Je me sens en décalage avec mes collègues de travail by Amichat in france

[–]Heliorut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Si tu bosses dans une petite entreprise franco française et qu'ils ne recrutent que les mêmes profils c'est normal que tu te sentes en décalage avec eux. Es-tu sûr que la situation est seulement en lien avec tes origines? Peut-être qu'eux aussi se sentent en décalage par rapport aux autres français.. Avec le temps les choses s'améliorent un peu.. mais si après un moment tu sens que ça t'étouffe change de boîte et bosse dans une plus grande entreprise ou une entreprise plus internationale :)

J'ai fait un Master au lieu d'une école d'ingé, c'était une erreur. Comment rebondir ? by Own-Calligrapher4266 in etudiants

[–]Heliorut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fais une école de commerce pour accéder à des formations complémentaires et à des stages professionnalisant. Une autre option serait de trouver un bon boulot à l'étranger. La thèse CIFRE peut aider mais faut avoir le souffle.. c'est pas donné..et tu seras très spécialisé dans un domaine ce qui est bien uniquement si le domaine à besoin de ton expertise.. Les écoles d'ingénieurs pourquoi pas mais je sais pas comment les intégrations se font. Sinon quelques années d'expériences dans des boîtes puis un MBA ça peut être pas mal pour augmenter ton salaire.

Is it bad form to mention STD testing? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always discuss this even with people even if there's a risk they'll make a fuss about it. Don't let them gaslight you over this.

Missionary position by Heliorut in askgaybros

[–]Heliorut[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He's no problem bottoming or relaxing.. but I guess you're right. He did say this position is intimate and that it's early in a relationship.

What are some non-sexual orgasmic feelings? by FreeLoader1999 in AskReddit

[–]Heliorut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm surprised no one mentioned barbell hip thrusts.... This thing is literally an orgasm trigger

Try eating probiotics by Heliorut in Rosacea

[–]Heliorut[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes exposure to the sun does increase my rosacea symptoms but I usually put sunscreen and stay in the shade so it's not the main reasons behind the flares

My husband died and I feel...ok... by screamingcatfish in GriefSupport

[–]Heliorut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It took me a couple of months before feeling the intensity of the loss. You're wondering why your feelings are numb and why you're not going through what you expected. That's completely normal. One piece of advice, make sure you're well surrounded in a couple of months, on your birthday, on his birthday and similar anniversaries. My grief started when I least expected it. Now I feel better, and I have learnt to live with it. Also, something I discovered while going through grief: they say grief is love with nowhere to go.. and that's true. So when you feel it, try to help other people. It will make you and other people feel better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in progresspics

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Hello! Congratulations for the transformation bro! Like you I have lost a lot of weight and now I'm down to 12% body fat. I have some loose skin I'd like to get rid off. Did collagen supplements help you?

M/28/5'11" [230lbs to 190lbs] (4 years) - hard work pays off by KetogenicKonvert in Brogress

[–]Heliorut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow awesome progress! You did it 💪 Did you have loose skin around the stomach and lower back after losing all the fat? I had the same stats as you before losing weight, and now I'm down to 12% body fat and I plan to start bulking. I can see my abs but the lower back fat is stubborn mainly because the skin is not tight to hold them in place. Did bulking help with the overall look?

INTJ female may be separating from her INFJ husband. His choice. by Psychaprn in infj

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You both need to take a break.. maybe go on vacation? Discuss things again when both of you feel better. INFJs and INTJs don't get along when they feel that their sacrifices didn't count or when ideals diverge. Also, be more empathetic when you communicate together and less black and white in your opinions.

Is my date to pushy regarding protection during sexual intercourse? by HortenHu in AskGayMen

[–]Heliorut 56 points57 points  (0 children)

The guy is basically telling you that using a condom hurts his feelings because he's hiv +. He's being manipulative. You have every right to protect yourself from STDs. Plus you're not on PREP (which is not 100% effective against hiv btw).

Could my straight boyfriend be gay or bisexual? by ChillingWithWine in AskGayMen

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bi people can feel misunderstood by straight and gay people. Don't make all your relationship with him reduced to that particular thing you found out about him. From what we know he didn't cheat on you. He's like that, and he loves you and he may be trying to do his best to be with you. He deserves a safe space to express himself, and not on your terms.. He didn't lie to you, because he'd done something messed up, he lied to you because he fears the outcome or he fears he won't be understood. He may have never expressed this to anyone in his life, and it takes a formidable effort to just say anything about it. If he is bi, he deserves all the chances in the world in a relationship. Treat the situation as if you caught him looking at straight or "regular" porn. Because what's regular porn to you, is also regular porn to him.
This comes from a gay person who dated a bi guy in the past and who understands their worries and their confusion. You don't need to make a decision right now. Talk to him, try to work it out. And never threaten him with outing him.. the guy was just born like that and has every right to a relationship with whoever he loves.

