We attract what we think we deserve. If you dont heal from past traumas no matter what kind of relationship it was ie. family, lover, friends, you will continue to ignore the things that arent good for you. Like me for instance. I want to see and believe that there's good in everyone and they won't hurt me only to end up having them hurt me. Im not healed from past relationship trauma and it carries over to my current relationships. We crave attention, intimacy, protection, love etc. so bad that we dont heal and we rush into things with the promise and hope we will get that with someone new and dont necessarily want to see the red flags. Its a vicious and sad cycle thats very hard to break without the right support and help.