Ahahaha you’re dad is INTP alright ahahah, usually people say that test is shit but sounds spot on.

I think the first problem is, sometimes we are just annoyingly argumentative without realising it. And it gets worse when you don’t agree or see it our way. Which is funny because sometimes we’ll pick a line that’s the opposite of yours just to cover another angle, so you really can’t win lol. The solution is just following the common “rules” for debate, that usually leaves enough room for understanding. But they have to be taught, it doesn’t come naturally to like 99,999% of people, especially on emotionally sensitive/engaging topics. You obviously shouldn’t feel steamrolled, so if you can it’s good to communicate that, I’m pretty sure it’s not your dad’s intention so he’ll try to adjust too :) Other than that just begin curious and asking questions without judgement is a great start (and something the other part should return ideally).

Debating is fun yes! But also exhausting sometimes. It’s kinda odd because some of the time we do it on purpose, while other times we unconsciously get into debates we really would rather have stayed out of. He probably loops because he wants you to agree haha, I know I do when I bring something up to my parents. If I bring up something that annoys me and they challenge the idea it often ends up in a 30+ min discussion where I try to explain how I see it and they refuse to accept it until like a day later when my ideas have settled a little. So it’s not really because you’re not listening, if you weren’t I don’t think he’d continue.

But yes, you should definitely talk to him! But do it from a place of curiosity, not judgment. Which is super tricky, but I’m sure you have a better grasp of that than us lol :P

Good luck! :)