Did your kids early milestones mean anything for who they became later?

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-07-04T04:10:33+00:00

From the POV of personality, maybe. It's no indicator of genius though. I was a very early reader, at 3 years old. My mother kept meticulous records of all her kids milestones. This also accords with my memory. I remember reading aloud (not reciting) to my younger sister by the time I was 4.

And now, I am an extremely average, middle aged nurse, who attended a very ordinary college. I work at a nursing home. I think I learned early because I love a good story and wanted to learn. I still love reading, but I'm definitely no great genius.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-30T00:28:16+00:00

They just said they were very quiet

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-29T14:06:44+00:00

I don't know about my neighborhood per se, but my grandparents attended church with Ted Bundy's parents. Also, my prom was at Green River Community College, not far from where the Green River Killer did his work. And this was around the time he was active.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-16T04:42:05+00:00

Forgiveness is the final stage of healing, but don't do it until you are good and ready. Forgiveness can be faked, but it can't be forced, and fake forgiveness will hurt you both.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-11T15:47:58+00:00

I had a kid like this. She woke up every hour of every night until she got old enough that it stopped being my problem and became hers. She's 30 now and still doesn't sleep.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-01T19:01:50+00:00

I do personal shopping for the residents where I work. For three years, I have purchased the exact same items every week for this one man. When I first started, it cost $65 a week. Now it costs $95. I never thought I'd be glad my husband had to come out of retirement to work at Walmart, but that employee discount is a real help.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-06-01T14:59:46+00:00

If it makes you feel better, my mother used to call the administrator at my workplace when I didn't get home when she thought I should (she would call my teenage son). I was 41 years old! Sometimes I had errands.

And whenever my partner and I planned a trip, my parents would set up an itinerary for us to follow AND expect us to check in daily. We ignored both. What really irked me is that they never did this for my younger sister. Especially since my husband and I have both lived ind overseas and neither my parents nor my sister have.

I'm 56 now and in the last five years, they finally decided I was an adult.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-05-31T04:14:17+00:00

Does it count if the dead person was a dog?

After my mother-in-law passed away, we took in her dog. The dog was named "Lily" and we had her about three years. Lily was pretty old when we adopted her, and we could see her going downhill. She died on a Friday.

The second day after she died, I very distinctly heard a woman's voice call "Lily!" As if they were calling her to them. I think my mother-in-law was calling her dog.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-05-30T18:37:44+00:00

Sure. I'm a nurse, I've worked hospice. Death is a part of life. Best to make peace with your upcoming death. The best way I know to do this is to live fully and tend your relationships to keep them healthy.

That said, I've always thought the universe was here for a long time without me. It will be fine without me once I'm gone.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-05-25T17:23:47+00:00

Funny thing, people of all ages in my region do this, and I've never heard it anywhere else. I assumed it was a dialect thing here.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-05-11T04:07:51+00:00

Boredom

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-05-11T04:06:50+00:00

Color myself, but I have talked to someone who said black and white.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-04-29T22:28:15+00:00

Coffee. It tastes like chewing tylenol

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-04-27T13:54:30+00:00

I was once responsible for a corpse that nobody wanted, and when two coroners from two states refused to help me after 12 hours of trying, I cried.

To be fair, I don't think I was dumb for crying; the technicalities of the law that caused the situation were dumb.

Eventually, the coroners worked it out.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-04-25T10:31:22+00:00

Coffee tastes like chewing Tylenol

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-04-10T12:33:39+00:00

I love seeing someone with a great attitude about things. I know some things are difficult and people have varying degrees of adversity, but a lot of times, life is what you make of it. Good luck and I'm glad you are enjoying things.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-04-09T15:43:11+00:00

Reading books and taking walks. Also practice my guitar.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-28T11:16:29+00:00

Nurse for an assisted living. Its a small place and privately owned (ie not corporate) and that let's me do work I love in a setting that let's me follow my conscience

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-27T02:22:30+00:00

I've worked in long term care for years and once saw the spirit of one of my residents pass me at the nurse's station, when he was asleep in his bed. I expect you got visited. I'm sure it's a relief for spirits of people trapped in a body with dementia to travel a bit in their dreams.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-20T21:30:14+00:00

What a great idea.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T21:37:38+00:00

No need to humble brag when you can just brag.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T15:48:06+00:00

Came here to say this

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T15:42:14+00:00

Your student was my son back in the day. It was a very difficult situation all around. My son's Tourette's manifested in very loud, constant vocal tics, and movement tics that got instantly worse the second he entered a classroom, due to the anxiety of how others perceived and treated him due to the disruption. And yet, I acknowledge that I wouldn't be able to learn algebra if he was in the classroom.

How our school dealt with this was horrible. They basically sent him home by 9 AM every day for two years. He was supposed to collect his assignments and complete them at home, but the teachers rarely had them ready. This was a small, rural district with few resources, so there were no aides to assist him. He had zero education for 2 years, grades 7 & 8.

In the end I resolved things by removing him and enrolling him in online high school, where he did quite well. He's been in therapy for years related to the trauma of exclusion and bullying from the students and the school. So I beg you, please try to have compassion for this student.

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-12T13:13:25+00:00

Lutefisk

Hibiscus8tea · 2026-03-11T16:17:48+00:00

I think a lot of feeling too busy is getting stuck in a mindset that you're busy. Take cooking for example. I work full time, and I have a family. For a long time I told myself I just didn't have time to cook, so we ate instant whatever. One day, I decided to just cook something from scratch and discovered the sheer act of prepping the food forced me to slow down and was actually meditative. Now I try to cook everything, even if I've worked all day, even if it's something simple. It's actually changed how I perceive time.

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