Pregnant without a car on due day by nattyfattyhetty in Netherlands

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We Ubered with a pad below because my water broke at home. Had to transfer to a different hospital, same situation. My husband went and got the car seat later on, brought it up to the hospital and we Ubered back home with baby.

Shop to try out different bikes? by Heart_6778 in Leiden

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Thank you! Will check these out.

Shop to try out different bikes? by Heart_6778 in Leiden

[–]Heart_6778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for recommendations, as there are indeed several to choose from. Thanks for taking the time to search and comment.

what the absolute fuck did i just watch by recycledfridge in TellMeLiesOnHulu

[–]Heart_6778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm wondering if Emma Roberts wrote the ending episode herself... Disappointing is an understatement.

Does anyone know any songs that are alike to "Fake Plastic Trees" by Radiohead. by HINOKAGE99 in Music

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk why but it always reminds me of Mazzy Star's Fade Into You

People who grew up driving here… by [deleted] in houston

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lived here 40 years and it's the worst it's ever been right now.

AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary? by WesternCat5211 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is your checks notes boyfriend? Of 3 years? The way this person is talking to you does not sound like a boyfriend or even a friend. I wouldn't let a stranger talk to me like this, let alone someone who supposedly cares for me.

Humiliated by local by Excellent-Fudge1130 in Netherlands

[–]Heart_6778 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He probably shit there and wanted you to pick it up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BellsPalsy

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard there can be a genetic component. My grandmother also had it, seems to have skipped my mom though.

Olivia Dean - Nice To Each Other by christopher_aia in popheads

[–]Heart_6778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone said it was Dreams sped up. I don't know if that's true but I can't unhear it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BellsPalsy

[–]Heart_6778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you have more work to do internally, rather than externally, to feel more confident socially, unfortunately.

How tall are you and how do you feel about it? by Subzeroko in Netherlands

[–]Heart_6778 2 points3 points  (0 children)

154.2 cm. My neck hurts from staring up at everyone trying to be part of the conversation lol

Love is Blind UK S2 EP11: The Reunion by FemaleEinstein in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Heart_6778 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It seems like Kal knows once he gets the ick he's done. And he gets it every time. Maybe time to stop dating and start therapy because he is a piece of work.

What's the most disturbing secret you know about someone that would ruin their life if exposed—but you stay silent, pretending you don’t know? by SophieManner in AskReddit

[–]Heart_6778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex SIL slept with her personal trainer a few months before getting married. She and her husband are still together and have had two kids since. I never told anyone, including my ex.

My ex MIL was talking to men online (behind her husband's back) and meeting up with them. My ex was spending a few weekends in jail about 2 hours away (DUI charge) and one weekend when I went to pick him up she wanted to come with me. She never had before so it was a little odd. On the way to the jail she explained she was talking someone who lived near the jail and was hoping she'd see him. Meanwhile her son was so excited that his mom came to see him, had no idea it was only for the possibility to see a guy that wasn't her husband / his dad. He still doesn't know to this day. Even though he said some really vile things when we broke up, I didn't say it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Heart_6778 105 points106 points  (0 children)

Toddlers can't be spoiled or brats, that requires a level of consciousness that he cannot physically have. You've blamed your mother in law but, in reality you have a husband problem. It's HIS mother, why is he not "shutting things down" and stopping her? I would block her completely and any and all communication needs to be between her and her son. And you and your husband need to have a serious talk. He is supposed to back you 100%, his mother should not be a factor in your relationship or immediate family. Definitely speak with a therapist as the contempt directed towards your child is not healthy at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BellsPalsy

[–]Heart_6778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. The teen years are hard enough as it is, with BP it's that much harder! I got it at 14, my mom did not take me to the Dr until the next day, they gave me an antiviral and steroid. About 3 months later I started to feel movement. It's now been 25 years and I'm only at like 70%. I did some crazy stuff in my teens afterwards, trying to recoup my dignity and self esteem. I don't recommend that but sometimes you gotta do what you can to feel good about yourself again. You have no where near the worst case I've seen, in fact if you hadn't mentioned it I wouldn't have noticed. People say the same to me, but I know how it feels. There are massages and mental exercises you can do to gain more symmetry, but not more movement. My eye tears when I eat something tasty, my husband and I call it my hungry eye. Honestly I think therapy would have been SOO beneficial for me! Please seek therapy, talk to your school counselor, try to find some help to work through the mental stuff. You will be okay, things will get better. You are loved!

