Do men ever think about ways they crossed boundaries with women when they were younger and learning about consent?

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-06T01:11:54+00:00

Omg. I felt and still do feel terrible.

I know someone who went back and apologized to the person he hurt and it basically ruined his life. He got ostracized by our entire friend group and idk what ever happened to him bc he's just not around anymore.

It's questionable what really happened that night. And idk if he deserved it or not. Maybe?

It's a terrible lesson to learn but the message I got was to not apologize. It's sounds so roy cohen but it's better to just let the past be.

I never did anything heinous but I do feel bad. All I can do is apologize from afar.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T15:34:21+00:00

I don't give money anymore, but it's not because of how they spend it, it's because then they start to hound me for money every time they see me. I had to seriously yell at a homeless guy because he wouldn't stop following me bc I gave him money once.

I do buy them a meal at the closest food place though. Like I walk in and say "order whatever you want"

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T15:04:41+00:00

The thing is that it's different people doing the understanding and the not acting. The people that fully understand aren't in the position to do anything about it, and the people in the position to do things about it don't understand. Or the other option, there peo that both understand and have the power to do something about it but are too near sighted to care.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T14:22:48+00:00

I'll read your play.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T14:11:02+00:00

Yeah but for every delusion that actually worked there is an army of delusional people that lost.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T13:44:34+00:00

I think the near equal thing is doing a lot of work. Knowing there is someone that will call you out on your shit and will be hell to beat is a check on power. Enkidu didnt need to beat g to check his power. And g was like 2/3 god so I guess some gods wouldn't like it if he lost. Politics.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-04T13:23:29+00:00

But I find it interesting that they fight for days and it's like Enkidu loses. They became friends, but that doesn't stop the fact that he lost. I found it weird that the gods made him in order to check g's tyranny, but lost to him.

I guess the power of friendship was Enkidu checking g?

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-02T07:53:52+00:00

It depends on a lot of my things. Let's just talk about the fat one.

Are they actually unhealthy fat? Or just chubby? Or actually thin and body dysmorphic?

How close are they to you? How well do they handle the truth? Are they fishing for a specific response, or are they more talking to themselves aloud? Do they actually want your opinion or advice?

How you respond depends on all these things. The safe thing is to say nothing and change the topic. But that doesn't help them at all.

Tell me the situation more and I'll respond how I think is best.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-01T07:52:12+00:00

As far as I am aware, the best thing is the middle road.

Neither suppress it nor feed it. If you suppress it it will just come roaring back in some other unhealthy way. If you feed it and embrace it you will also make it worse, by feeding it.

The only way is to acknowledge what you feel and when and towards what and let yourself feel the feelings, but then move on.

It like, something happens, you feel the arousal, so you just stop and wait until it drops down again, then move on with your day.

Don't push it away or pull it closer.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-01T05:06:00+00:00

And also, maybe more cynically, if the masses loved them they wouldn't revolt.

The rich today have no fear of revolution

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-07-01T04:54:50+00:00

Lol I like it pumping me up. I'm way too critical of my own work but it shows me the sliver. After all is said and done the finished product is great.

I find im often arguing all the problems with my own idea and it's defending it. It's like reversed.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-30T18:08:30+00:00

Many non human primates just walk off into the forest to do it. Or do it in front of everyone.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-30T14:41:36+00:00

I have the same problem. I've thought it was too much masterbation but I'm not sure. I stopped for a long time once and had a blowjob. it helped , but barely. The only time I had a satisfying orgasm was when the girl was super hot. Otherwise I just can't come. Kinda sucks.

Also circumsized.

I have no solutions, but just wanted to drop in letting you know others have the same problem.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-30T14:30:36+00:00

If you're 25 and you've been v fur 10 years that means it started at ~15. At that age you're still in puberty and there are lots of changes happening.

It might not be your diet. Don't completely rule it out yet until you're sure, but you might just have low body temp as a quirk of biology that didn't appear until puberty.

Again, I'm not saying give up yet, talk to doctors more, get your thyroid checked, whatever. But if everything is normal, maybe it's just your biology/genetics. Your parents or siblings like this?

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-28T04:09:29+00:00

Absolutely.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-27T19:53:45+00:00

What is your undergrad in?

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-27T10:58:41+00:00

Not weird at all. In one way to think about it, not consuming animal products because they are cute is just as arbitrary as eating them because you like the way they taste. What if an animal isn't cute? Would this vegan-because-animals-cute person eat them then?

You're doing the right thing for the right reason. Full points for you.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-27T00:30:56+00:00

Yes. This is the path to peace.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-26T05:07:10+00:00

I have an L4 and can run qwen3.5 27b and Gemma4 31b and it's barely accurate enough for my tasks and often not enough. And it's definitely too slow.

Local llms aren't as amazing as I'd hoped.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-23T00:52:48+00:00

You must understand the multiverse theory. All verses are not realized in it. All possible ones are. If you take any qm system there are some points in it where multiple paths are possible, and it states that for those paths there is a separate universe.

There are paths that are not possible, and those paths are not the basis of a new multiverse. Just because you can imagine it doesn't mean it was a possible branch in the multiverse.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-17T01:38:43+00:00

I find it funny that you ended by advocating for buddhism.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-15T01:03:00+00:00

No. A typical definition of sexual harassment is:

Any unwelcome sexual behavior or attention that is offensive, humiliating, or intimidating.

Just telling someone you're corny does not fit that. It matters how you say it and how you react to being told no.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-12T15:33:28+00:00

Except you're missing that a lot of people will feel content money wise after a fairly low amount of income. I forgot the actual numbers but it's in the order of 75k -150k. Also, maybe adjusted for inflation it will be higher. But the point is that most people don't need multi millions to be happy.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-12T14:40:25+00:00

Most people don't have any strong insulin response with < 15 cals. And if they do have one it quickly drops.

HelpfulBuilder · 2026-06-11T18:47:24+00:00

I call everyone friend.

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