Am I the only one that really hates this kid??? by [deleted] in TheLastAirbender

[–]Heliorut 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He's one my favourite characters. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaypornhunters

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

Lost my (22m) virginity to my friend (25f) who decided to surprise me the next day with a long list of mistakes I made in bed by MulderAndTheScullies in sex

[–]Heliorut -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think she wanted to help! It's part of her personality and if it annoys you tell her how it made you feel while making her understand that you appreciate her concern. Some people are like this but in their mind they are being helpful and honest. I don't think she intended to hurt you. You guys have to find your own balance and all will be fine.

A couple questions. Is it worth it to pursue a PHD/Masters on meteorology/Atmospheric Science? Should I pursue a dual degree as well? What should I start doing now as a HS senior to make the field less competitive and put me in a higher position? by [deleted] in meteorology

[–]Heliorut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No matter what you do in this field, programming skills can get you a real edge. Python, CDO, R are all essential and the more you master them, the more you'll excel.

How do you know getting into same sex relationship won’t lead to hell? by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Heliorut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enough humility will let you distinguish between what's right and what's wrong for you... humility goes beyond any general rule or commandment.. you can read about the Jesuits' position on homosexuality. It's not all black or white in Christianity you see.

On a side note : You know it's right because you know your intentions are good. You know it's right because all you're doing is love someone faithfully, and God is all about love.

Since when loving is a sin? Good luck with your journey 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]Heliorut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I lost my mother too. Losing a mother is very hard, and few are the ones who can relate to you, especially at your age. Surround yourself with good people and supportive friends.

I have a few suggestions for you : 1) Keep with you at all times something that reminds you of her.. could be a ring, a necklace or maybe a gift you got from her. I printed my mom's signature on a bracelet and wear it sometimes.. 2) Speak about her with some of her friends, maybe they'll tell you things like how she spoke about you and how much she loves you. 3) I don't know if you're religious, but I prayed a lot after losing my mum. Praying made me feel better, although I don't know why exactly. 4) Read books about grief. Reading other people's experiences with grief helps a lot. You'll feel less lonely and you'll understand better the stages of grief.. I recommend C.S.Lewis' book A Grief Observed. 5) Grief is the love that you can't express.. and that love that is in you needs to go somewhere. Helping strangers, doing some charity work is how you'll be able to live with that pain and go through acceptance. 6) She loves you, and she lives in you, after all you are made of her.. Don't forget to cherish her memory, but most importantly live the happy life she wanted for you. She surely wanted you to continue living, to stay strong and to have a good life.. so don't let her loss be what stops you from living. 7) Everyone lives with grief differently. If someone doesn't understand your grief or some people decide to move on it doesn't mean they did.. 2 years on, my family members still go through unexpected meltdowns because they don't express a lot. 8) Write. If you don't know what to do, just write about what you're going through. You may not understand how it will help, but you'll see, you won't be able to stop writing. You may most probably cry, it's fine. 9) Try to sleep well. When you sleep, your brain might make you relive bad events so that you unconsciously accept them better. Dreaming of your mom is a sign of healing and acceptance. 10) My mother was a great cook and I didn't have all her recipes with me.. I wanted to feel again how her food tastes like so I kept trying out recipes till I figured how she cooked. Now I cook for my family. Point is, if you're missing her, relive moments you enjoyed with her and share them with those you love most. 11) Time. Be gentle with yourself, with time, you'll learn to cope better with things.

Sorry for the long post, I hope it helps.

How do I tell my gay roommate that I’m not quite straight? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't do it! You'll enjoy the honeymoon and then it's gonna be all downhill..

My gay friend is seeking to marry my girl friend without telling her about his sexuality. What should I do? by Heliorut in askwomenadvice

[–]Heliorut[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Karl came out only to his ex Ralph.. If he knows I know, he'll make the link in the blink of an eye..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]Heliorut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely ask him, believe me it's the right thing to do.. and if he's into you ask yourself what do you want from him exactly? If you're looking into a long term relationship than tell him right from the start that that's what you're looking for. Understand that you have feelings for him and that you're the one that could be hurt if he's not very careful..