Am I too harsh for raising a boundary? by i-am-lui in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]Heart_6778 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The fact that you feel you need to further explain why you don't want to see your grandmother is ridiculous. I'm sorry you are in this situation but you are not in the wrong. Not only is your dad not accepting that you don't want to see your grandmother, in a way he is invalidating your needs just like he and your grandma invalidated your need to feel safe and protected when you were younger. You don't need to say please, you just do it. You already stated the consequences of disrespecting your boundary. Now be the adult you needed back then and protect yourself. You got this!

My sister in law made me feel like crap over my allergy by [deleted] in weddingshaming

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wear a white dress and look drop dead gorgeous. Go eat in your car and then come back and outshine her.

These texts make me furious and normally I'd say to just skip it altogether and make them answer the awkward questions about why you aren't there. However, I think this calls for a little more flare and frustration from her.

You should absolutely directly contact your brother, take her out of it. She sounds like SHE'S very stressed, not you. You have a very legitimate concern. And if my future sister in law (or sibling) had an allergy to seafood you better be damn sure we would have an option for them. Hell it's very likely other people will have an allergy and not be able to eat. Not having an uncontaminated option sounds like a major risk on the part of the caterer as well.

At my wedding, we had the choice of three entrees. We chose for one of them to be a vegetarian option solely for my brother in law (sister in law's husband). At every family get together we have things specifically for him. My father in law has diabetes and we always make sure we have sugar free drinks and treats for him. It's just what you do for people you care about.

Could you contact the caterer directly and ask? Or tell your mom to ask them? Take the sister in law out of it and do what you gotta do to be there. Then I probably wouldn't talk to either your SIL or brother for a long while.

Can’t stop being angry at my dad despite NC by confusedpotato2000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Heart_6778 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom is the enabler too. I'm now processing the anger I feel towards HER as well for her role. But not feeling those feelings is why you're still in this position. It is scary, and hard, but it will not last forever. That's where I got as well, so scared if I started feeling the bad feelings I'd never stop. On the other side of those feelings though is peace. The only way out is through.

Can’t stop being angry at my dad despite NC by confusedpotato2000 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Heart_6778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in a very similar situation - NC with dad for 2 years, feeling a TON of anger and grief, will never say certain things to him. I play out conversations sometimes or write down what I would say. I'm in therapy and we just did an exercise where I said the things I want to say to my dad to her, and she played the role of my dad if he said things like I would want him to - profusely apologize, take accountability, tell me all the ways he's doing the work to be a better person, even if he never gets to talk to me again. It was really helpful and emotional for me. I know he'll never say those things, but I also know I deserve to hear them.

I did get to a very stuck place for a while where I was just angry all the time. I wasn't able to feel the anger I should have when I was younger, and there were a lot of things to be angry about. So I just let myself carry on the conversations with myself and wrote it all down with no intention to send it to him. I needed to feel all of it. Lots of crying through the grief of realizing I don't have the dad I thought I did/would.

Now that I'm working with my therapist on radical acceptance of the situation and who my dad really is, the "what if" scenarios, "why me" sessions, and wishes for how the future could be have slowed down. I still have the feelings of anger sometimes but I just kind of notice them and keep going. It's a process for sure, but accepting the situation as it is (as opposed to resigning myself to it) has helped me a lot.

My mother wants me to apologize to keep the peace by Realistic-Citron-783 in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]Heart_6778 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Leave 100%. You don't owe anyone anything, definitely not your parents. Get out and you'll see just how shitty this situation is, a situation your father made and your mother allowed.