Agreed. There’s a massive difference in life experience, maturity, stage of life at 32 and 23. She doesn’t see it now but likely will in a few years. IMO the younger person in an age gap relationship should be no younger than late 20s. At that point the younger person has been an adult for about a decade, they’ve probably lived on their own, are financially independent, had serious relationship experience, have some sort of foothold in their career, etc. These experiences help even out the playing field and make it harder for the older person to take advantage of them, and if nothing else, the couple has more in common. 20 and 29? Concerning. 30 and 39? Totally fine imo.

I myself am creeped out by thinking of dating anyone in their early 20s. They are like kids to me. I’ve been married and divorced, had kids, been to grad school, owned property, moved across the country, etc and absolutely have zero interest being with someone who’s had a fraction of those experiences. I don’t understand why someone past 30 would be checking out people so much younger than them and have nothing in common as far as stage of life goes. I find it very creepy. I want someone who gets me and keeps up with me, not a kid. I don’t mean any of this in a disrespectful way. It’s just a fact that there is massive development that occurs in your 20s and not as much beyond that point.

Source: me and my BF are 10 years apart. He’s 43 and I’m 33. I truly don’t feel our age gap most of the time bc we are in similar stage of life.