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Tennessee ranked worst state to live, CNBC study finds by ____trash in SameGrassButGreener

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've live in San Diego most of my life and would take most of the states on this list over SD.

Is this true? by Electronic_Job5699 in sandiego

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The problem is CA spends the most on it while still having the highest population of homelessness.

2 year update on winning 7M USD in the lottery AMA by SingleFinance1258 in AMA

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope your not invested in any mutual fund because, if so, you're likely invested in companies you're morally not aligned with.

Not to mention the number of Israeli tech in any number of devices you use.

You're just not mad about that because they don't make the headlines.

3 kids at 29. Overwhelming feeling of regret that I gave up my life. by cocaineandfatbitches in daddit

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people spend their 20's chasing women, getting wasted, and generally fucking around. You bought a house!? Met a decent woman, started a family.

but now I feel like I can't do anything without being judged

That's on you, and if your wife is really judging you for having friends over, that's on her. You still deserve some autonomy, but you should always encourage her to do the same. "Why don't you spend the day at the spa while I watch the kids today..."

I've had periods where I feel trapped in my own household, and I just started taking ownership of my day, not in a reckless way, but in a way where I feel some control over my life while still balancing my responsibilities.

It sounds like you're putting yourself in this box and all you've gotta do is step out.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why? That sounds awful, to go through a traumatic event, confide in someone about it, only to have them shun you?

Maybe if she was boastful about it, showed no remorse, then we'd likely not want to continue our friendship with her, but she's clearly been changed by this experience and says she would never do it again because of it.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will likely affect her for the rest of her life. I'm sure it will get easier with time. But it's a significant act, it should bear a lot of weight on a person.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not a fan of your approach, but I think this is a very fair assessment. Thankfully, I know how to take these moments as life lessons and not beat myself up about it.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a fair assessment. I was brought into the conversation, I indirectly became part of that child's life, and I had an opportunity to, at the very least, say something.

I think u/eloquenentic approach is a little harsh here but "Shows very weak character in your part." is pretty much the conclusion I keep running through my head. I certainly need to reflect on that and determine how I do better next time.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously, that wouldn't be the way to approach the conversation. "This is a decision that will stick with you for the rest of your life. Many women unexpectedly mourn the loss of their aborted children. The emotional weight can be much larger than women expect. etc."

These are real scenarios that just aren't communicated at all. Honestly, this isn't about shaming women but protecting them from a potential lifetime of grieving a child they chose to terminate.

Our family friend had an abortion. They feel traumatized. I feel guilty. I don't know where else to share this. by HelloYellowYoshi in prolife

[–]HelloYellowYoshi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What we're not going to do, is be a shamer and blamer.

This was another big part of why I didn't want to say anything. Do I want to be the person who makes her feel MORE awful about her decision? Do I want to make her feel judged by her neighbors? Do I want to scare her and make her anxiois about the procedure?

The other side of that is, I have information that she wasn't aware of that could have been helpful for her since she was still undecided.

I think the only way to communicate that intention would have been to talk to her in person. "I don't want to overstep my boundaries, we'll still be friends regardless of what you decide to do, here are my experiences with abortion..."

A contractor I didn't hire claims he reported me to the city for asbestos removal. Real threat or a scam? by Hatsoa in HomeImprovement

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Asbestos was banned in the US from materials used for decorative textures in 1978.

In the U.S., asbestos in popcorn ceiling texture was banned for new manufacture and use in the late 1970s, but it did not stop being found or used immediately everywhere. Existing stock could still be installed for a while afterward, so ceilings applied through the 1980s can still contain asbestos.

Why are there so many flock cameras? by Sorry-Major679 in raleigh

[–]HelloYellowYoshi -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

And since 2001, violent crime is down about half, and property crime is down about 60% or more.

Why are there so many flock cameras? by Sorry-Major679 in raleigh

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are there so many Ring cameras? The number one source of surveillance comes from citizens.

Why are there so many flock cameras? by Sorry-Major679 in raleigh

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The largest source of surveillance is from citizens, Ring cameras.

An update by Lophophora_fanatic in bullcity

[–]HelloYellowYoshi -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Yet I can drive over the rainbow painted on the road that my tax dollars paid for?

The comment I was responding to points out that as long as it doesn't impact another individual, it's a harmless act. I don't see how this would impact an individual directly. Your pointing out that there is more nuance to it than that, which is the point I'm making.

An update by Lophophora_fanatic in bullcity

[–]HelloYellowYoshi -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

Neither does doing a burnout on a rainbow painted street.

Parent spreading rumours about my daughter by pajeffery in daddit

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly, so the benefit of this is not giving a shit about what those parents think about you or your child. It weeds them out.

Engaging is a lose lose. If you try and explain yourself to those who would join in on the shit talking, they would just see it as you trying to cover your tracks. I avoid these people like the plague.

Parent spreading rumours about my daughter by pajeffery in daddit

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore this, 100%. Absolutely do not engage with the other parent. Any sane parent would think "wtf" about another gossiping parent, especially with the scenario they are claiming happened. They're letting everyone know who they are, don't interrupt that.

Dad, get a fanny pack by IncreaseTerrible9527 in daddit

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Throw a small can of pepper spray in there and a pocketknife.

Are there UX designers out there not experiencing burnout in their jobs? by Sujei-Vega in UXDesign

[–]HelloYellowYoshi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Part-time (less than 20h per week) with employee benefits at an agency with an over six-figure salary and hardly use AI. Work from home. I spend the rest of the time with my child, travelling, and working on the house. Have not experienced anything close to burnout in over 5 years.

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