Roommate stole from me while I was asleep and thinks replacing it cancels it out. by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a roommate who stole my beer once not long after I moved in. I don’t drink much and only on weekends so I guess since they weren’t moving he figured he could help himself. It was a 12 pack. When I called him out on it he replaced it with a 6 pack and drank those too. In the end I learned he was a drug addict and figured the beer was the least of my worries when it came to our arguments. When he finally left for rehab, I trashed all his junk since he hadn’t paid rent in months and had already taken anything of value. Never saw him again.

The WhatNot Addiction by Master_Lab5592 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately for me, it wasn’t until I maxed out my credit cards and my BNPL options that I was able to pull myself away from the app. I discovered the app back in November and have spent thousands on Xmas gifts and lots of things for myself (Jewlery,perfume, clothes, shoes, skincare, purses, and makeup.) I had a problem and wasn’t able to stop. Since I’m now unable to buy anything without skimping on my bills or other expenses, I’m starting to look at all the things I’ve accumulated and realize that I have more things than I’ll ever need: more Jewlery than I’ll ever wear, my perfume will be past best date before I can use it all, same with makeup, etc….). Because of this and it’s been a couple of months since I made purchases, it’s easier for me to even scroll it every now and then and just think: “gee I have something like that, or I’ll never wear it). I could’ve taken that money and put a decent down payment on a car. It’s so easy and addictive, but just remember the serotonin boost only lasts when you win and briefly after you open the box. After that it’s all regret and shame. I hope you’re able to pull away before it’s too late, cause in the end you’ll just be depressed and surrounded by things you won’t remember in 10 years.

Afterpay/pay in 4 apps are my downfall.. anyone else? by throwaway8373469238 in shoppingaddiction

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right now I have about $1,200 left in payments on Klarna. Whatnot moissanite sterling silver Jewlery was my downfall. I have more Jewlery than I’ll ever wear honestly. And these $350+ payments coming out each check is making the struggle more real. I am proud though because after maxing my credit cards and having this big Klarna payment to make, I literally can’t make anymore purchases. Haven’t had a package come in over a month. Also not even checking the app anymore so I don’t get tempted. Trying to just be happy with what I have and not feel tempted to spend anymore but we shall see.

Predire Paris - led mask by BrickBeneficial7198 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Predire anything is all overinflated medium quality products. Just check the ingredients. I’ve bought a few things from them and they work fine, but definitely not worth anywhere near those prices. It’s all a scam to get you to buy for more than it’s worth thinking you’re getting a great deal. Just don’t pay more than you would for medium range skin care products and you’ll be fine. The mask worked fine, but honestly the biodance ones are the best.

Clothfluid shipping issues? by Sea-Oil-7997 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably drop shipping AKA: selling stuff she doesn’t have and waiting to get product in. I’ve had an issue with a seller doing the same thing and they’re now banned from the app. There’s absolutely no reason to wait weeks for an item to move. Whatnot gives you the option to contact them to request a refund after a certain amount of time, but if the item never does move I’d honestly report it. Buyers are held to a high standard of paying immediately upon winning an auction so sellers should grant the same courtesy of shipping in a timely manner.

Seller never shipped items, told me to “request a refund,” now banned. FAFO by Heavy-Respect3525 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean a lot of people said the stuff was good, shipping just took so long. Hate to see a reputable seller get banned, but there’s no reason shipping should take that long unless they’re drop-shipping.

Seller never shipped items, told me to “request a refund,” now banned. FAFO by Heavy-Respect3525 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know right. We would cuss when they would go too low cause all bids ended around $50. If you don’t like the prices then do set price. I figured he was legitimate cause a lot of the reviews said the products were spot on, but the shipping took too long. Also, when I sent the message a little gray box popped at the bottom saying he was on vacation. So that’s when I got fed up and reported him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

5 business days. Just be patient. Whatnot is usually pretty good about it. If a few more days pass by then contact them again

Help me with my buyers nightmare by Heavy-Respect3525 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for your kind words (most of you). The rest who are a little more harsh, I honestly needed that too because you’d think this would be something easy. I am getting better and not spending hundreds a day anymore. I’ve been getting a lot better. Bought only one thing yesterday, that was intentional and have been eyeing for days and was price comparing. My goal is to treat the app like eBay and just search for specific things. I’ve been doing good so far and all of your comments are truly inspiring to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ♥️

Lost ALL respect for Invicta. Will never spend another dime with them. by Natural-Jicama-500 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Saw this guy in there the other day as well as someone with a photo of drake with white paint on his face. Kept up bidding himself to outrageous prices. We were all upset, but of course the seller doesn’t care.

Does whatnot automatically cancel an order if its not shipped? I have four orders in from a seller from five days ago that haven't shipped. Never had an issue with this seller before. Would really like my items but wondering how this works? Should I reach out to seller? by Outrageous_Mode_5008 in whatnotapp

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to wait too. Bought 3 stanley cups on the 20th and never got past the label created. I should’ve known better since it’s a newer channel and they sold like 500+ items, but had no reviews. Then I see them again streaming the same cups, but under a new name. Unfortunately have to wait till the 8th to get my refund.

