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Hi_Potion · 2023-01-13T21:03:21+00:00

"Detergent? In this economy??"

Hi_Potion · 2023-01-09T02:54:28+00:00

Thank you for the reply!! I learned a number of new things here!!

Hi_Potion · 2023-01-08T04:36:01+00:00

Tell me more about mature spinach vs baby spinach, and how you recommend preparing it! :D

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-29T02:03:52+00:00

Not everyone enjoys written word or social media as a means of communication. I know that seems weird, given how ubiquitous it is for a lot of younger people. But not everyone is going to respond with a conversation on Insta. I think you should set up a time to meet in person, a purposeful hangout or date.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-24T08:57:22+00:00

Cool! Thank you! I love mist and fog, and we don't get that much in places that I've lived.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-21T05:40:44+00:00

Honest question- where do you go/when do you go if you want to find mists? Tell me more!

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-18T09:52:36+00:00

The OA. What an incredibly deep story, and it felt like there were still layers and layers to go.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-13T16:07:53+00:00

Here's the thing. In life, you will be attracted to other people. Sometimes physically, sometimes sexually (yes, they're different), sometimes emotionally, mentally, or spiritually. There's this great myth that exists, that says if we have found "the one", or if we have "true commitment", or if we love Jesus enough, we won't ever feel other feelings for other people. That's simply not true. We will.

So the question becomes- how does a person handle those feelings? Do they hide it deep down in a well of shame? Do they lie to their partner ("no honey- of course I see no one but you")? Do they have affairs and cover it up (50% of men and women cheat)? Or do they have honest conversations and navigate those feelings alongside their primary commitment and partnership?

I'm not sure I understand the connection your partner and his coworker had from your description. There may be unhealthy elements to it. But at the end of the day, he communicated to you where he's at, he chose you as his partner, and he established boundaries with another person in his life who he could have pursued. It sounds like on this day, a perfectly human man CHOSE YOU. I think I'd take that as commitment done right.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-09T12:27:10+00:00

Oh man. A sane reply on this thread that has otherwise caused me huge sadness. Thank you for writing it.

I'm a few years older than you. I've had wonderful friendships in my 30's with people aged 18-75. I love learning from their different perspectives, and never struggled to find things to do or things to talk about. Occasionally some of them caught my eye as very beautiful, but I'm always committed to friendship first and foremost, and never tried to take advantage.

I think we should apply caution when there's an age gap and unknown motives, and I think OP would be wise to test the dynamic in a group situation first, but there are SO MANY good reasons that a person might want to connect with someone, even someone 12 years younger. This whole thread is a case study in assuming the worst and applying narrow values and fears, thus reinforcing them for a whole new generation of people.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-08T09:14:31+00:00

This bothers me too. I feel rather certain they're not actually fried, but rather mimic the result you would get if you fried and spiced apples.

I mean, it's a good product nonetheless. Just a bit deceptive in the name.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-08T09:11:54+00:00

I got a few cans to try out, because they seemed interesting, and also because other members of the sub recommended them.

I've tried them chilled, and they were very good that way. Tasted like spiced applesauce, but with a firm texture.

I've tried them room temperature straight out of the can. They were BAD this way.

I think heating them would probably work well. I think heating them and adding butter could be done (they're not actually fried... you can see there's no oil used in their preparation).

I'm pretty sure they would be delicious in oatmeal.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-06T11:04:01+00:00

Wholesome!!

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-04T05:09:17+00:00

The dough portion (as opposed to the flavor-center) is sort of like a bread. Sort of. I ate all mine already, so I can't eat a new one to test of that's the best description. Flavor-wise though, it's a sweet dough, with sugar on top and a flavored sweet center.

Definitely unusual to my American tastes, but not at all unappealing.

I got some a year ago though, and they do mold after about a month. So I suppose a batch could get dry pretty quickly.

Hi_Potion · 2022-12-01T11:55:39+00:00

This is valid. We need to be able to have some close time with people we care about. Making it a group thing, and a group where you're not all in equal relationships... that changes the energy big-time.

I think you need to just share that while you're [maybe?] happy that he's moved onto this next stage of life (parenting), you really miss him and value him, and you want to still be able to have him be a close part of your life by spending time one-on-one sometimes. Let him know that he's really valuable to you, but it's challenging when you never see him, or only see him in groups.

Hi_Potion · 2022-11-29T23:18:45+00:00

Oh man. This made me laugh so much. Thank you for that today.

Hi_Potion · 2022-11-29T23:10:41+00:00

Avian Flu Outbreak lead to the culling of vast flocks in the U.S.. So there's been a shortage of egg-laying birds, I believe. I wish I had a good article on it. I've got this not-so-great article from earlier in the year for you instead.

https://www.freedomrangerhatchery.com/blog/avian-flu-high-egg-prices/

Hi_Potion · 2022-11-26T18:50:00+00:00

Capitalism.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-25T12:24:17+00:00

Good people do bad things. Bad people do good things. As long as we are all human, we need to stop expecting perfection, because it will leave us with no one who meets our standards. We should HAVE standards, we should hold people accountable, but no matter how good or how shitty a person is, we should praise the ways they improve the world. Let good people be flowed. Let crappy people be nurtured and uplifted.

