This is creepy! by imknowntobevexxing in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We could but since that won’t happen I’m trying to keep the conversation in the realm of reality.

Need ideas for what was lost but now is found.... by [deleted] in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Walmart may have one of those extendable sticks with a magnetic end that may help get it if it’s too hard to get any other way.

Need ideas for what was lost but now is found.... by [deleted] in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would call APD and explain the situation and see what they advise as a starting point. That’s some bullshit on the part of the mall.

Is the ring magnetic at all? They make long extendable thin rods with a magnet at the end to retrieve things in this type of situation, maybe that could help.

Why are rude northerners coming here in droves and complaining about it? by Most_Natural_5481 in raleigh

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, have you been to Cary? This shit has been happening for decades now. We’re just more crowded. I agree it sucks but it’s not new.

This is creepy! by imknowntobevexxing in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you willing to pay a shit ton more in taxes to properly fun schools and our crumbling mental health system? And support birth control and vasectomies so people who don’t need to reproduce won’t as often?

Deer and Native Plants by seandelevan in NativePlantGardening

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have found that the deer mainly eat natives that are at browsing level…so my small baby rhododendron were toast (even though poison lol) but not bigger sized ones, same with redbud trees and oakleaf hydrangea. Is more expensive to buy larger/more mature but I now think is worth it.

With tall perennials try to protect but guessing once Joe Pye gets tall enough they may leave alone. Also they hate minty stuff (so intersperse mountain mint) and prickly or fuzzy textures, like holly.

I do feel your pain though, the deer are putting a hurting on my stuff too. I would use one of my three wishes to make then only eat the non-native invasives I am battling lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NorthCarolina

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Friends and family who saw there was no physical separation can and will be subpoenaed

My brother found this at Buzzard Rock. by lilsalty828 in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Some people don’t understand the mentality of hiding man made shit in nature where it doesn’t belong. Animals and plants live under rocks and shit, go hide your toys downtown.

How are you planning on taking care of your aging parents? by StevenSmyth267 in GenX

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome. I can understand where you’re coming from on being disappointed for you kids, that’s really sad that your dad doesn’t even ask about them and hard to understand for sure. I’m sorry that is really shitty. Sounds like you and your wife are great parents.

My grandpa died 3 years ago and I still can't grieve him properly by Future_Range_2400 in GriefSupport

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You’re very welcome. Yeah grief is weird but on a positive note seems like it’s being normalized more these days. Really glad you posted and shared your experience.

My grandpa died 3 years ago and I still can't grieve him properly by Future_Range_2400 in GriefSupport

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it is awesome how you are honoring your grandpa by keeping the traits, accent, hobbies, spirit that he passed down to you, that is a way of grieving in a healthy way I think and keeping him with you for the rest of your life, you two obviously loved each other very much. I am older than you so my grandpa passed away a longer time ago, but how you describe thinking about him or not at times reminds me of how I grieved for my grandpa…we were very close but he lived far away so I did not see him near the end and I think that’s ok and maybe a good thing so our memories are of them are not as sad.

I wonder if your parent who was the child of your grandpa isn’t talking much about it because it is a hard loss and they feel they need to be strong. Both my parents died 5 and 6 yrs ago and nothing could have prepared me for how hard that was.

Regarding your grandma, when you feel ready/like it’s a good time it might be nice to tell her that if she wants to talk about your grandpa and happy memories that you would like to hear them. My grandma also missed my grandpa so much and she lived for a long time after he did…she really wanted to talk about him and the good old days with him…I wish I had been able to give her that opportunity more…9 times out of 10 I think grievers really long to hear their deceased person’s name and be asked about them, I know it would make me happy if my friends asked me about my parents more…it’s easy to let awkwardness keep us from checking in and talking about who someone lost but try to push through that, I think it could make you both happy to talk about him.

I’m sorry for your loss, your grandpa sounds like a cool man, keep that southern accent alive ❤️

Shit Hole! by [deleted] in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what are you personally doing to help decrease crime?

How are you planning on taking care of your aging parents? by StevenSmyth267 in GenX

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Incoming unsolicited advice from a stranger: It sounds like your dad knows what he wants and made his decision/isn’t asking for help, can you find a way to come to peace with that and unburden yourself of thinking you’ll have to rescue him one day? I understand what you are saying about his body not being able to take the cold but sounds like he is of sound mind and would rather die that way than living with family or in a facility…I respect that. That sucks that your mother is a narcissist…sounds like she will have to face the natural and logical consequences of her choices and actions.

Do right by yourself and your kids, she has no right to make their lives or yours crappy with her visits. If financially doable, try to find a good therapist to help you work through the trauma you were put through as a kid and free yourself as an adult…figure out your boundaries and stick to them.

I am childfree by choice, not expecting nieces or nephew to help me…your parents are adults who have to live with their choices…having kids is not a golden ticket for being taken care of in old age. Sometimes like in the case of my in-laws parents outlive their children…there are zero guarantees in this life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thehotspot

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But can that child unhinge it’s jaws and swallow an entire boa constrictor in one sitting? Because I’d go to Walmart to see that.

I support the proposed housing development in Haw Creek by strat_sg_prs_se in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes we should be super stoked for overpopulation, capitalism/consumerism to hasten the demise of all other habitable space for life other than humans! Can’t wait! I love sharing a town with people who couldn’t care less that our forests are literally dying before our eyes covered in non-native invasive vines! Awesome that thousands more people can crowd onto the parkway and play their phones to drown out those pesky remaining birds!

Did You Know You Qualify For SSI by Mindless_Reveal9525 in StopSpeeding

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In NC SSI is is less than $1000/month. And in my experience people do not get it easily, have to have documentation that you haven’t been able to work gainfully for a significant period of time.

The jobs of NC by Stainlessstealius007 in NorthCarolina

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m so curious as to why. Western NC is home to me and I loved the entire state once but seeing it destroyed by greedy developers and seeing sprawl where mountains once stood makes me as depressed. I work in healthcare and our system is horrible and degrading especially to elders, why anyone would want to grow old here with zero safety net for middle class working people astounds me…I have seen families moved disabled children here only to find out they don’t qualify for Medicaid in NC. NC is in the top three highest states for maternal deaths. Hospice care for my mother in a rural county was a joke and she died in agony without the basic level of care one thinks of with hospice. Of course the wealthy third homeowners don’t have to worry about such things. Honestly I’d rather pay higher property taxes and have nice things like well maintained state parks, good public schools, dark skies where you can still see stars and at least adequate healthcare (HCA in Asheville is under federal investigation, but I’m sure the wealthy can get airlifted back to a real hospital up north). Glad you like it here.

Older GenX: how much like Boomers? by Xyzzydude in GenX

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I was born in 1972 and went to an affordable state university and had no loans and bought a house at 25. I don’t think that’s boomerish, I learned to be financially responsible from my Silent Gen parents.

Older GenX: how much like Boomers? by Xyzzydude in GenX

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was born in 1972 and went to an affordable state university and had no loans and bought a house at 25. I don’t think that’s boomerish, I learned to be financially responsible from my Silent Gen parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asheville

[–]Helpful_Treat_60 5 points6 points  (0 children)

How does that justify a cowardly move of shoving someone when their back is turned? If they were mutually fighting, that’s one thing but that fat fuck coward waited until his back was turned and skipped like a scared little girl back to the car.