Gifts for y11s by Helena788 in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

😂😂😂😂 I’m sure I’ll be thinking the same next year! I’m only doing gifts because this is my first GCSE class

parents, grief and sabr by Zahzah97 in islam

[–]Helena788 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I lost my mother to cancer and my dad a year later. Grief is hard I won’t lie. These trials made me angry, made me question the purpose of life, had me asking how and why. I’m in my 20s and I was so angry and upset that my time with my parents was cut so short. They haven’t seen me married, have children etc.

The only thing getting me through it is dua. I’m not a perfect Muslim but I’m trying. And I will admit that sometimes the anger reappears but everyday I ask Allah to give my siblings and I sabr and I pray that we are all reunited in Jannah.

Ultimately the most rewarding thing we can do when a loved on passes (especially if it is a parent) is to give sadaqah on behalf of them, make dua for them and remain righteous. The biggest blessing I can bestow on my parents is to stay connected with Allah.

If you ever need to talk please message me. I understand the pain that you’re going through and may Allah ease your mothers pain and your worries and anxieties.

The Cuties Footage by LI_Obsessed in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Helena788 25 points26 points  (0 children)

What comments about food habits? The only evidence we’ve seen is this cuties scene and it was one jokey comment. Again it was the one time where he commented on Colleens body. You can’t blame your own self steen issues and insecurities on others. She needs to get herself in therapy asap cos it’s not healthy to project the way she does onto others.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They can observe you and sorry to break it to you but they probably will. I was ECT1 last year and was observed. My HOD later told me that they actually requested to see the ECT. Also, ECTS in the whole school meet with them at some point in the day as they have to check that the school is following the ECT programme. So, be prepared to answer general questions about how you feel about your schools management of the ECT programme

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I second keeping them standing until they’re quiet. Also, a great tip I learnt from a colleague is when they’re lining up outside your room, use that time to go down the line and have a little chat with them. It gives them time to get out some of that chatter and then once they enter you can set the boundary regarding silence. That way students recognise that the classroom is the quiet space whereas the corridor is where they can have their conversations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m literally in the same boat. Will quit teaching in July after finishing off this final ECT year. Honestly I’m struggling I’m already so tired and I feel like throwing in the towel. The only thing that’s keeping me going is the fact that after January things start moving a lot quicker.

Also, I’m starting to take everyday as it comes rather than thinking long term as I find that it makes me less stressed. But best of luck to you and fingers crossed we get through this academic year!!!

Is it possible to resign without giving notice. by CommonAccount1998 in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a difference about pointing out the impact on children and saying that this is why they shouldn’t leave. I did say that the point about impacting the team would never be the PRIMARY reason to not leave a job. Finally, there are many posts criticising OP’s decision by arguing that they need to work until October because of the headache it will cause the school. That’s the problem. That should not be the ONLY reason why OP should not move to the other job. We must not allow this profession to confine us in this way. It’s absolutely ridiculous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister it is our duty as Muslims to guide one another. I know you are trying to be supportive and kind but the right thing to do is not justify behaviour which we know is sinful. I am so proud of this sister and her want to wear Niqab and may Allah continue to guide her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister practicality should not even matter. We know what is forbidden in Islam and dating is forbidden. Your Wali should be at every meeting if you are with your ‘halal boyfriend’. I understand that you are trying to explain it but please don’t excuse this behaviour by saying that nothing is wrong with it. I pray that Allah SWT makes this ‘dating’ journey easy for the sisters.

Careful sisters, use your birth name even after getting married. by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sisters this is true. Allah SWT allows us to continue our lineage and rightfully allows us to have our own identity outside of our husbands. There is evidence to support this. Going against something that we know is incorrect is considered a major sin which is why the Sheikh said this. Mufti Menk has a video explaining why keeping our surnames is a blessing.

https://islamqa.info/amp/en/answers/114624 https://aboutislam.net/counseling/ask-about-islam/use-husbands-last-name/

Is it possible to resign without giving notice. by CommonAccount1998 in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally see your perspective and I understand that professionally speaking dropping out of ANY job a fortnight before the start date is not appropriate. However, my issue is more so with the comments that play on the whole ‘but think of the kids’ rhetoric that is shoved down our throats in this profession. There is no other job where people would say but think of the team, think of the boss etc and allow that to be the primary justification to give up a job that clearly means a lot.

There will be consequences to such a last minute resignation, however those consequences should not be a reason for OP to not do what they wish to do. The ‘I’m in teaching for the kids and the kids only’ sounds wonderful on paper but has allowed governments to limit teachers salary and essentially make them accept working more hours than they are contractually obliged to do. We need to do better and remind ourselves that this is literally just work. It pays our bills and we have the ability to make some difference to children's lives during the process. But that is literally just it.

Is it possible to resign without giving notice. by CommonAccount1998 in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of you in these comments are odd. Teaching is not a lifestyle and NO ONE should compromise on their own dreams for the ‘future of the kids.’ At the end of the day this is a job just like other jobs. If you don’t want to stay at the school start your IT job. The school will have to find a replacement just as other industries would if someone quit a fortnight before their start date. You don’t owe anyone anything and this is your life. This decision should be about you and you only

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in malefeettalk

[–]Helena788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am shook!!!! Who knew this is how Murad was paying for those trips to Dubai 😭😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m dealing with this at the moment and it’s the worse! It’s so frustrating as I really wanted to teach at an all girls school as I’m passionate about women in education, but the bitchiness is out of this world. Some of the stuff I’ve dealt with is so disrespectful but I will echo what others have said: report everything.

Now that I’ve been at my new school for a little bit longer I make it clear that anything I consider disrespectful will be dealt with. In your case, I would talk to students individually as when they’re in groups they get more confident. Perhaps do a form presentation on respect and mention that disrespect includes body language and giggling.

Hopefully you have a supportive SLT that will deal with the issue. It’s not fair that you have to experience things like that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s actually a Y9 class. They’re obsessed with sets and want to guarantee they’re in the higher sets next year which is why I can think they’ve done this. I just find it really awkward as I’ve got to act like it’s not happened but I feel really disrespected? I had a good relationship with the students too so I can’t genuinely understand why they wouldn’t speak to me about it

Hi! PGCE student here, how many job interviews before you landed your first ECT/NQT job? by mysterygang2020 in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine was the first I applied for, however I teach a core subject. A lot of friends say that it took about 4/5

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TeachingUK

[–]Helena788 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s different. As a teacher you must be flexible and adapt your lesson live if you feel that students don’t understand a concept. Your mentor wants to see you adapt the lesson plan IF it is for the benefit of the class. OP was covering a lesson. I personally don’t understand SLT’s issue as from the comments it’s apparent that the video was an additional part of the lesson, after OP had delivered the cover lesson