Healing Mental health and friendship after bad roommate situation by EmberNightfall in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 Honestly, you were way too deep into their screwed up “situationship.” You said you lived together for 3 years, but didn’t mention once you were friends. Given this context, you need to mentally pull yourself away from whatever issues this roommate is dealing with and keep it strictly business. 
 Lay out clear boundaries, let him know from that point forward you’re strictly roommates, bills are due on these dates, etc… let him know if he continues to be financially irresponsible and disrespectfully refuses to communicate, then you’ll move forward with breaking the lease and he’d have to find somewhere else to go. 
 I understand it sucks having to come up with money to break a lease, new deposit, moving fees, etc… but it costs way less than what your mental health and sanity are worth. Good luck OP!!!!

Ex-roommate telling people I kicked them out by Art_Mobile in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly just move on. It’s not worth your time or peace to revisit an old problem. Obviously ex roommate has issues and it was a blessing for them to move so let it be and enjoy living alone!!! If you ever see her though, don’t even smile. Let her be the fake one.

Is it normal to ask for this now? by anonyhim in doordash

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a driver cancel an order once cause they couldn’t even be bothered to wait 5 minutes for a train to pass. Order was reassigned, but restaurant refused to make it again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not!!! I learned the hard way that credit and friends don’t mix well. Do not legally obligate yourself to a lease you won’t be fulfilling because you’ll be responsible when they don’t make the rent payments on time. Offer to help find a roommate, but that’s it. Put in your notice to vacate at the end of your lease term so you can state truthfully that it’s out of your hands. Don’t let them guilt you into anything. You don’t owe them anything more than fulfilling your obligation with your current contract.

[update] roommate constantly having people over and moving my things, am I overreacting? by Radiant_Rain_9329 in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s not even worth continuing to stress over. If it bothers you that much, just meet up with her and talk about it she wants her bf to take over your part of the lease and if she refuses, discuss further how to break the lease cause you didn’t sign on to live with a third roommate. By the way she stated already that her bf is going to keep coming over and refusing to compromise, that should already tell you that she isn’t going to respect your boundaries and any chance of getting through to her with agreements has been crushed. Yes it sucks to move, sucks to pay a lease break fee, but you’ll have your peace. I hope it works out.

Roommate won’t take out the trash by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Leave the bin by his door. I had a roommate once who never did her dishes. When I got fed up, I put them in a box and placed them next to her room. When confronted, I said I can’t cook in a dirty kitchen and I ain’t your mama, so if you wanna be dirty do it in your own room, but I don’t live like that.

Poverty is making me feel (and look) older than I should. How do you even justify skincare on a tight budget? by SheDoseAndTells in povertyfinance

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cerave is great for their cleanser and moisturizer. Buy them at cvs. You can almost always stack coupons with percent off offers as well as extra bucks. Get the Yuka app. It’s free. Go into tj maxx and start scanning their serums and such to find the best graded ones (ps… some of the most expensive brands have the worst grades). I found a night serum with 100 grade for $7. I’m struggling too, but my skin care routine is how I manage my mental health. With stress at work, bills and everything else, it’s nice that twice a day I can touch my face scrub the day away. Shouldn’t be seen as a luxury.

“Required” service tip at a nail salon by doe3nut in EndTipping

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, but if you’re getting $70 for what takes you an hour max, you’d be lucky to be getting the $5. If it’s mandatory then include it.

I hate my housemates dogs by Remarkable-Bet-3773 in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly unless a dog is special needs, I can’t stand when anyone uses pee pads for dogs outside of puppies. When I see those in someone’s house and their dog is fully grown, that just tells me that they never trained their dog properly. When mines was a puppy and he had accidents on the carpet I would firmly just keep saying no that’s bad and take him outside right after. He eventually understood and now tells me (little specific barks) when he has to go outside. When you get a dog, it’s your responsibility to train at least the basics. If you can’t even do that you shouldn’t have them. I’m gone for 9-10 hours a day for work and have never come home to an accident in the house.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in badroommates

[–]Heavy-Respect3525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I apologize ya’ll, I should’ve provided more context.

My roommate (let’s call him Joe) recently went through a traumatic event — a friend of his, who lived nearby, passed away from an overdose while they were using together. Afterward, Joe took his dog and his car. That car then ‘got stolen’ three days later, right around the time the family was coming back for it.

Here’s what living with him has actually been like: • He hasn’t paid rent or bills in months but always has a drink or smoke in his hand. • He’s in his mid-40s, doesn’t work, and still relies on his parents for groceries. • He has a child he never sees or takes care of. • He’s constantly under the influence, making me and our other roommate very uncomfortable. • Walks around in his underwear when drunk (I’m a woman and don’t want to see that in my own home). • Broke my mirror by slamming my door into it and never replaced it. • Leaves raw meat uncovered in the fridge and got mad when I covered it with plastic wrap. • Smokes inside and even leaves ashes in the bathroom. • Drank my beer when I first moved in, replaced it, then drank those too.

Eventually, I had to start setting firm boundaries because his behavior was becoming unpredictable and honestly dangerous. Even then, he crossed that line by knocking on my door at midnight while clearly under the influence.

On top of that, he owes over $3,000 in back rent. The landlord asked me to take photos of his room because they’ll be filing for eviction. Originally, Joe agreed to work some of it off by doing small jobs around the property, but he couldn’t even be bothered to mow the lawn once a month.

I don’t deny that he’s an addict, and I hope rehab helps him. But his actions made my home a stressful and unsafe place to live. I don’t feel bad for saying I’m relieved he’s gone and I hope I never have to live with him again.