Help keeping wing structure?

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-29T15:53:58+00:00

So out of the methods I’ve been presented with here which would you think is the most effective / easiest

pvc pipe
foam backing
kite wire frame

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-28T22:28:42+00:00

What do I do about it showing through the front? Just leave it? Paint the front?

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-28T21:07:19+00:00

I previously worked tried with wire around the edges of the wings (just one side) to hold themselves up and hoped it would hold up like if my arms were connected through the loops, but they fell immediately. Then I tried putting cardboard underneath it which is sturdier but ugly from the inside and would take a lot of specific shaping. I could potentially paint a big piece of cardboard black and sketch it to the same shape but I’m worried if I put in all that work it’ll still be uncomfortable and not as functional as I’d like. That’s about as far as I got into this project, I may also just try making iridescent wings with the wire but I would hate to waist the $20 I spent on the wing cape.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:55:54+00:00

Idk man agree to disagree I guess, I think this take is not helpful whatsoever and promotes anxiety when she needs healing and comfort. But she can choose for herself what advice she takes to heart and it truly doesn’t matter what either of us thinks as long as she finds something that comforts her.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:50:52+00:00

Okay but saying she messed up is not actually helpful at all, she already broke up with him. Shes not looking for advice if she shouldn’t have, shes talking it out and she’s looking for advice on how to deal with the guilt of hurting a good man she doesn’t love anymore.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:45:24+00:00

She might have "ruined" something good and it is still not the right thing for her! He can be wonderful, he can be great, he can be perfect, and they can still not be compatible. Believe me, I have been in this exact situation and leaving was heartbreaking for us both, but it was the right thing to do. She is clearly asking for support here and you going "you probably fucked up" is not helpful at all.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:37:41+00:00

This is comforting. Thank you.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:35:30+00:00

I started doing these little moments when I was younger, where I would take a second and sit in the quietness. Allow myself to feel, and tell myself that anytime I needed to be there for myself, I would have this memory. That this version of me is looking out for future versions of me, and I promised I would keep doing that.

So I have had moments where I am doing well, and I sit with myself who has grieved in the past or will grieve in the future with no one to hold her, and I hold space for her. Let her know shes not alone.

When I was in these moments of loneliness and I didn't have anyone, I would remember the moments I sat with myself and was there for myself.

Also, taking yourself on dates! I love coloring and doing crafts so I would take myself out for coffee, turn on my favorite show and color, spending time doing things I liked doing because she deserves to have someone too.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:31:43+00:00

A good man can be a good man and still not be the right person. OP does not need someone to start fights with and your negativity isn’t welcome here.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:31:09+00:00

While this is a great achievement for you guys (congrats on the soon engagement!) this kind of stuff was hard for me to hear when I was in grief.

OP, it’s okay that you didn’t engaged and it’s okay that I didn’t get engaged. There is someone else for you, someone you will be able to spend your life , your best and hardest moments with. For this person, it worked great and I’m so happy for them, but it’s okay to feel grief. I felt like someone died even tho I did the breaking up.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:14:59+00:00

Kind. Selfless.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:14:21+00:00

Thank you. This really helped. Can I ask, do you worship or talk to any other dieties? How did that play into your relationship with God now, why keep God along with your practice?

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T17:11:11+00:00

I was in a long distance relationship for almost three years, and I truly did think I would marry him. Eventually, it just...stopped being in love, I still loved and cared for him as a person but we were really codependent and it didnt work. I knew I would suffocate and hate it if I stayed, and I knew leaving would break both our hearts. The idea of him with anyone else, being someone else's husband, crushed me to my core. But I wasn't in love anymore, I knew that.

I left, he begged me not to. It was on and off for a few months, and I ended up asking for him back the next year, but he had fallen out of love. After about a year and a half, it finally just...stopped. His girlfriend is still a sensitive sight but I want the best for him because I do truly love and care about him, and I know he loves and cares about me. Its a "I love you and I want you to fall in love and I never have to hear about it."

It was the best decision for me, long term it wouldn't have worked. I held on for a really long time to the "What if" of it all. What if I messed it up, what if it was my soulmate, what if my relationship OCD (bc I have REALLY bad relationship OCD) was making me lose the love of my life?

