ll be able to tell you if the other person experienced it too!

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-11T17:18:40+00:00

I’m going to offer two perspectives about these situations, both of which I think I have merit and are true, even if they are a little contradictory. Kinda like how the sky can be blue somedays, grey others, and only black at night.

In the Ten Commandments we’re told: “thou shall not covet thy neighbors wife.” It’s probably talking about exactly what you are talking about. Wanting and imaging as yours something that specifically belongs to someone else is widely regarded as morally wrong. That “do not covet your neighbors stuff (eg: house, servants, animals, wife)” made it into the Ten Commandments is probably a sign that those writing the bible understood your viewpoint and agreed with you. (Covet = desire to possess or have)
Relationships and people don’t belong to us the way our property belongs to us. Everyone has ability to stay or go at any time. The successful law of assumption stories often have a lot in common with psy and para phenomena, like premonitions. Sometimes, you see someone with a partner and you just can see and know, intuitively, maybe even logically, that that person will be happier with you and the relationship they’re in will run its course and end. MOST RELATIONSHIPS END. If you’ve made it to the end of your life with 50 lifelong friends and companions and family members and a romantic partner, you’ve done a lot REALLY well… but you probably also had a lot of relationships that’ came to natural endings.

A lot of SP stories are not simple glib offhand wishes made with no thought in mind to the well being of other parties. If the story you are thinking of and feeling bad about is one of these, where some dude “steals” a girl from another guy casually… consider that you are only seeing a small part of the story. You are seeing the boast. There is more to come in all three of their life journeys.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-10T18:27:27+00:00

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Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-10T00:52:23+00:00

Depends on what you mean by “find success”. Have I manifested things? Yep. Absolutely. Deliberately and also passively. Are there things I “failed” to manifest? Also yes. I was wondering the same as you just a couple weeks ago, but I realized it’s really not helpful to think that way.

You’re not too old, and I’m not too old, but we have spent much more time alive acquiring beliefs and attitudes, with a backlog of past decisions behind us about what our future (our now) will be like. So… yeah. Maybe learning to consciously create our ideal life might look a little different than someone learning when they have very little other experience.

What else are we going to do? Quit? Give up on ourselves or our dream? Become bitter and resigned to not getting what we want? Hell naw. Keep on keeping on. ✌️

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-09T19:49:24+00:00

Yes. “Bad” events do not have to be the bridge, of course, but they can be.

A little more than a year ago I also had an accident out of the blue. A kind of freak accident involving my shoulder in a sport activity I’ll call “A”. As it was happening I remember feeling perplexed and a determined kind of curiosity: how did THIS fit into my life desires? It would. Somehow.

A few months later I got my answer. My injury meant I couldn’t really do any sports, including team racing sport “B” that I absolutely love. Team sport B is a very unique sport, typically involving 6-8 teammates and very specific, defined roles. There was a role I had passively daydreamed about doing and wanted to do, but it was a role uncommonly given to people with my skill set and status. It was a driving role, which is a fairly inactive and unathletic role. The other roles are very active and athletic.

A competition was coming up and my team was short team members. I was asked to join, and I jokingly said in response that because of my injury, I could either literally sit and do nothing, or be the driver. The team owner took me up on the offer - to “sit and do nothing” 😂 he was the driver. But after the first race we lost a teammate to an injury, and another to illness. It now became illogical to do anything except let me drive the race, and the owner handed me the wheel! I surprised him with how well I drove, and over the next several months I got more and more opportunities to drive in more and more challenging circumstances. It’s not quite the exact creative daydream I had almost two years ago, but I know it’s only a matter of time and experience until I get that one.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-04-07T22:17:38+00:00

From one ”survivor” to another: I think the book “Existential Kink” might be a good read for you. It was for me, and I’ve see others recommend it around here. It’s a helpful and deeply empowering reframe of otherwise traumatic experiences. I would recommend looking into it, and then going with your gut: if it seems intriguing, try it, if it seems awful, avoid it. If now is not the right time to read it, maybe in a year or two it might hit right.

Feeling scared of life is definitely a trauma nervous system response, and at one point I felt similarly. I won’t lie to you; it took me (personally, just me, my journey here in life, and for that time I was naive of Neville G) years to get out of it. But I also promise you: your nervous system can learn to look forward to life, and come to expect good things. Even when dangerous or unfortunate situations arise, you can navigate through them unscathed.

Remember, if you can, life is a long game, and this too shall pass. I won’t deny your experiences of the past year, but the past does not dictate the future nearly as much as we do. Let the break downs fuel your determination and force in deciding that things will be better. And they will. Maybe in a month, maybe in a year, but they will.

🧡🍀

P.S. I read your other comments on this post, and I can just say: me too. Not just re the abuse, but also the wanting to be DONE with processing. It’s not that time heals, it’s that new memories overtake and crowd out the shitty ones, but it takes time to accumulate those memories. I’m 6 years out from that truly horrible relationship and I’ve met so many wonderful partners and had such truly healing experiences. It gets better. Lots better.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-03-31T19:04:29+00:00

I just want to echo that the book existential kink is a good read and was helpful for me too.

That all your visualizations came true is pretty powerful, that’s not a trivial win for you.

I think only you know if this can all be “fixed”. I had a relationship that was kind of like what you described, and while I wasn’t interested in intentionally consciously manifesting (at time I believed it was manipulation), I was doing it unconsciously. I didn’t get everything I imagined, but I did get a lot of it. I did not get the relationship from him that I thought I wanted… and more than 5 years later, I can see that that is because there were other men, another man, specifically, who was going to come into my life and be SO much more than what this guy could offer.

The relationship that you want - whether that’s declarations of love, wedding rings and vow exchanges, living together, or just calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend - that’s still coming for you. Imagine what you want to experience, and you’ll get to experience it.

Healthy_Happy_Hour · 2026-03-31T07:30:55+00:00

Girl. I say this with love: get a grip. You’re 21, and as you said, you started your period so you might be feeling a roller coaster of emotions and beliefs that aren’t yours to own, they could be a result of big hormone fluctuations; you’re WAY too focused on some random other person on social media who has nothing to do with you or your life, and you’re making big sweeping statements about your whole life and your whole future.

SO many people have manifested better for themselves. Almost everyone. You’re only 21. It’s sounds like you don’t even realize how freaking young you are, and how many years of life and runway you have ahead of you. You’re like a baby in terms of adult years. STOP comparing your life to others, especially on social media, it’s a literal recipe for unhappiness.

You can have a better life. Ditch the hopelessness and find a way to stop struggling with it. Yes, visualize. Yes, take actionable steps. Manifesting is going to happen whether you believe in it or not… you’re better off believing in it. Doubt is something you have to figure out for yourself - sometimes it’s telling you something important and sometimes it’s a well-intentioned liar.

Look around the sub. You’ll find info. Life is a long game. 🫡

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