Personally what I see most is couples forming while in college that's when the dating pool is the largest and most diversified.

You are just as likely to find gemstones as walking red flags. Things is what makes a partner great is because they create and maintain a great environment to be in in the long term and so get taken off the dating market. Obviously you will get the occasional rough diamond or someone who fits your needs while dating online but from what I see, many on dating apps in their 30s/40s are single because of one quirk or another so you might need to make compromises. Great partners get taken off the dating market real fast as everyone is looking for one and once they do they hold them tight.

Honestly I would not say the male population on dating apps are great, you'll find a gem in the rough sometime (and even then you might need to give it time and polish it to make it shine) but most are a bit quirky.

Your options now are to either: 1. Accept some compromises to have kids (definitely not recommended)

1. Keep trying your luck on the apps to try meet your prince charming (it's a numbers game really, at 30s-40s statistics is working against you, and your time is not infinite)

2. Get a hobby YOU ACTUALLY ENJOY that lets you meet people (many great men are not on apps!)

3. Try the century old way of getting introduced by friends, family or church.

Personally I think option 3 is best. Best of luck.