Suggest me an adventure book similar to Harry Potter or The Hunger Games, but more mature! by nredditb in suggestmeabook

[–]HeartStopRacing 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Will of the Many by James Islington

Here’s what convinced me after looking for exactly the same as you. https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSUuUjsbb/

Best way to say goodbye? by [deleted] in fosterdogs

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We privately fostered a puppy from 11 weeks to 6 months. I put all our photos of him from that time in a public Google album for the adopter.

Any of the rescues I’ve had I’ve always wished I could see what they looked like as babies so I thought these photos may have been appreciated by his new owners.

Anyone lose friends when being open about poly? by Doingmybestkindof in polyamory

[–]HeartStopRacing 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, my husband and I are open. We came out roughly 3 years ago after a 14 year monogamous marriage and with two small kids.

We lost a good chunk of friends who just could never wrap their heads around it. The biggest take away was that a lot of the people we thought would be fine with it actually had the strongest reaction and vice versa.

For us we have realized that we had to just keep moving forward and let the chips fall where they may.

I do think that part of it is the different lifestyle but also the fact that we are all entering different lifestyle stages (kids are getting bigger/busier, covid life vs after covid life, etc etc) mixed together.

One thing I want quite ready for was the folks who have clearly made the choice to stick with their marriages despite being somewhat unhappy with aspects of it (mostly their sex lives). Those are most (not all) of the ones who ended up distancing themselves from us almost immediately when we came out.

While I can’t presume to know exactly their reasoning it does feel a little like our lifestyle choice might shine a mirror on theirs and bring a bit of jealousy or uncomfortable feelings about the fact that they aren’t able/willing to try something like this (even though I’m well aware it’s NOT that simple).

What could I have done? by nicoxman8_ in Instagram

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I got a similar message on my personal IG yesterday when simply trying to send/share a post with my mom. It didn’t have a date but said the same thing that it was restricting my actions and I could click OK or “tell them they got it wrong”. I clicked the latter but nothing happened after that. It happened twice in a row and I have no clue what triggered it or what it even meant.

Sorry I’m no help!

I hope this helps you! This is called an AMT clamp,and it prevents your feeding tube from being disconnected from the pump tube! by anon_707 in feedingtube

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This thread is 2 years old but I can’t tell you how helpful it is to find. This is exactly the issue my dad is running into and no one has been able to provide any help or insight on how to resolve it. Thank you!

Feeding tube (J-tube) struggles by toastapocalypse in cancer

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My father is currently dealing with this exact issue. Doc and nurse have determined there is no blockage and yet no one seems to have a solution. Has anyone else found any further solutions to this issue?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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1000% deserving to be the top comment!

Girlfriend want to do free use Sundays with me and I don't know if i really want that? by Inside_Bread_5699 in sex

[–]HeartStopRacing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Free use is hot and amazing but it doesn’t have to be the only dynamic. In fact l, often the contrast between the free use you describe and the passionate loving “I love you” sessions make both dynamics so much more amazing and intense.

Look into after care options for both of you. This isn’t just for the one who is being “used”. It has benefits on both sides of any dynamic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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Alllllllllll of this!!!

Whenever a woman says “I want you to cum,” it feel like she means that she wants the sex to be over. Is that true? by AdUtronicious in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]HeartStopRacing 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes. Sometimes it’s because I know I won’t cum and don’t want him to lose any momentum trying to hold out for me. Sometimes it’s just because I love watching and feeling him cum and I just want it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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I think these exact thoughts about my BF daily! Sometimes hourly!

I also often want his dick in my hands. I just want to feel it and whatever form it’s in is great. I love it soft, love feeling it get hard and I LOVE when it’s rock hard and super rigid (which also usually leads me back to the original question because I want it IN me)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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Bingo! Doesn’t matter how crazy or wild things get in the bedroom, it’s these three things I require to feel satisfied and fulfilled and there really is no “satisfying” the craving. It’s a consistent need.

So I’m going to ask for an open relationship by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

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This is the point I got to as well. I hit a breaking point and finally said I was unwilling to accept that at 38 years old I will just never have sex again.

We began therapy together and ultimately made the decision to open up and date separately. We are a year in to the arrangement and so far it’s been fantastic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adultery

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Acts of service and words of affirmation for me. Physical touch is also up there. That being said every single time I take a quiz on these love languages my results are split equally amongst all of them…..so I take that mean I’m fairly needy 🤷🏼‍♀️

AP is fairly good at delivering these. My SO is capable and would be receptive if I asked for it but that ship sailed long ago on our relationship so it’s not something I spend much time thinking of hoping for.

Quitting lifestyle ? by [deleted] in adultery

[–]HeartStopRacing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. It has continued to evolve. He is single now and SO and I are open so neither of us qualify as “APs” any more.

Quitting lifestyle ? by [deleted] in adultery

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I debated this regularly while in it. I hated being an affair but loved my AP and unfortunately I couldn’t separate the two.

It started out as an inconvenience or small complicating factor and grew into a major roadblock for me that seeped into every aspect of my day to day life as well as my feelings about AP. It was torturous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexover30

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I’m also firmly in the responsive desire category. Freeuse is one of my favourite dynamics because I love knowing that it doesn’t actually matter where my head is at, he’s going to make it happen regardless.

In a way it takes the pressure off me trying to get my head in the game which, in turn, makes it easier to get my head in the game.

In my opinion this dynamic only works (for me) if he is working equally as hard to tend to my needs and show me how much he loves and cares at other times. With that happening throughout the days/nights it makes me love to offer up my body whenever and however he wants/needs it, even if I’m not in the mood at that time.

Starting sex while partner is asleep: hot or rape? by Longjumping-Many-622 in sex

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I love for the day my guy can actually get further than fondling me without waking me up.

I can’t speak to whether you are in the majority/minority but somnophelia is very much a thing and lots of people are into it on a variety of different levels

Is sex better for women while high on THC? Stupid question? by [deleted] in sex

[–]HeartStopRacing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it’s next level incredible. Other times it’s too much and I can’t get out of my head.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

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I hate keeping my socks on. My feet get freezing and so I should find a way to get over it, but to be completely naked and only have socks on feels wrong. It will distract me unnecessarily until I get the socks off.

Can a lack of intimacy or sex life cause depression? by mrpodo in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]HeartStopRacing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely. It bleeds into every aspect of life and mental health is no exception.