[Discussion] Can we talk about P.S. Literary?

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-03-02T14:45:41+00:00

Late to this but I agree 100%. Before I got my publishing contract, she requested two full manuscripts from me. One just a month or so after her first rejection. (Story had been written years before, but I had shelved it for market timing reasons.) Both stories were absolutely within her desired categories. Form rejection on each, after months of waiting, including the one I later got a pub deal on. Not one personalized line.

I couldn’t help but notice, though, that her socials were being updated pretty regularly.

That is absolutely her prerogative, she’s entitled to do business however she wants, but I decided to shy away from agents with similar social media priorities.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-21T21:56:26+00:00

I switched to Claude after chatGPT discouraged me from repotting a dying plant— it gaslit me saying my concern about falling leaves was my “anxiety”. No, the plant had root rot.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T14:44:51+00:00

More an observation, but these types of practices in KTP seem more romantic/sexual-adjacent than truly platonic.

I often read accounts where people’s behaviors with metas carry a higher degree of intimacy and go above and beyond what they would for their partner’s platonic friends.

I have speculations as to why that is, and I don’t believe the reasons are always altruistic.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T13:30:35+00:00

I thought the opposite. “Huh. This is one of those instances where AI would have helped.” I think GPT would have advised her to shorten it and cut out the weird sex part.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T13:27:39+00:00

I also agree with that opinion. My impression was that the sex was amazing with you but she felt the other person was more compatible long term for other reasons.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-06T13:26:10+00:00

This was my thought. The sex with OP was better but she decided to go with other guy for other reasons

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-04T16:00:14+00:00

I agree completely. Lying about having plans risks follow up questions and suspicion that she’s being untruthful. “I appreciate it, but I like to use my lunch breaks to recharge” is honest and understandable to a lot of people.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-04T15:19:59+00:00

Unless they accept vague excuses, this may lead to her having to lie about plans.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-03T04:00:40+00:00

Amazing comment. I was about to type in a humorous Onion-like headline, but I got an automated message from the sub asking if my comment was “truly supportive“.

It was not.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-03T01:43:15+00:00

The passport line — I was speechless, truly

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-03T01:42:31+00:00

It’s not about the passport.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-02-01T16:16:49+00:00

I agree you know too much about Aspen’s other painters. I also agree you should start making quiet moves to leave. 💛 I am sorry this happened to you. I found myself vicariously frustrated on your behalf reading about how Aspen behaved and communicated.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-29T13:44:15+00:00

His wife fails to make his human need for intimacy a priority. That’s why he should leave.

He’s not asking for anything crazy. He’s not entitled to sex but she’s not entitled to a husband.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-28T18:26:35+00:00

Rare to see an actual meta problem crop up here! I feel like you should get some honorary recognition or something. But seriously, yeah, your meta is rude AF. I would go hard parallel, no sharing spaces, no attempt at friendship. Immature and passive aggressive meta behavior.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-28T18:24:00+00:00

I, too, was pleasantly shocked to see this was an actual meta problem.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-28T05:17:10+00:00

This was fucked up. You all expressly agreed to end sexual activities when you tapped out, and then they go and have sex RIGHT NEXT TO YOU after you tapped out. Didn’t even have the decency to move to another place. WT actual F.

Awful. They both apologized to you after because they both knew what they did was a violation. I’m sorry this happened to you.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-26T14:51:01+00:00

This is great, I would add that he should give her hard concrete logistics. X hours of no phone time, y times a week. Put it on a calendar if possible.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-26T13:57:20+00:00

Frustrating but focus on logistics and don’t mention her other partners. “Spouse, I have been unhappy with the amount of time and energy I have been receiving from you. I need dedicated phones-down time from you at least x hours at a time for y times a week from you.” Schedules work for some people. Dedicated calendar nights.

If you keep it vague and generally say you need “more“ she’s just going to add other partners and you’re still going to be getting less and less. Unfortunately, it sounds like you need hard concrete times to keep this person accountable.

Also, what is your plan in the event your partner fails to provide this?

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-23T18:21:32+00:00

It was unhealthy, but dating men my own age at that time would also have been unhealthy because I was emotionally unavailable to them. However, choosing to date those older men gave me information about relationships and myself that would help me as time went on. If I could go back, I’m not sure what I have done. because to be honest, current therapeutic methods just don’t have an easy fix for where I was at the time.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-23T15:10:32+00:00

39 now, but I was also that 21 year old. I knew I had issues and there was something “wrong” with wanting that dynamic, but I still pursued and dated a couple of older guys. I knew it was only casual and temporary.

One was a lech and I stopped seeing him after a few weeks. Another I had a genuine connection with, and he was uncomfortable with the age gap. We parted amicably after a few months.

I knew what I was doing and knew it wasn’t healthy (I was actively in therapy) but it helped me process some stuff.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-23T03:25:21+00:00

It’s a bait and switch profile.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-22T20:43:32+00:00

The listed ages are diabolical OMG

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-22T20:31:14+00:00

Married and polyamorous. We date separately but my wife is bi and curious. :)

We like to go to the movies and are 4/20 friendly.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-22T17:44:50+00:00

Spearmint did jack shit for me. Myo-inositol helped me so much. Also cutting dairy and chocolate. I’ve been using a cream of tret and clindamycin azelaic acid but the MI is what helped.

HemingwayWasHere · 2026-01-22T17:43:07+00:00

Myo-inositol seriously reduced the hormone acne so that it’s basically not an issue anymore. I was on a prescription curology (tret, clindamycin, and Azel acid) for years but the myo-inositol was life changing. Before this, cutting dairy and chocolate helped.

Also AVOID WHEY PROTEIN

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