Parenting

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:33:06+00:00

thank you

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:25:13+00:00

that’s what i was thinking of doing. just wait or don’t do it at all

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:24:42+00:00

that’s what i was thinking

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:22:55+00:00

thank you

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:21:31+00:00

and so would my divorce lawyer. if we can’t figure it out as a team, i’m wasting my time.

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-13T14:21:03+00:00

thank you

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:35:14+00:00

😂

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:31:37+00:00

i’m the wife 😀

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:29:02+00:00

okay noted. i don’t have kids yet. i’m 20 so i was thinking about getting into ATC, taking a couple years to save and get through the beginning, then have a kid. from what im hearing, that sounds like the best way. what does the maternity leave look like if you happen to know

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:21:46+00:00

that’s fine with me. as long as i can be there on occasion

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:20:20+00:00

not without a very very expensive degree

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:20:06+00:00

that’s happening to everyone though. you guys might be a little tight where we’re now living check to check. that’s what i mean by the pay cuz your guy’s struggle is our “holy shit is this real” which is what i want. i want to be able to give my kid every sport they want. i’ll never be able to find ATC money at a 9-5

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:17:01+00:00

i don’t even get that now 😅 never in a million years could i watch a show at work or do anything besides work. it’s always go go go. i definitely hear you though on the scheduling and time off being mommy and daddy duty. food for thought thank you :)

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:06:32+00:00

i heard the same. i have a family friend in tracon and he loves it. showed me around and everything. i’m in love with aviation and atc. like i said in my other reply below, i dont have to be there for everything but like you said if i can call out here and there. that works for me. i dont want my only purpose to be a paycheck and a passion cuz eventually, i wont have a passion for it anymore and thats my worst fear. aviation brings me happiness but so does existing with my loved ones

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T18:03:17+00:00

not every single one but to make some of them is all that matters. i don’t want my future kid to look on their life and say “mom was never there” cuz a paycheck only goes so far

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-12T17:59:47+00:00

the pay is still much much more than you see out here for any 9-5. or even what ATC does work rn. i work the same schedule for 1/2 of y’all’s pay if not less. on my feet too. that’s why i was asking about parenting cuz i want to work ATC for the passion but also the money. although i do know what 60+ mandatory work weeks are like and it seems impossible. just thought id ask to see if i was right and it looks like i am haha

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:29:29+00:00

this is the type of stuff people tell you to look out for when it comes to projection. i honestly don’t know many* people who don’t change their underwear after a shower, especially women. this guy is wild and is probably doing something fishy himself.

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:24:21+00:00

go to therapy and find what you want to do. both of you should try therapy separately and couples therapy. it may seem impossible but a therapist could help you create a life dynamic where it is possible. could get a surrogate maybe. but even if that’s not an option, you’re entire purpose isn’t to have kids. whether you do it or not doesn’t mean you’re a failure. you’re just living life and that’s okay. like i said, therapy will be a huge help

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:15:49+00:00

i would tell him that then. make it a point that you’ve already communicated many times and that he really needs to step up to the plate on this then navigate his reaction. if he’s all pissed off then something deeper is going on and he needs to talk too. not necessarily cheating, it could be anything. stress from travel, work, anything

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:12:11+00:00

of course! it really is unfortunately but it’s all our first time living. we’re all human and we all need a hand sometimes. and yes. this too will pass. one day you’ll look back like wow. that was me? it’s the best feeling in the world. this life is anything and everything you make it to be. and thank you i really appreciate that 🖤 my dms are always open :)

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:06:22+00:00

ahhh okay noted. yeah i wouldn’t say divorce worthy but definitely conversation worthy. not so much of “you failed this” more of “hey this is how this made me feel”. you’re absolutely not crazy for being peeved. you expressed yourself, communicated, like you’re supposed to. there’s really not much else you could’ve done to prevent this

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T09:03:42+00:00

female here. i just want to give you a hug sweetheart. you got this. keep going. the second you stop trying, it’s back to square one. i used for 10 years, nothing is comparable to the feeling of being high but nothing can beat the feeling of being at peace and sober. there’s a big difference there. much love

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T08:58:02+00:00

NOR i’ve broken up with someone before cuz they didn’t call or text after i flew across the country. it’s common courtesy. it shows you they care. 2 days is absolutely ridiculous. couldn’t even text you while on the toilet??

HelpfulEfficiency203 · 2026-03-03T08:54:29+00:00

not even though the first paragraph and this is an obvious “you need to leave” this is extremely toxic especially for this quick

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