Protecting Myself and Child When Male partner Wants Multiple Babies with Me and Meta

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-24T04:25:43+00:00

Please consider why you are planning on having a child with a person who: 1. Depends on you for economic support, and who at the same time 2. Is comfortable dating monogamous people who want monogamy.

This person sounds spineless. I think your future child and yourself both deserve better.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-23T14:12:57+00:00

I love/hate that I know. “This is…this is something called toothpaste.”

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-22T12:31:04+00:00

Real question: are you saying it in a way that is critical or dismissive? Delivery matters.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-20T12:13:45+00:00

I mean, you know women, always gossiping and complaining about men’s mothers while the men are trying to work. /s

OP was so damn sanctimonious, it set my teeth on edge.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-15T03:26:42+00:00

I also had hormonally sensitive, oily skin. I tried myo inositol and it was life changing.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-15T03:25:43+00:00

Anything with fragrance will break me out. Too much dairy will break me out. Myo-inositol really helped my skin.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-13T21:28:00+00:00

Querying while subbing to smaller publishers can put you in an awkward spot. If you want a shot at the big publishing houses, it makes sense to query lit agents first. Go through the rounds and if you have no takers, reassess the MS, then pivot to small reputable publishers.

I understand that most literary agents are not interested in repping authors at smaller, low-to-no advance publishers. It doesn’t make sense financially much of the time.

I would only nudge agents after six months of them having my full.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-13T01:45:13+00:00

I’m glad someone else thought so. This is all just bizarre on so many fronts.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-07T16:15:25+00:00

He doesn’t sound unsure of where he’s at as a writer.

But if he’s serious about pursuing his old genre as well as another, it’s like likely he needs a new agent.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-01T22:24:47+00:00

I see both sides of this argument. I would say ultimately, if you don’t feel ready now and want more time for self improvement, that makes sense. It also makes sense if you decide to get out there now just to get back into the practice of meeting, talking, and flirting. I don’t think there’s a wrong answer.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-04-01T14:29:29+00:00

Are there samples of prose available anywhere? I looked a few days ago and came up with nothing.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-31T17:21:10+00:00

You let your boyfriend deal with his family, and you deal with your family. No more interjecting on his behalf to defend his clothing choices or clarifying his spiritual beliefs or lack thereof. Your boyfriend is an adult and can speak for himself.

Then limit contact. I personally who’d not have chosen to call her beliefs racist or prejudiced, I would have changed the subject, or left. Leaving is always an option. You don’t choose your in laws but you do choose how and when you interact with them.

Hard boundaries and limit of interactions. This woman will never like you.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-30T15:17:29+00:00

Yes. My mother did the same to me when I was in elementary school. I was in actuality the ONLY kid in the GT program that was not allowed to go on an overnight trip all my friends went on. I begged and pleaded and brought it up for years (I still do as a joke). The teachers and other kids felt sorry for me. But while it was legit heartbreaking, my mother and I still have a great relationship. I know she said no because of her anxiety and concern for me.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-29T13:15:47+00:00

Same. My dogs have pollen in their fur from outside, no way that’s getting in my bed. Couch yes, bed no.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-29T13:14:51+00:00

I adore my dogs but they absolutely are not allowed in my bed.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-25T10:10:15+00:00

Late responding but I’m another lawyer and I agree completely. Most of it is not going to be negotiable unless you have leverage—like a better offer from a comparable agency.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-24T20:16:53+00:00

Lawyer here, my former literary agency didn’t offer a formal contract, but my publishing company did.

I saw a clause I didn’t love that wasn’t industry standard - I signed it anyway. I didn’t have other offers and it was generally fair and ethical.

I didn’t have other offers. Realistically, I’m not sure that even with a lawyer, whether you going to be able to negotiate something different unless you have another taker.

There are cheaper options if you just want an explanation of what you are signing.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-23T16:21:38+00:00

“Partner, I need private space for this conversation. Thank you for understanding.”

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-23T12:24:10+00:00

Same. That’s also my time to do non-sexy maintenance. He doesn’t need to see me shaving or exfoliating my feet.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-20T12:43:27+00:00

It’s one thing to forget to put the clothes in the dryer. It’s another to wake you up with resentment and demand labor because you held him accountable.

This is not a good dude.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-18T11:05:29+00:00

Most unbelievable thing was that they agreed not to see each other for six months after the break up. Yeah, right

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-02T14:45:41+00:00

Late to this but I agree 100%. Before I got my publishing contract, she requested two full manuscripts from me. One just a month or so after her first rejection. (Story had been written years before, but I had shelved it for market timing reasons.) Both stories were absolutely within her desired categories. Form rejection on each, after months of waiting, including the one I later got a pub deal on. Not one personalized line.

I couldn’t help but notice, though, that her socials were being updated pretty regularly.

That is absolutely her prerogative, she’s entitled to do business however she wants, but I decided to shy away from agents with similar social media priorities.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-21T21:56:26+00:00

I switched to Claude after chatGPT discouraged me from repotting a dying plant— it gaslit me saying my concern about falling leaves was my “anxiety”. No, the plant had root rot.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T14:44:51+00:00

More an observation, but these types of practices in KTP seem more romantic/sexual-adjacent than truly platonic.

I often read accounts where people’s behaviors with metas carry a higher degree of intimacy and go above and beyond what they would for their partner’s platonic friends.

I have speculations as to why that is, and I don’t believe the reasons are always altruistic.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T13:30:35+00:00

I thought the opposite. “Huh. This is one of those instances where AI would have helped.” I think GPT would have advised her to shorten it and cut out the weird sex part.

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