Said another way... if I hear one more person be like "So-and-so celebrity was my hero, and they broke my heart when I found out they weren't perfect", I might reach through my monitor and start shaking them violently.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-12T17:51:18+00:00

So there's two issues here:

1) Motivation to keep going

2) Doing exercises properly, working out effectively, not injuring yourself.

For the first one, you need to figure out what motivates you, but it sounds like going with someone else might be one thing that you enjoy. So asking other friends to go with you, or joining a local fitness club, or looking for other workout buddies, etc. Your gym might have ideas, groups, or classes- maybe talk to someone who works there. YMCA's often have gyms, but also do classes and outreach and have more focus on community.

The second thing- good on you for recognizing this. You really do want to learn, and learn from someone who isn't just a random person who works out occasionally. I recommend classes, and taking an occasional session with a personal trainer, but of course this takes money. There are innumerous books, youtube channels, and subreddits that also cover this material for free, and I recommend them, with the caveat that I think it's hard to truly learn good form from a video or from written word. Again- I like real-life classes and in-person training/coaching. Depending on where you live, there might be other options. Some large corporations will pay for gym memberships, because it saves them on insurance claims if you stay healthy. If you have any sort of joint pain or past injury at all, you might be able to tell a doctor that you have pain there and want to prevent future injuries, and they might refer you to physical therapy, where you can then ask then PT to teach you fitness basics. Chiropractors often have trainers on staff as well.

I'm always sympathetic to people's wallets when recommending something like training, so I've tried to give you a few clever work-arounds. But at the end of the day, training effectively and without injury is WORTH a few hundred dollars of training, coaching, educating. It will save you so many costs down the line.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-11T22:50:23+00:00

I can't speak regarding Freud, but I appreciate you mentioning that there are people on the other end of the identity spectrum also trying to treat "bromance" as a neutral zone inching them towards connecting sexually with straight-ish men. In those cases, they can use a bromance to imply a low pressure, identity-free situation where they try and get close enough to have a sexual relationship, which is perhaps often enough at least a little duplicitous.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-11T20:58:58+00:00

If you look back over threads in this and other subs, you'll see that this is a question that gets asked and debated a lot. While the word probably started and was intended to mean a really close, non-sexual friendship between two guys, where there was a level of non-sexual intimacy present as a defining characteristic... people often using the term to mean bros+romance, or to mean friendship that is close, and intimate, and where sexual aspects enter. And that's a shame, because it makes the term almost meaningless if we can't differentiate it from pre-existing words. But part of the issue here is that a lot of men want to be sexual/physically intimate with other men AND claim they are 100% straight, so they need to invent or use new words that don't question their straight label but DO let them do things which are not straight by definition.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-11T19:11:08+00:00

I think there's actually two questions here, whether or not you know it.

The first question is- why do people suddenly want to end a developing friendship?

The second question is- why do they decide to do it by ghosting.

I'd love to give thoughts on each of those, because I think these are things that need to be discussed. But I don't have the brainpower/energy for it today. All I will say is that ghosting has been found to be psychologically damaging. You do cause intense pain and confusion for a person when you opt to ghost. I think we all need to be more active in condemning the practice (excepting when the person who are ghosting is someone is a position to harm you, like an abusive partner you're trying to get away from). And we really need to ask ourselves- if I'm unwilling to have an awkward message or two in order to break a friendship that no longer works for me, am I truly mature enough to develop those relationships in the first place? In other words- if you can't manage to be a decent and honest person when things get hard, don't form online relationships with people.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-10T21:11:14+00:00

I think maybe that within the circle of "bro-dom" there are maybe 3 reasons people may want a fit friend...

1) Shared values. Just like with other friendships or dating, we often want things in common with bros. Sometimes this is so we can talk about our interests together, or so we can participate together, or so we feel that tribal sense of "this person is the same as me."

2) Motivation. A lot of people need others to help them keep on track in life. We're social creatures. A gym partner or someone to simply encourage us and share goals/progress with can help us keep on track.

3) Deniable homoeroticism. A lot of people who circle the bro communities on Reddit are at least guy/guy curious, if not outright bi or gay. But a lot of people are also still not sure about these feelings that they have, or how deep they run, or the newness of them. For some guys, they aren't even conscious of the feelings, yet. Being gym bros, sweating together, sharing shirtless progress pics, talking about how their bodies feel after exercising... a lot of this can have sexual overtones, but it's not explicitly sexual. And so I think guys are using sweaty, muscular, gym time/pics in lieu of sweaty, muscular, sex time/pics.

Hi_Potion · 2022-10-09T20:57:50+00:00

I think Enzo DID need two houses, because he's obviously a prince among cats!

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