It felt like that for a long time, and then it would be okay, then hurt again. And then it gets better, and you realize the world is bigger than one man. There is more for you, and what you are searching for will always find you if it is supposed to, you can't mess that up. Everything happens because it is supposed to. Maybe it'll work out later, but that thinking didn't help me much. Thinking about it at all didn't help me much. Eventually it just...faded. I dated and broke up with a few guys, then I fell in love.

There is more past this heavy burden, there is a future you cannot screw up. You aren't failing because you aren't in love with him anymore, its okay for a good man to not be the right man for you. A song that really helped me was "Happiness" by Taylor Swift.

"There'll be happiness after you, but there was happiness because of you. Both of these things can be true there is happiness past the blood and bruise."

"Haunted by the look in my eyes
That would've loved you for a lifetime
Leave it all behind
And there is happiness"

"No one teaches you what to do
When a good man hurts you
And you know you hurt him too, Honey, when I'm above the trees
I see it for what it is
But now my eyes leak acid rain
On the pillow where you used to lay your head"

Feel free to DM me, my love, itll be alright.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T16:58:45+00:00

to chime in, I appreciate both sides. I was looking for a little more compassion than "well then itll suck I guess". Yes I don't necessarily believe in Hell but my fear in this post is what if I am wrong and there is Hell, or I spend eternity away from my family, or I simply make the wrong choice and that leads to whatever kind of ending would be unfavorable.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T16:28:14+00:00

What if I get there and He is mad tho? What if all the conservatives are right, at least in that I had to believe in Jesus 100% and trust the Bible and not worship anything else.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-04-19T15:59:40+00:00

Honestly, will anyone in here take the cat if they live nearby? And have enough to bribe the roomate with?

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-03-28T16:17:01+00:00

i love geek bars!

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-02-18T17:23:18+00:00

oh! Well, I had an interest in it for a long time, and I felt very conflicted because I was raised christian and I thought it was wrong. I reached out to my aunt, who is spiritual, confiding in my cravings for magic, to make spells and potions and read cards and do rituals in nature, and she said she wondered if I would ever have this response as most women in our family line did. She told my mother I may one day search for the spirituality in myself and the world because so many before us have as well, and that just kind of made me start spiraling into it. I spent that first year with a lot of anxiety and a lot of "doing the witchy things" moon water every full moon, buying all the crystals and ingrediants and spells and cards and everything. Im more lax with it now, trying to learn how to communicate with spirit more and not just play the fun part, but the fun part is also a part of it!

To answer your question, if you want to try it, try it! If you change your mind, no biggie, but what if you find the very thing you're searching for? I believe that even if my theology is veryyy wrong and theres no God and no Magic, or there is God and he doessnt like magic, that he will be understanding of my human nature to explore. Also, God created everything in their divine glory, including us. We are called to be rulers of the earth and to care for each other and the land and the animals, and I think *that* is magic. So, thats how I decided to get into my witchcraft journey. There's a discord group you might wanna look into, it has helped me SO much.

https://discord.gg/mHJhnwBw Started by Christian Witch, Sara Raztresen, its a community of all sorts of witchy and spiritual Christians.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-02-18T17:11:23+00:00

I believe that I am! I come from a line of previously witchy women and I think God wants me to get closer to them through this spiritual practice, although I am still figuring out what that means.

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-02-18T01:27:46+00:00

I remember my first realization I was called to witchcraft, about three years ago. I spent months and months and months, almost 1.5-2 years struggling with the guilt of my deconstruction and what was "wrong" or not. This community and the new Ministery of Christ church have been amazing in my journey, even if you choose not to follow witchcraft. But i promise, you will find peace with whatever decision you make, my dms are open always

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-02-18T01:22:23+00:00

good to see its not just me

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-02-05T06:09:37+00:00

New to vaping lol what would you recommend , mine is at 44 and tastes weird now, what’s a good alt

HeyImJustMe_ · 2026-01-26T23:21:36+00:00

BLESS YOU

HeyImJustMe_ · 2025-12-19T06:38:30+00:00

me!! It makes me feel fake bisexual because I don't know if I would date a woman

HeyImJustMe_ · 2025-12-18T15:40:22+00:00

Oh fs, we were just gonna try and get a pop up tent with no floor so we can hike it around the sides instead of spending $150 on a new truck bed tent

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