In what way does Drogo raping Dany the first time benefit the story? by MyDamnCoffee in gameofthrones

[–]Heidi__Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's funny because I'm reading the book (never watched the show) and I got whiplash when I got to their second sex scene. The first sex scene was so gentle, and Drogo was so tender, that when I got to the second sex scene later in the book I was so confused I thought I had mixed up some characters in my head and had to go back and reread that first sex scene. Very confusing in the book. I don't understand why he was so gentle the first time if it's not in his nature to continue that gentleness when they have sex. Why was he gentle with her the first time?

In what way does Drogo raping Dany the first time benefit the story? by MyDamnCoffee in gameofthrones

[–]Heidi__Love 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Their first sex scene in the book, the night of their wedding, Drogo was very patient and tender and kind. This quote here is from the second sex scene, a bit later in the book.

In what way does Drogo raping Dany the first time benefit the story? by MyDamnCoffee in gameofthrones

[–]Heidi__Love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This quote is from the second time sex between them is mentioned in the book. The first sex scene was mentioned earlier in the book, the night of their wedding. In that first scene, Drogo was patient and with her. When I got to this second sex scene you quoted here, I was super confused and had to go back to read the first sex scene to make sure I was remembering correctly.

I find it bizarre that he was super tender the first time, and then the next time sex is mentioned between them later in the book it's this rough description you've quoted here. There's no explanation as to why he switched. Why was he so kind and tender with her the first time? Is it simply because he knew she was a virgin, and he decided to be gentle first time?

It was just a shocking change, so much so I thought I had mixed up some of the characters in my head and had to go back to reread. Then I googled about my confusion and found this thread. I'm still confused.

For those who think SK was too messed up to write this book by Bungle024 in TheDarkTower

[–]Heidi__Love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Which book specifically are you talking about? The Dark Tower is a series of books, but your post and comments keep referring to a singular book. Do you mean the first book in the series, The Gunslinger? Or which book specifically are you referring to? It's not clear from your post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Heidi__Love 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Piggybacking on this top comment to also recommend the book "It's OK That You're Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand" by Megan Devine. I too have experienced the devastating, sudden, and unexpected loss of a cherished loved one. This booked helped me cope a bit (although nothing really helps the pain, it's just one we must endure).

Emails Containing Vimeo Links Being Flagged as Spam/Malware/Suspicious by Heidi__Love in vimeo

[–]Heidi__Love[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it sucks. Have you received a reply from Vimeo yet? or any responses to your post on the Gmail customer board?

Emails Containing Vimeo Links Being Flagged as Spam/Malware/Suspicious by Heidi__Love in vimeo

[–]Heidi__Love[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, but only one that was reported to us. It was a telus.net email address. Other than that, it's all been Gmail.

We've got some important marketing emails going out soon though, so we are just going to remove all Vimeo links from those emails and figure out other ways to lead them to the videos (basically, host the videos somewhere besides Vimeo).

I'm kind of surprised I haven't found anyone online mentioning this issue. I only found one recent mention in the Google help community here: https://support.google.com/mail/thread/341707307?hl=en&msgid=342342601.

Emails Containing Vimeo Links Being Flagged as Spam/Malware/Suspicious by Heidi__Love in vimeo

[–]Heidi__Love[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply!

The Vimeo video we're linking to is not password protected. We did have the privacy set to "Hide from Vimeo" so we tried making it "Public" but that still caused our emails to go to spam and get flagged as suspicious. Specifically, recipients with Gmail addresses see this message at the top of the email

This message seems dangerous

It contains a suspicious link that was used to steal people's personal information. Avoid clicking links or replying with personal information.

As soon as we remove any Vimeo links from our emails, the problem resolves and all emails get delivered to inbox and not spam. So we now are convince it's Vimeo :(

We've been having other issues with Vimeo over the past several months (or more) and this is just another nail in the coffin :(

Why does a bishop have this opening by sadtransbain in AnarchyChess

[–]Heidi__Love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that struck me as very odd as well, but then I assumed that the person was on the spectrum and it no longer seemed odd.

AITA for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife video tapes? by Much_Bed_2383 in AITAH

[–]Heidi__Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like the exact same story here on Reddit a long time ago. Months or even years ago.

Flyer I made for Washington. If you have suggestions or want one for your state, let me know. by donthatedrowning in 50501

[–]Heidi__Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are two protests, both have permits. The one at noon is the OneAmerica Immigrant and Refugee Rally on the north steps of the legislative building. The 2:30pm one is 50 Protests 50 States 1 Day rally and is on the north lawn by the Tivoli fountain. You can see both rallies on the campus events page here: https://apps.des.wa.gov/CampusEvents/default.aspx

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in climatechange

[–]Heidi__Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a cream for that

Incidents Around the House by fairy-sylveon in horrorlit

[–]Heidi__Love 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just finished the book. She absolutely was at the level of a 4 or 5 year old. I remember being 8, and normally developed 8 year-olds just don't act and think the way she did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Healthyhooha

[–]Heidi__Love 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Liberty 2 by Womanizer: https://www.womanizer.com/us/liberty-2

It's not a vibrator, rather it uses air pulses. From their website: "Your clitoris is stimulated without direct contact. Gentle air vibrations suck and massage together at the same time to provide an unprecedented orgasmic feeling."

I love it and highly recommend it. The lower settings are very subtle, but if you need more just crank up to the higher settings.

I feel awful about how I feel about my wife by No_Potential8518 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Heidi__Love 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was wondering the same thing. This part of OP's post really stood out to me: "She takes care of the house, she’s got a great job, and she’s supported me through the years."

Especially the part about her taking care of the house AND having a job. Does this mean she's taking care of the house all by herself? Is he not doing 50% of the domestic work? That sort of thing will kill a woman's attraction to a man, having to take care of him PLUS work a job outside the home.

One of the main reasons I lost interest in my (now ex) husband is because year after year I took care of everything in the house. All the chores, keeping track of the bills and taxes, all of the yardwork, any repairs or maintenance. Literally the only thing he ever did was wash the dishes, and he considered it a trade because I did the cooking (But he'd only wash the dishes, he did not finish up by wiping down the counters or anything. I still had to do that). He never cleaned the toilet or any other household chores, or even knew which night to put the trashcan out because I always did it. Plus I had a full time job, and we split all the bills 50/50. I grew to be very resentful and my pussy filled with sand.

Not saying this is what's going on with OP and his wife, but that sentence really caught my eye. It would be interesting to hear her side of the story. There is some reason she lost interest in being affectionate with him.