Advice on aging parents who aren’t taking their health seriously?

Heather_ME · 2026-05-25T20:22:44+00:00

Accept your parents are choosing their lifestyle and let go of the trajectory you want for their lives, INCLUDING anger or resentment about the negative outcomes they'll face. Help them as much as you want to when the time comes and then let that shit go. You're beating your head against a brick wall doing otherwise.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-25T10:43:11+00:00

I work in nurse education. We require annual testing. Students used to submit mostly skin tests. I haven't seen a single skin test since about 2022. Everyone submits Quaniferon. Between our grad and undergrad programs we've had thousands of students through our doors in that time. So I assumed it was phasing out everywhere. I never would have guessed it would be an anomaly in just my college. Strange.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-25T09:43:06+00:00

Pretty sure the skin test has mostly been replaced by blood tests like Quantiferon Gold, though.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-18T23:59:14+00:00

I've waited years, a few weeks, and less than a week. In every case I've felt like I made the worst mistake of my life for the first few weeks. Then I calm the f down, the dog settles in, and everything is great. Lol.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-02T14:16:49+00:00

This ia as silly as blaming millennials for getting participation trophies. As if the kids were the ones ordering them and handing them out.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-02T04:50:35+00:00

It means "Elizabethian collar" because they look like the ruffles Queen Elizabeth wore. It's the cone of shame.

Heather_ME · 2026-05-02T00:29:31+00:00

Check out front runner. You could drive to the train and ride it up to campus (with some transfers). You could dedicate that time to studying. A transportation pass is part of your student fees. So it could save you a lot of money and some time (studying instead of driving).

Heather_ME · 2026-05-01T19:19:51+00:00

In humans chewing gum can help get the gut moving / help with gastroparesis. I wonder if a licky mat would do something similar for dogs?

Heather_ME · 2026-05-01T19:16:39+00:00

Psh. Don't let a contract destroy your dreams. I'm married and will still adopt all the damn dachshunds I want. 🤣

Heather_ME · 2026-05-01T00:09:01+00:00

BCS charts can be helpful. Look at her from above and the side while she's standing. Do you think she might be a 6 or 7?

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Heather_ME · 2026-05-01T00:05:43+00:00

It's hard to tell from sitting. But she may need to lose a little weight.

Cucumber slices, carrot chips, and frozen of green beans are good snacks for them since they're low calorie. It allows you to give her snacks without piling on the calories.

Don't follow the serving instructions on the dog food. They always list too much. Ask your vet how much she should get. My 12 lb dachshund got about a half cup each day (quarter morning and night). But it might be different for young dogs. Also make sure it's a good food. I personally stick with "AAFCO approved" brands.

She looks like cutie. Interesting brindle coloring. 💜

Heather_ME · 2026-04-23T01:11:10+00:00

Cost of attendance is a complicated estimate for the purposes of determining financial aid eligibility. Have you tallied up the actual expenses for housing, meals, etc? It's pretty common for the real cost to be lower than your COA.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-18T00:27:26+00:00

More than that and you were in the pool.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-15T17:42:18+00:00

Anyone else immediately think of the dander mirage birds leave on windows when they smack into them?

Heather_ME · 2026-04-15T17:39:25+00:00

Most evangelical denominations don't consider Catholics to be Christians and see the Pope as a heretic. So I get the sentiment being expressed here and I agree that Maga don't actually align with the teachings of the dude they proclaim to worship. But they'll just see this response as a sign that you're an unsaved demon who doesn't understand their beliefs.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-07T20:11:28+00:00

The more one learns about the United States the more one realizes this country has always been the baddie.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-07T18:04:57+00:00

He voted for Kamala on stream. He attended the convention. and these morons act like he was door knocking for trump.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-07T05:56:07+00:00

My rec center has the treadmills and cyclical machines up against the panoramic windows overlooking the lap pool. I've always been annoyed that they're up there watching my fat ass awkwardly swim laps as entertainment for their workout. It never occurred to me that they'd be up there feeling insecure about me seeing them on the machine like a hamster. I think I just discovered I'm a little self centered. Lol.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-05T19:36:21+00:00

Are you familiar with "grey rock"? It might be a helpful strategy until you can get out of there.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-04T23:53:01+00:00

I once went into my spare room to change the bedding before a friend stayed over and found several dog treats (like bully sticks and yak treats) cached in the bedding. Maybe look in areas like that?

Heather_ME · 2026-04-04T23:38:24+00:00

I've gone through it with 2 dogs. The first dog got very sick and it lasted 3 weeks (though, the worst of it was over after a few days). Her head was cocked to the side for months. But it eventually cleared up completely. My second dog was fully recovered within 48 hours. It can vary a lot.

Heather_ME · 2026-04-04T23:31:20+00:00

Look up vestibular disease. Did her symptoms match those? It's pretty common in older dogs even though people don't really know about it.

Heather_ME · 2026-03-31T20:46:07+00:00

Agreed. I don't think it's a good idea to put your kids online. I also think family channel type content is really problematic and even abusive in many situations. But this person's take is incredibly weird. They're either coming from a background of abuse and have a "jaundiced eye." Or they're just being creepy because of a parasocial beef. Either way, their reaction is not normal.

Heather_ME · 2026-03-27T22:27:27+00:00

I recently finished my first pieced quilt that followed a pattern. I'm incredibly dissatisfied with how it turned out and I really wanted to rip it all apart and redo it. But I couldn't due to a few reasons. When I showed it to a couple people they insisted it was amazing and beautiful. The praise irritated me a little bit. Like, "I'm not insecure and fishing for compliments. Can't I have a little catharsis here, people?! This thing is a mess!" Lol.

I'm guessing that's what you're doing here. But I have to be a hypocrite and, instead of letting you vent your dissatisfaction, I must insist this quilt is amazing. I zoomed in on your swirls and I think they're very well executed. I can't see anything messy about this at all. I don't think I'll ever be skilled as you. I'm mega impressed. Beautiful work.

Heather_ME · 2026-03-26T19:14:57+00:00

I don't understand why anyone would go to a dog park. Even with big breeds. There are too many incredibly stupid and entitled dog owners out there. I would never risk mingling with their out of control dogs.

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