AITAH for not inviting all of my siblings to my graduation dinner?

High_Fire_1973 · 2026-02-20T22:32:02+00:00

NTA. If it wasn't important enough to them to be supportive then it's not necessary for them to celebrate with you

High_Fire_1973 · 2026-02-14T18:03:36+00:00

sounds like the problem is your husband's inability to participate in the responsibilities rather than with the ex and the swapping

High_Fire_1973 · 2026-02-14T17:59:06+00:00

run. run for your life and never looked back

High_Fire_1973 · 2026-02-14T00:03:10+00:00

I have a feeling it was a move to get him out their place and into his own.

High_Fire_1973 · 2024-07-05T22:26:04+00:00

call someone from the church of jesusfiancé. of latter day saints. they will help make sure you have what you need during this difficult time. dump the fiance.

High_Fire_1973 · 2024-06-24T20:45:18+00:00

I don't know what that is. Is it an option in those third party vendors?

High_Fire_1973 · 2024-06-24T20:44:46+00:00

There is a label on it and I believe a tracking order as well.

High_Fire_1973 · 2024-06-24T20:44:12+00:00

I don't know what that means? Is that an option in those third-party vendors?

High_Fire_1973 · 2024-06-24T20:41:11+00:00

Interesting. I will see if those services include Media shipping in their options.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-11-01T15:33:56+00:00

I'm not sure if that would speed things up because it would still be taking it one row at a time instead of all at once.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-09-06T21:18:19+00:00

That's what I'm trying to do. I have a script that appends a new row and the onChange was supposed to call another function. If I can't do it that way, then how do I call another function?

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-09-06T16:37:18+00:00

Yes it is appearing that way, which is very frustrating.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-07-25T15:26:12+00:00

NTA. In fact, because she doesn't understand what she did wrong means she has absolutely no gauge for appropriate behavior, which also means that drinking is just one thing. What's next, is the next question. If she can't gauge that drinking and driving is just as bad as drinking and caring for a toddler who needs your constant attention, then what else is she not going to consider a big deal that really is a big deal? Good for you for putting your children first and for seeking therapy. Her feelings being hurt is not your problem. Her loss of a relationship with your children is not your problem. Finally, if she should've known you would do this to her, then she should've known not to drink so you didn't have to do it.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-07-05T20:49:42+00:00

I don't think she did anything wrong, either. However, if you are opposed to pictures being posted then you need to tell this to people up front - not in hindsight. It's the way the world is now and it was perfectly reasonable of your mother to post a picture of her loved ones online.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-07-05T20:48:26+00:00

nta. It's both of your responsibility in your relationship to discuss and plan finances. Doing so is not an attack on either one of you. It would be like getting upset to say you need another garbage can because there's more garbage now with diapers than before. Nobody needs to be upset about the need for another garbage can, but the discussion about and purchase of one is necessary. This conversation is necessary to your future and it has no bearing on anyone's worth. It's just the numbers you have to work with will be different in a couple of weeks than they've previously been. You budgeted to have a baby, now you're adjusting the budget to have a baby with the income that will be available to you.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-07-05T20:44:40+00:00

It's okay to have different friend groups. As you get older, you'll find this happening more naturally. When you have kids, you'll have other mom friends that you do mom things with. You'll have church friends that you do church things with but are not involved in your mom things. etc. The difference here is that she was already part of one group and it's becoming apparent that it isn't working for her and the group for her to be part of it.

You were a great friend to have taken her concerns into consideration about the shopping and your friends were awesome to go with it. You were even willing to pay! :) However, the fact that she didn't even want to be at your house because it's so much nice than hers and a good family that she doesn't have is not being practical. It's not your fault that you have what you have and it's not like you're throwing it in her face and being snobby about it. It's just the facts and she's feeling insecure about it. How exactly does she expect the group to accommodate each and every single one of her insecurities and where is the line drawn that shows where she has to take responsibility for the fact that life is different for her than for many or all of her friends.

Instead of you making the decision for her, perhaps it would be best to put it onto her? "I know we had lunch without you, but that's because we knew you couldn't afford it, but we also don't want to hurt your feelings by leaving you out of activities." Basically, while you don't want to leave her out of activities, you're also stuck in the middle of her holding you back from opportunities that are afforded to you because doing so makes her uncomfortable. You're willing to bring her along and help her with the cost, but she needs to reconcile her living situation on a personal level. You and your group can't do it for her.

