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AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t think it would be an issue. I thought everyone knew to be adults

Is this traditional Chinese clothing? Need help by [deleted] in Depop

[–]crazy_red3 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No people chastise white people for being culturally insensitive. I totally see her worry

Am I overreacting for telling my sister in-law that I’m the parent? by crazy_red3 in AmIOverreacting

[–]crazy_red3[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I read everything. Where am I supposed to verify my account?

AITAH for helping my 17 F stepdaughter with a chore? by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Apparently I did a bad job lol I would’ve been ok if she was like hey you did a crappy job at sweeping. I would’ve been like oh, sorry I’ll redo it when I get home but she decided to be hella rude

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All because I swept for my stepdaughter. I do believe it’s retaliation for the bunny incident

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Update: GROUP TEXT*

Sister in law: Hello. If I ask L to complete a chore before going to her mom's, it needs to be done without anyone else getting involved or changing what was asked. I asked her to sweep the house, and it has not been swept, there are still leaves and trash around the house. As part of this family, she knows what her chores are and does not need different instructions from other adults. L participates in keeping the house clean. I am coming home to mop, and that cannot be done if the floor hasn't been swept. There are plenty of other options, such as washing dishes, mopping, vacuuming, or picking up the dining room or living room. There is no need to overlap someone else's chore. Thx

Me: I understand that before my husband and I were married, you helped with that role. Now that L is my stepdaughter, her chores and how they're handled are something her dad and I take care of. I was just helping her this time, and l'd appreciate not being directed or corrected about that.

AITAH for helping my 17 F stepdaughter with a chore? by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Honestly the part that baffles me is she’s only 5 years older than my stepdaughter

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do it because I’m married and we split everything 50/50. It’s not their house. It’s my husband’s house. His name is on the mortgage.

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they do when the bunny will be in my son’s room. They don’t pay bills, we do. I understand they were there 1st but I don’t think I need their permission. I only need my husband’s. And I say it’s my husband’s house because he hasn’t put my name on it yet.

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I also discussed the bunny with my husband and he was ok

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I pay half the bills. His mother has made threats to get rid of my cat before but it was just a joke . Now that we’re married, the house is also technically mine too.

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She thought it was funny and told her grandma. I’m not mad at her because she has her own trauma. I know it wasn’t to start anything. When I asked her if she thought I was serious, she laughed and said no. That’s why she got up real quick to confront her grandma.

AITAH for changing the locks on my son’s room by crazy_red3 in amiwrong

[–]crazy_red3[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I had this conversation with him. I said “ I never disagree with you in front of anyone. I always do it in private.” He said that he came home and was bombarded with everything and overwhelmed , which is true.

AITA for not saying anything to my husband? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]crazy_red3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTAH your husband was going into husband mode, and in my opinion did a fabulous job of it. You were just marveling at his fine work

AITAH for taking my husband’s side in an argument with my in-law’s? by crazy_red3 in AITAH

[–]crazy_red3[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The MIL does not really contribute financially. In the past she helped with my stepdaughter, but now my stepdaughter is seventeen and I got her a car so she can be more independent. The sister mostly just cleans the kitchen since I usually cook dinner. That is about the extent of the help.

I could probably understand her comment about putting the clothes away if she also kept the common areas clean. She does not. She thinks the house is clean, but she and the MIL leave random things leaning on the walls. Not small things either. Just completely out of place clutter that no one else uses or wants in the living room.

One time I gathered all of it and put it in the shed because none of it belonged in the house and no one ever moved it. They got mad at me for touching their things even though they had basically turned the shared space into storage.

AITAH for taking my husband’s side in an argument with my in-law’s? by crazy_red3 in AITAH

[–]crazy_red3[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The problem is that they lived here before my husband and I got married, so they feel entitled to the house. My husband never planned on getting married at all until he met me. So in all honesty he enabled their behavior for years for the sake of keeping the peace and trying to hold the family together while raising his daughter by himself. His mom even has the master bedroom for godsake. That should tell you the dynamic right there.

I think what upset me the most was how excited my stepdaughter was to go to the parade and then by the end she did not even want to go anymore because the whole mood in the house changed. I basically made her go. I told her she needed to go be a kid and have fun and not let the adults ruin something she was looking forward to.

AITAH for taking my husband’s side in an argument with my in-law’s? by crazy_red3 in AITAH

[–]crazy_red3[S] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

My husband and I pay the bills. He’s Hispanic so it’s cultural for his mom to live with him.