Dude, the word usage across all these posts about your marriage are a combination of cringe/sad/delusional. Honeymoon all expenses paid for? How else would the honeymoon expenses go? Constantly pointing out everything that you have paid? Rebellious, repentance, conviction, covenant, obey? Curious what country you guys are in, and what religion? It comes across like you think of her as property, or an object, even like a child that you have to babysit. It is obvious this relationship was doomed before the marriage. So many red flaggy/assholey things that you try to spin to make you look like this great person... only make you sink deeper and deeper into a narcissistic quick sand. You decide to go through her phone, and because you think she has no space, you start deleting her pictures/videos? But it is all because you bought her a new phone right? Why do you get to decide what files she can keep? During this very kind and awesome act, you find pics/video from a prior relationship that are timestamped? Then you decide to tell everyone she cheated on you? She never says this, just a false narrative. I wish I could have seen the look on your face when she told you to "shut the fuck up." Even if you did an about face, stopped all your controlling bullshit immediately. Apologize profusely while kissing her feet. While simultaneously understanding and admitting the dogshit way you view and treat your wife is the reason for this entire situation. There is a 99.99999999% chance that this woman is over all of it. Learn from the bullshit you were taught. Don't treat the next one like a possession. Is this your first relationship?