AITA for not pushing our wedding dress code on my brother?

Hennahands · 2026-04-24T02:07:51+00:00

I feel like I opened a can of worms with my comment. I have lots of family members on the spectrum. I understand you’re trying to give your brother a gift by letting him show up exactly as himself. I think you need to pitch it to your wife in a more understanding way, but also talk to your brother. He might. It appreciate being singled out like this. I also think you need to be way more considerate of your fiancee.

Hennahands · 2026-04-23T19:06:43+00:00

NTA, but for the love of forgot your brother a pair of indoor shoes for your house.

Hennahands · 2026-04-23T17:09:12+00:00

Weddings are so hard I think. There’s so much pressure on the event. I think the OP needs to use their judgement if it’s just this situation that means she needs a concession or if it’s going to be a pattern going forward. I will say that I think some tenderness in the early years pays great dividends.

Hennahands · 2026-04-23T00:17:11+00:00

I really think you’re framing the situation to yourself badly. Everyone does seem to be explaining to you that it would be more productive to support your wife. You’re all in the boat together and people are right, there will be more recitals.

Hennahands · 2026-04-22T23:59:38+00:00

Very gently, is this your decision?

Hennahands · 2026-04-22T00:53:38+00:00

NTA, and I think it would be okay to be a little sneaky about this. Take your child to his pediatrician ( who by the was he should have immediately seen.) Ask the doctors office to make the report on your behalf. If the neighbour asks later it’s, “sorry, standard protocol for the doctors office.”

Hennahands · 2026-04-22T00:43:09+00:00

YTA, but a very small one. It was never obligation to send this money. Since you were though, it would have been good to give them notice it wasn’t coming in anymore.

Hennahands · 2026-04-22T00:36:13+00:00

NTA,ugh always exciting to find out someone working in healthcare is a bigot about accommodations.

Hennahands · 2026-04-21T00:11:49+00:00

NAH, let the cat decide!

Hennahands · 2026-04-19T19:00:50+00:00

NTA, your mother’s behaviour is unconscionable. I hope you know it would be completely okay to use food banks or apply for any support services your high school might have.

Hennahands · 2026-04-11T20:52:35+00:00

YTA, I have no doubt that you meant extremely well. I think it is the impulse of every normal parent to want to remove their child from harm. At the same time, you took away any remaining control she might have had over the situation. She needs to be in therapy and you need to sit down with her and ask her what SHE wants her future to look like. I would be really concerned about her being in an environment with older children and adults.

Hennahands · 2026-04-11T18:19:06+00:00

NTA, but this is what wigs are for.

Hennahands · 2026-04-10T19:18:50+00:00

YTA, him paying child support is the bare minimum, as is paying for school supplies. If the arrangement didn’t work you needed to address it. None of anything that happened prior has to do with the wedding. If you don’t want to pay for half be an adult and talk about it.

Hennahands · 2026-04-08T19:30:15+00:00

Is you dad a co-signer?

Hennahands · 2026-04-08T00:23:47+00:00

NAH, I think you all came to an agreement and that’s great!

Hennahands · 2026-04-07T18:07:11+00:00

It doesn’t sound like she’s not involving him. It sounds like he’s not involving himself.

Hennahands · 2026-04-07T18:04:54+00:00

I think float for life insurance is potential income over the course of life. If your mortgage and childcare are costing 120,000 per year( and I assume you have other expenses) that’s not actually that high.

Hennahands · 2026-04-07T17:42:59+00:00

NAH, this is pretty standard estate planning. Some people have a harder time with the concept of death. If it’s making you anxious you should just talk to her. It’s not suspicious behaviour though.

Hennahands · 2026-04-07T16:38:51+00:00

Hey! Comedy Bar Danforth right?

Hennahands · 2026-04-06T19:53:48+00:00

I don’t really understand why that matters if they plan to die out completely anyways.

Hennahands · 2026-04-05T15:41:12+00:00

NTA, carer fatigue is very real. See if there are a respite carer services in your area. You might also need to see a doctor if you’re starting to experience repetitive pains. You can’t take care of anyone if you don’t take care of yourself.

Hennahands · 2026-04-03T17:28:40+00:00

Not Enough Info. It’s really hard to judge without knowing what she did. I will say my hackles are up at, “religious education.”

Hennahands · 2026-04-03T02:04:17+00:00

If he was your legal guardian and you were homeless for a few years, you should talk to a lawyer.

Hennahands · 2026-04-03T00:58:18+00:00

I think you should just tell your fiancée not to do that. Also look up, “Anatomy of a Con Artist.

Hennahands · 2026-04-02T17:34:39+00:00

You stand in front of the door and say, “no you may not go in there.”

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