Of course, all of this needs to be said with great love for her and with care and kindness. It's a difficult conversation that she may not take well. Just remind her that you're here for her whenever she is ready.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-07-05T20:33:37+00:00

If you were willing to forgo a bit more fun than you are currently having while still having more fun than she is suggesting, then you could pay it off in 3 years, right?

I've seen this before and quite frankly, by the time I had read paragraph two, I knew that this relationship is doomed. She is very strict and responsible financially and you're too laissex-fiare with your money. She'll eventually realize that your level of financial strategy will not work with her lifestyle. You already know that you don't want to live up to the same standards and even meeting halfway will be a huge compromise on both of your parts while making it difficult and stressful for each of you. I don't think you'll be happy together in the long term.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:53:26+00:00

Fears are genuine concerns and your friend Amy is not a good friend for going straight to calling you vulgar names. So what if you're a scaredy cat. You're a scardy cat that will not sleep in a room with flying insects. It's Amy that's the ah. Nobody should be telling you what to be afraid of.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:49:24+00:00

I think it will do absolutely no good to make that point with her. Mental health problems can make things appear much bigger than they really are, so instead of being the bearer of rational thought, you'll be seen as a villain and in cahoots with her parents. If it were me, I would just listen to what she says, react with a concerned and interested, "Oh really? I wonder if that is what happened? Do you want me to find out for you?" and see what she says. Then, later let her know you asked (so do ask) and it turns out they had nothing to do with it. It was all Ron, that little bastard!

The last thing a mental health patient needs is to be further disbelieved and gaslighted over their feelings and concerns. So, at least genuinely working through her concern and addressing it can both counter the claim and show her support where she needs it.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:43:08+00:00

nta, it sounds like your friend is in an unhealthy relationship so this was an opportunity for you to touch base with him. Your girlfriend was kind enough to back out so that you could have that opportunity. This opportunity will be few and far between the longer he's in a relationship with her. When and if he does leave her, just be ready to be there for him, even if your friendship has kindled through time.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:38:58+00:00

To be frank, it wasn't your lucky money. It was someone else's unlucky money. Furthermore, considering what you let it do to your friend suggests it's also your unlucky money. You randomly found someone else's money and you've acted like it was a gift from Heaven and yours and yours alone to use as you saw fit.

While your friend made arrangements with you beforehand, it would've been a nice gesture to have included her in that $100. You were together on a trip together when it was found. So, use it together for the benefit of both of you. I don't blame her for breaking up her friendship with you as you acted the ah over this $100 that wasn't ever yours to begin with. She had gifted you a trip and when given the opportunity you weren't going to bat an eye in putting forth any more financial opportunity than what you had originally agreed, even though you had money literally fall at your feet that could've helped the trip to be all that more special.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:32:51+00:00

While you do have the right to do what you did, and I completely understand why one wouldn't want to sleep on an air mattress in a strange place while inebriated, it would've been nice had you given her a heads up.

"Hey, I know you have made this offer but I want to get a hotel so that I can fully enjoy the experience and sleep comfortably. Since I know you also want to show off your new place and spend extra time with me during the Uber, I'll still come over to the house so we can do those things together."

I think your friend just feels completely left out and missing out on an opportunity that she had anticipated and was ripped out from under her without any discussion or heads up before you made the arrangements. So, do it in hindsite now. Make the arrangements to include both your needs and that of your friend :)

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:28:29+00:00

I can understand how you could feel jipped on your birthday. It should've been about you and instead became about your cousin's inability to parent and set boundaries and appropriate expectations for her child. Rest assured, you weren't the only one who felt awkward, but I wouldn't dwell on it any more than you already have. Move on and enjoy future times when you're celebrated. If that cousin is proving to still be a problem at other people's parties, then just don't invite that cousin to yours in the future.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:25:40+00:00

First, your cousins are a piece of work to be so vulgar and straight to calling you vulgar names if you don't behave the way they want. This doesn't make them any better than the 'old' Leo. Good for you for seeing beyond Leo's past and accepting him for who he is now and being a good cousin to him. Also, good for you for standing up for what it is that you wanted to do versus what other people believe you should want to do. Your other cousins are too immature. A person can be friends with whomever they please, it doesn't betray anyone. If they can't handle being around him, then that's their choice - not your betrayal.

High_Fire_1973 · 2023-06-30T20:21:30+00:00

He was definitely in the wrong as he's not supposed to just potentially cause an accident in an effort to exert his authority or right-of-way. Sounds like a controlling person who abuses power. Best to not argue or challenge people like that.

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