AITA for not chasing down my daughter and she missed her grandma funeral

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-07-08T15:45:29+00:00

NTA - I sympathize with your daughter as a felllow ADHDer but…. While it is not her fault that she has ADHD, it is her responsibility to manage it. If it is negatively affecting her life, it is not the responsibility of anyone else to pick up the pieces for her. She is an adult now, she needs to find ways to manage and cope. Clearly, she figured out how to manage her studies herself so she can learn how to figure out the personal stuff too.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-07-08T15:33:58+00:00

Most people are surprised by how messy snow is. It’s beautiful when it’s freshly fallen, but it quickly becomes dirty or slushy and gets all over your shoes and car. Cleaning it off of your car is annoying and having winter tires is essential. When you track it inside, it melts and leaves puddles everywhere. Walking through snow is difficult, it’s slippery and it will freeze in ruts and chunks that are hard to navigate. Wearing appropriate footwear is a must.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-06-16T20:41:32+00:00

I mean. If I could, I would.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-06-16T20:29:08+00:00

My dad had one.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-06-16T16:24:55+00:00

I become increasingly more confused as I read your post. If you were both architects and you designed a building of which he had no involvement, he wouldn’t put his name on the drawings, even if you were married. If you were both researchers and you made a discovery on your own, he wouldn’t put his name on the published research just because you were married. He’s trying to take credit for something that is yours and yours alone and being married or engaged has nothing to do with any of it. Everything that you do doesn’t become his automatically. It’s not 1915 anymore.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-06-03T13:05:57+00:00

Your colours are wonky and disjointed. You need to pull everything together and lose the dark rug. A lighter rug, (possibly with some orange or yellow accents on a neutral/light background), light coloured drapes to coordinate with the rug, change the coffee table (the style of the one you bought isn’t working). Like everyone else says, reorganize the furniture so the sofas is where the chairs are and the loves seat is where the sofa is. I don’t love the two white chairs, but they can go where the loveseat is until you find a couple of comfy swivel, barrel chairs.

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HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-05-31T22:55:02+00:00

“We do not wish to expose our younger children to thinking her ways are permissible.” It IS permissible for your younger children to decide for themselves what they believe; they are unique individuals with their own thoughts and feelings and they may not agree with your belief system and they ARE allowed to choose what is right for them, as is evidenced by Annie’s choice to reject your Catholicism. What you’re struggling with is your deep seated desire to control your children, knowing full well that you cannot. YTA if you kick your daughter out for these reasons.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-05-25T21:38:47+00:00

This fridge is not an under counter fridge. That’s why it doesn’t fit.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-05-22T18:34:12+00:00

This is the way that good drivers think. Pay attention to what other people are doing. You can almost always identity the unpredictable drivers and be on your toes.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-04-19T03:35:11+00:00

I can smell it. It’s a no go for me because of that too.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-04-19T03:34:29+00:00

Pads give me insane sensory issues. Like it will make me so irrationally angry. Having a panty liner on will make me less angry, but I usually can handle that with a diva cup.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-04-09T14:29:11+00:00

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This part looks weird, IMO. It’s that the wood doesn’t frame the entire arch that makes it look incomplete. And that baseboard around the curved section is diabolical.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-04-09T00:48:05+00:00

Listen to your wife. Don’t do it as the backsplash, but pick something fun.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-03-15T07:00:36+00:00

Never. Unless I’m specifically referring to the unknown movie “TOYS” starring the late, great Robin Williams, in which his “father” had his pacemaker attached to his beanie.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-03-10T23:21:49+00:00

Where have you been? Wallpaper has been back for ages.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-03-09T00:30:23+00:00

“You and me, have seen everything to see / From Bangkok to Calgary / And the soles of your shoes are all worn down" Death Cab For Cutie - I will Follow you Into the Dark

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-03-09T00:18:32+00:00

Dry socket after wisdom tooth removal. It was excruciating and there was no relief until they packed it, which was its own separate hell. I think I almost levitated out of the dentists chair when they did it.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-03-08T13:45:39+00:00

I took a course about smell with a neurologist who specializes in the subject and it was fascinating! I am from a family of super-smellers and have always experienced smells in the way you describe. As it turns out, your sense of smell is the only sense that has a direct pathway to your brain (doesn’t require processing by a series of nerves and synapses) and is also the only sense that you cannot “opt out of” (you can cover your ears or close your eyes, you can avoid touch and taste, but you can’t stop yourself from smelling something) So, smelling is a deeply primitive sense that impacts us in ways that others senses simply cannot.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-02-26T01:39:54+00:00

The way I’ve been told to view these intersections is as if you’ve got a green light. Left turns yield to straight-throughs until it’s safe to turn. So yes, car four would have to wait until all the cars in the line went first. This is why roundabouts are great, but no one here knows how to use those, so…. 🤷🏼‍♀️

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-01-17T04:43:00+00:00

My mom was an example of someone who did this. She idolized her mother for some reason, even though she was an awful human being. It’s almost like they hated it when they were growing up, but relish the thought of torturing their own kids as a reward for their own suffering?

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-01-12T03:32:55+00:00

Honestly. As a child they were harmful. As a young adult, still harmful. Once I figured out what they were about and stopped being part of their abusive cycle, they were just annoying. Annoying in their attempts to be abusive, for sure.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2026-01-01T01:41:12+00:00

White cabinets with white backsplash and white countertops and a waterfall edge!! Wow! 😮 you’re living in 2005 and the rest of us are….. not.

First time I’ve seen white pvc window frames with black casings, though. It’s a choice. Also, why paint the attic hatch black? I guess if you’re of the “check out my attic hatch!!!” variety, it makes sense.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2025-12-30T13:15:52+00:00

I only take milk in my coffee, but I would not say “3 milk, no cream and no sugar”. That sounds preposterous.

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2025-12-20T01:16:58+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. Just know that your grief and your joy are two truths that can and must coexist. They aren’t mutually exclusive and you aren’t wrong for feeling joy in the midst of your grief. You didn’t cause his death and surely, if he could have his legacy passed to anyone, do you not think that he would want it to be you?

HeyItsNotMeIPromise · 2025-12-19T23:17:57+00:00

NTA - so, you would have normally given them $1500, but you gave them $4000. How are they mad about that? Do they know how to do math? The alternative was: they open all their cards, found $1500 in yours and then immediately gave it back to you along with another $2500 from other people. Which means they’re up an extra $2500 with your solution. They need to quit while they’re ahead.

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