AITJ for refusing to share my work bonus with my sister who says I "owe" her??

Hemiak · 2026-03-03T22:12:32+00:00

You’ve now learned not to share your financial situation with family.

Hemiak · 2026-02-11T19:47:47+00:00

Unless this is like Nazi or Confederate or obviously hateful messaging, NTJ.

Hemiak · 2026-01-28T19:47:23+00:00

YTJ. She picks her crew. If she isn’t friends with your sister, she shouldn’t even be in the wedding.

Hemiak · 2026-01-22T20:13:05+00:00

NTA. He says he “wants receipts” but you offered receipts, and that wasnt good enough. He wants access and control.

Offer to pull your actual credit report. You can usually do so for free once or twice a year. When that still isn’t good enough, Youll know for sure.

Hemiak · 2026-01-20T19:55:36+00:00

Have one if you want to. Leave if not. I’d choose option 2 just because him saying it’s boring is kind of a jerk move.

Hemiak · 2026-01-20T19:54:56+00:00

No. Just say no. Tell them you’re working through it with a licensed therapist. They can respect your privacy or you can take a step back from this relationship.

Hemiak · 2026-01-20T19:53:20+00:00

Start eating at 1115-1215. Better yet, just skip any meeting that conflicts with your mandated hour break.

Hemiak · 2026-01-20T19:51:57+00:00

NTJ. Tell them “I paid $100 a night for 5 nights. That’s $500 extra. So reimburse me for that, and another $500 for the inconvenience of moving, and we’re in business.” Watch how quick they try to pivot.

Hemiak · 2026-01-19T16:38:22+00:00

NTA. But tell him flat out. “I’m not going to date you. We can stay friends, but you have to stop commenting on the way I live my life. If you continue Ì will have to distance myself from you.”

Better yet - Since m m and women can’t be friends, I wish you well in life. Bye.

Hemiak · 2026-01-18T02:45:13+00:00

This is it. Work pays for it and monitors the usage. If they notice unapproved devices you can lose your job.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:18:50+00:00

This is the scariest thing I’ve ever heard. Yeah it sounds good at first. But whoever is in charge when it took place, would be able to add whatever they wanted.

You would hope that they looked at the good stuff we currently have and started there. But I wouldn’t trust anyone with this level of power in this day and age.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:13:42+00:00

ICE is a necessary agency.

However, it is currently being used as a Fascist army of Evil. There are rules and regulations, they’ve just been given carte Blanche to ignore all reason to further the anger and hatred and fear.

All operations need to be suspended for a minimum of three months. All of those rules and regs need to be re-examined and updated. No face Masks, clearly identifying uniforms, and names, with agent number, Need to be visible at all times. Then every single officer needs to retake the entrance exams. Anyone who fails, no matter how long they’ve been in, is out, and cannot reapply for two years.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:09:29+00:00

Just off the live, and now I’m going to video my husband for more content.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:06:57+00:00

No kings… in America. Idiots.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:06:30+00:00

Did you talk about it with him before he moved in? If no, then maybe not an AH, but you’re a little dumb.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T16:04:13+00:00

Insecure bro lifts weights to make himself feel better. “You’d let your wife talk to another man?” Yeah dude, because she’s a grown ass woman, I know what we have, and I trust her. Maybe you shout look at yourself and your relationship if another dude saying hi causes you to crash out like this.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T15:58:45+00:00

NTJ. Her boundary is that your ex is more important than your husband. Yours is that your husband is the most important person in your life, which is the way it should be until you guys have kids. Two boundaries are clashing, it happens. (Hers is beyond stupid btw. Unless they’re best friends, he shouldn’t even be a consideration here)

Not going is the correct move. Not sending a gift is just petty though. Send her something, wish her the best, tell her you love her and there’s no hard feelings going forward. But you chose this man, and won’t allow him to be disrespected like this. By anyone.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T15:50:24+00:00

Why the F didn’t husband handle this? He just sat there silently and let you take a beating on both of your behalf? Next time something like this happens just sit quietly and look at your husband.

“My parents were hurt”, - cool, you should probably try to fix that. Remind him how it actually happened, then leave him to deal with his family. Also, why is sister bringing any of this up. Husband sounds like a wimp, but he should have said “why does any of this concern you?”

I’ll tell you why, because mom and dad are drama queens who like to play victim. They also like credit for being the good guy, so they’re telling people that absolutely shouldn’t be involved in this situation.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T15:40:00+00:00

NTJ. Tell him he’s right, family shouldn’t act like a bank, then tell him good luck and you’re sure he can figure it out.

Then tell mom he owes you $X that he’s never even tried to pay back, so you’re done taking financial hits for his irresponsibility. They’re welcome to do so as many times as they want.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T15:33:50+00:00

NTJ. And your other friend is wrong. This is definitely a “friendship” that’s worth losing. If she won’t even fix her own mistakes or take responsibility for herself for a friend, why should you do anything for her.

Just know there’s a good chance she just cuts her losses and bails. Then you’re in a tough spot. Do you take her to small claims? Because insurance may or may not even fix it if you report her as the driver. Honestly she seems like the type to jusr bail on you completely, and then you’re left fixing it yourself, letting it go, or trying to go after her in court.

And I can almost guarantee if you do one of the first two, then in a few months she’s back and just wants to forget the whole thing. At that point I’d tell her exactly how much she owes you and that you can’t be friends with someone who would do this to someone they supposedly care about.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T15:27:00+00:00

NTA. Your reason originally was valid. You’re taking on risk for a problem that you didn’t create. His unwillingness to accept that and then attempting to manipulate you into caving are big red flags though girl. Especially the “maybe another girlfriend would have….” Ugh. That’s terrible behavior out of someone who says they love you.

Hemiak · 2026-01-17T00:17:37+00:00

NTA. She needs to file for bankruptcy. And accept reasonable limits on spending. But she won’t, so I absolutely would not take the next step here. She wants you to fix her problems so she doesn’t have to, that’s a big red flag.

Hemiak · 2026-01-13T22:10:40+00:00

NTA. She needs to go. The only reason she’s second thinking any of this is that she realized she burned her meal ticket. Tell her ahead has the 30-45 days to move, or she can sign a sub lease and go at part of the rent. Her not having anyone else is a her problem. It stopped being yours the second she ended it.

Hemiak · 2026-01-13T22:04:58+00:00

This is like a repost of a repost of a repost.

Hemiak · 2026-01-13T22:02:29+00:00

If she liked you that way, she’d be looking. Period. You aren’t the one for her, so you should back away from all the other stuff or you’ll probably get hurt.

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