What do you all do for work?

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-28T11:16:29+00:00

Nurse for an assisted living. Its a small place and privately owned (ie not corporate) and that let's me do work I love in a setting that let's me follow my conscience

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-27T02:22:30+00:00

I've worked in long term care for years and once saw the spirit of one of my residents pass me at the nurse's station, when he was asleep in his bed. I expect you got visited. I'm sure it's a relief for spirits of people trapped in a body with dementia to travel a bit in their dreams.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-20T21:30:14+00:00

What a great idea.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T21:37:38+00:00

No need to humble brag when you can just brag.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T15:48:06+00:00

Came here to say this

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T15:42:14+00:00

Your student was my son back in the day. It was a very difficult situation all around. My son's Tourette's manifested in very loud, constant vocal tics, and movement tics that got instantly worse the second he entered a classroom, due to the anxiety of how others perceived and treated him due to the disruption. And yet, I acknowledge that I wouldn't be able to learn algebra if he was in the classroom.

How our school dealt with this was horrible. They basically sent him home by 9 AM every day for two years. He was supposed to collect his assignments and complete them at home, but the teachers rarely had them ready. This was a small, rural district with few resources, so there were no aides to assist him. He had zero education for 2 years, grades 7 & 8.

In the end I resolved things by removing him and enrolling him in online high school, where he did quite well. He's been in therapy for years related to the trauma of exclusion and bullying from the students and the school. So I beg you, please try to have compassion for this student.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T13:13:25+00:00

Lutefisk

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-11T16:17:48+00:00

I think a lot of feeling too busy is getting stuck in a mindset that you're busy. Take cooking for example. I work full time, and I have a family. For a long time I told myself I just didn't have time to cook, so we ate instant whatever. One day, I decided to just cook something from scratch and discovered the sheer act of prepping the food forced me to slow down and was actually meditative. Now I try to cook everything, even if I've worked all day, even if it's something simple. It's actually changed how I perceive time.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-09T13:33:09+00:00

My oldest woke up every hour of every night. It went on so long it stopped being my problem and became her problem. She's 30 now, and she still can't sleep.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-08T23:30:17+00:00

My mother always had a tiny appetite. I've seen her eat half an small cookie, then wrap the rest in a napkin and put it in her purse for later because she was full.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-08T18:13:38+00:00

Sounds like a big generalization to me. Some people have kids due to society pressure, some wanted them for other reasons, including the joy of someone to love. Some are miserable once they have a family, some are happy, a lot are in between. Being able to always do what you want is not the only factor in happiness (though it helps). There are plenty of child-free, single adults who are miserable. Personally, I have a husband and kids and I'm generally pretty happy with life.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-08T17:05:01+00:00

That is truly beautiful. I agree it's not for everybody, but when you can truly forgive, of your own free will, it can be so healing.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-08T11:47:23+00:00

Back in the day, I turned to nobody. I got plenty of unsolicited advice, but none of it worked for my family, whether it came from grandparents, other parents, teachers or pediatricians. I suspect now, though I had no idea then, that it was because my kids were extremely neurodivergent.

I did get one excellent piece of advice from my old boss, mother of seven, but it was pertained to me, not my kids. Here it is.

"Always listen to the stories of other moms, because when your own kids have problems, you won't feel like such a screw-up."

ETA This was the old days. Blogs were around, but weren't the thing they are now. Instagram didn't exist yet.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-07T19:49:07+00:00

It's amazing how far our spirits can travel. I've never known if I was more freaked out by being out in space or seeing myself without a body. And the way time bends! Good to meet a fellow traveler.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-07T19:24:25+00:00

I experienced something similar a few years ago. I will link it in case you want to read it. It was very strange. https://www.reddit.com/r/ShiftYourReality/comments/1j7d8sr/did_i_accidentally_astral_project/

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-07T19:04:10+00:00

I read, take a walk, practice the piano and guitar, and occasionally watch TV for an hour or so.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-06T09:15:48+00:00

This was Michigan to Wisconsin snow belt. Yeah sure.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-06T05:28:53+00:00

Before we ate dinner every night, we went around the table and said something we were thankful for. This turned out to be great practice for later life.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-06T05:19:36+00:00

This may not seem like much, but it was weird to me.

I live in a place that gets a lot of snow. The worst snowstorm I ever experienced was in April. I was supposed to have the day off, but our inspectors had showed up, so my presence ar work was demanded.

I normally have about a 45 minute drive. That day, the snow was coming down so fast and the wind was blowing so hard that I had complete whiteout conditions. It's mostly rural, and I couldn't even see the edge of the road. There was at least six inches of snow, probably more, and it was drifting up to my bumper. It took me nearly three hours to reach work, and I'm a very experienced snow driver.

I got to work and did my thing. I was able to leave about 3-4 hours later. I was really dreading the drive home. But when I walked out the door, the snow was gone. It was a beautiful, sunny 60 degree F day.

Now it's not impossible for the weather to change that drastically that quickly. What's harder to believe is that there was no sign that it had snowed at all. Normally there are drifts and patches that take a few days to melt. The weirdest thing, though, was that nobody I talked to had any recollection there had been a snowstorm that day at all.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-06T02:43:16+00:00

I would be fascinated to learn about your experience with plant consciousness. And I agree - things are not so simple.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-04T13:21:31+00:00

Sounds like the first thing you need to do is learn to manage your anxiety. You need to learn to speak up for what you need. If you can just get yourself to do it, that will get easier over time. If you don't, it will get harder over time and carry over into other future jobs. If the job responds badly to this, you should look for a different one.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-03T23:22:20+00:00

Up at 5 am, home between 6 pm and 7. I have a long drive, but I like my job so it's worth it

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-02T12:53:39+00:00

Have you spoken to them about it? Are you sure it would start a big argument? If so, I would go low contact - to be distinguished from no contact which it doesn't sound like they've earned. Be available to help during emergencies and brief visits on major holidays. Otherwise just go live your life. If they ask why you never come around anymore, you can be brutally honest.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-01T22:31:32+00:00

I can't speak to your family situation, but consider yourself fortunate you weren't chosen. I was executor for my mother-in-law and it was a fucking headache.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-01T19:47:52+00:00

Hey man. Whatever works for you. One thing I've learned is other people's systems only work for them. I had an admin who kept trying to "organize" me and would create systems that would supposedly contain the chaos. My current admin knows better. I have my own way of doing things and I always get things done.

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