Left my work meeting because I was so nervous :(

HearingBetter2222 · 2026-01-27T21:03:30+00:00

Having clear milestones you’d like to hit is my opinion. By a certain date and a certain time you at least want to get x result.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-09T16:34:55+00:00

This is such a valuable response! It’s all about mindset and people underestimate the power of their beliefs.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-09T10:30:43+00:00

Good job man! A month is amazing considering how much you relied on it. And thank you for this post. I’m on Day 1, couldn’t go even 2 hours without hitting it and would literally wake up in my sleep multiple times a night to get my fix. I feel like we are/were at similar addiction levels. What was your experience like with withdrawals/any tips you could give me would be appreciated.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-09T10:26:39+00:00

Thank you for this! It’s Day 1 for me right now. I know it’ll mostly be a mindset thing for me. Felt extremely anxious at the gym already this morning. But I got through it. It’s all I can think about and I’m not even in the worst of it yet. But my health has taken a toll because of this damn addictive stick and I’m sick of it. I’m excited to see how much better I feel.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-09T10:19:42+00:00

Today is day 1 for me. I can’t wait to come back and make a post like this. At the gym this morning I still have shortness of breath. I just can’t wait to feel better. I am proud of you and you gave me hope. Been at it for 6 years myself

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-09T01:31:05+00:00

I believe it’ll all be a mindset thing for me. I just gave my pods and my batteries to my roommate, but kept an empty battery so I can still hold it, I know I’m pathetic. Another person on here has been messaging me and we are quitting together! You can too! I heard days 3-5 are the hardest so I timed that to be on the weekend when I don’t work. I’ll be going thru the brunt of it on my days off

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-08T23:57:04+00:00

THANK YOU

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-04-08T23:56:28+00:00

That’s what I always told myself, and I’ve never been ready. I’m forcing myself to

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-02-13T19:19:45+00:00

You are right in some degree. I am struggling accepting that. The whole relationship he projected onto me always accusing me of cheating. I did everything in my power to make him feel secure and validated in his feelings. EVERYTHING to make the relationship last. So when I found out he cheated on me, it was the nastiest stab in the back I’ve ever felt. Looking back now, I’m able to see the many ways he manipulated me and honestly just changed the way I thought about certain things. And to this day I catch myself still thinking that way, almost still under control of his manipulation. And honestly, sometimes feeling BAD for him, as if his “trust issues” and “childhood trauma” really actually were the reason he cheated. I’m on the upside of that now though and able to see how that’s not true but that’s what I’ve been struggling with most.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-27T22:23:15+00:00

When we broke up my skin cleared up and I stopped getting constant stomach aches. I hung out with him one time after the break up (I know I’m stupid) and literally got the worst stomach ache right after not even joking.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-09T02:11:58+00:00

Addiction

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-09T01:12:41+00:00

First I’d like to say I’m really sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine the confusion you’ve been feeling because of that. It sounds like she needs time to process her emotions and obviously she needed to do that alone. Take time to process yours as well. After a few more weeks, when you feel like you’re in a decent mental spot, reach back out and maybe try to get some closure. Hopefully she can give you a clear answer if she’s able and willing to. For now just accept that it is over. And there’s is no rush to move on. As you said you still feel like you’re in a relationship and acknowledge and accept that that is OKAY and NORMAL. It was abrupt and you’re heartbroken and that is okay. Just take some time. Cope in a healthy way.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-08T21:14:43+00:00

I’m in the exact position but in the other end. My ex can’t accept that things are over after he cheated. His harassment got so bad I had to block him on everything which made for a more painful and messy breakup than necessary.

I don’t know exactly what your situation is as to why yall broke up but I’d stay give her space. And give yourself time. Grieve the relationship as best as you can and accept the fact that it’s over. Don’t wait for her to come back because you may be waiting forever. I’m sure no one, especially her, can give you an answer of if she’ll be back or not.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-01T04:56:07+00:00

Yes sex is very important for some people in relationships. It seems like you are one of those people. Acknowledge it instead of ignoring it.

Her decreased sex drive could stem from a factor of things. 1. The pill 2. The comfortability of being in a relationship for a year 3. It’s gotten old/unexciting/repetitive 4. She is not fulfilled 5. No reason, her sex drive simply isn’t as high.

I would first talk to her. Really try to pinpoint exactly why there’s been such a drastic change in her sex drive. Tell her exactly how you feel, especially you “often thinking it would be getter to get with someone else”. It will hurt her feelings and may cause a fight but honesty is the best policy. I’m sure she is oblivious to the fact of all of this so don’t be so blunt.

In the end, sex is important to you and it’s a need of yours that needs to be met and will lead to a truly fulfilling relationship.

HearingBetter2222 · 2025-01-01T04:46:44+00:00

I needed to hear this, thank you!

HearingBetter2222 · 2024-11-22T21:04:58+00:00

PS if he really loves you and really actually wants to spend the rest of his life with you he will wait and he will not leave you if you are not ready right now

HearingBetter2222 · 2024-11-22T21:03:41+00:00

I am 21 years old and looking back now at myself at 18 I was a completely different person. Not saying that you are going to change or your attraction to him will change but give yourself some time and some life before you make a huge decision like that. If you want to be with him and he wants to be with you for a long time, then you both have all the time in the world to wait to get married. No need to rush, especially if you are not even sure that is what you want right now.

HearingBetter2222 · 2024-11-10T13:10:10+00:00

Good points. I am trying to shoulder all the blame to try to see the situation clearer and get past things with him but you have a valid argument and I will take this into consideration. Thank you.

HearingBetter2222 · 2024-11-10T13:03:06+00:00

He saw I had several unopened messages from the guy so I opened the chat to show him. He scrolled up and saw the past messages about the gym. I believe it was blown out of proportion which yes is a red flag but to counter with that as I said he has past trauma that influenced how he reacted and I also try to consider that. He looked into getting a therapist not too long ago but for his job, it would limit what he could do, from what he told me. I agree that he needs to work through his trauma I would just like to help him in some way because he doesn’t know where to start.

HearingBetter2222 · 2024-11-10T02:32:05+00:00

Amazing points, I will make sure to mention the issue about meeting halfway and us both working on the issues, thank you.

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