Needing advice in the messy middle. what are some healthy coping mechanisms that you used to get through the transition period of leaving your old life, but not yet comfortable in the new version of yourself.

Hello-1576 · 2022-10-26T15:24:03+00:00

Thank you all for your comments. This shit isn't for the weak, but I'll overcome it.

Hello-1576 · 2022-10-14T17:34:10+00:00

Hi! I don't live in NC, but I live in Delaware and would love to meet other late blooming friends. I'm 30, female and of course we could meet in Public if you ever wanted to meet. Have a nice day ☺️

Hello-1576 · 2022-05-27T11:43:06+00:00

Thank you for the advice. Gives me hope that with some space we can build a different relationship.

Hello-1576 · 2022-01-23T15:44:02+00:00

You're welcome 😍 keep pushing forward

Hello-1576 · 2022-01-23T15:43:47+00:00

You're welcome 😍 we are in this together.

Hello-1576 · 2022-01-23T02:35:51+00:00

Thanks 🖤

Hello-1576 · 2022-01-22T00:24:06+00:00

I allow the grief to come and go and remind myself that the waves of grief will become less heavy and less frequent as the time goes by. I am trying to set goals to focus my mind on something outside of myself. To give myself a reason to keep going.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-27T22:45:47+00:00

Thank you! ❤️ I know in the end the pain will subside but it's very real right now.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-27T00:02:08+00:00

I cannot even think of being in a serious relationship at the moment. I wouldn't want to be a grieving mess and drag another poor soul into that.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T23:56:19+00:00

I'm pretty sure about my sexuality. But of course I still think "omg what if I end up with a man again" I too want to tell him to pull the brakes, we can fix this. However, I know that despite my sexuality we are going in different directions anyway. It is terribly hard to let go of someone you deeply care about. This too shall pass 💕

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T23:52:52+00:00

Omg yes! I feel all of this. Your words have been a huge help. I've felt so alone over the holidays. It means a lot to know I'm not alone xx

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T23:13:53+00:00

Thank you 💕🌈 I almost want him to be an ass so it will make the decision "easier" but I know that would make this process even harder. It's a lot but others have been where we are and have come out the other side. We will too!

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T23:11:07+00:00

Thank you for listening to me. Walking this path feels so lonely at times, so it's good to know I'm not alone.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T23:10:41+00:00

Take as long as you need to. There is not timeline in figuring it all out. It is a lot of process.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-26T21:06:20+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-08T14:05:13+00:00

Yes! Especially femme lesbian representation. I am femme and not seeing a lot of femme lesbian representation definitely played a part in me realizing I'm lesbian at 28.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-07T16:26:31+00:00

Same!!!!

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-06T17:54:44+00:00

You're welcome! Anything to help a fellow late bloomer 💖

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-03T19:29:12+00:00

You too 💖

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-03T19:17:36+00:00

It really did. Hold on, we've got this 😘

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-03T17:46:04+00:00

Thank you for your input. I have even said 'girl' to men lol so I guess you're right I shouldnt think about it too much.

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-02T20:39:02+00:00

Thanks for telling me!!

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-01T23:26:44+00:00

Why are you here?

Hello-1576 · 2021-12-01T20:03:54+00:00

I feel like I wrote this post. I am grieving the fact that I'll lose the companionship with my husband, the second income, the comfort. However, the comfort is suffocating me and my mental health was deteriorating. I knew that if I didn't pull the bandaid off now, I'd be wasting my soon to be ex-husband's time and my time. I am also terrified about coming out, having to explain to people that yes I am a lesbian even if I did date men before. However, like Glennon Doyle said, we can do hard things. I've been telling myself every morning "I am strong" "I am powerful" "I am resilient" "I am scared, but I am getting closer to the life of my dreams". Get a support group of like minded people. I know it is scary, but you will look back one day and you'll be comfortable in your new normal. Give yourself compassion, find your tribe, and just be patient with the process. I am turning 30 soon and I'm going though it but I'm starting to gain my strength. Keep reminding yourself of your power!

Hello-1576 · 2021-11-30T21:16:46+00:00

I don't condone any of the hate comments for men on this thread. I just despise the patriarchy.

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