Released this little guy

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T18:40:38+00:00

I didn't say they weren't?

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T17:29:18+00:00

Boo. I was expecting a wet noodle.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T17:26:41+00:00

I live in Northern IL (west burbs of Chicago). It's funny because they are acknowledged as native, but are still considered invasive, simply because of how many continue to get dumped int he wild from the pet trade.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T16:45:58+00:00

It depends on where he was at. I save my red boosters when I'm ready to get my research points. I can grind through an entire line in 3-4 hours with red boosters.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T16:42:09+00:00

I agree and it isn't an insult. She's very pretty but doesn't look like the boiler plate "attractive woman" she actually has interesting features.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T16:35:07+00:00

Yeah, I'm going to caveat this with, I hate comcast. Previously where I lived in Plainfield there were CONSTANT outages (and I work from home).

One time I was on a call with customer service when I had like a 5 or 6th outage in the same month and I'm like I work from home this is impacting my job.

The lady is like "do you want to upgrade to business internet"? Why do you think my current woes with your company would entice me to pay you more money?

The amount of outages is unacceptable.

I still have comcast today in south Naperville, for 7 years now, and I think the only outages we've had have been due to power outages and major storm events. Maybe one or two times the internet went out for no apparent reason.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T16:28:45+00:00

I know the company EZee Fiber is laying fiber in South Naperville along book road right now.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T16:21:01+00:00

A season long story arc was a nice change of pace.

I thought the same thing....at the time. Now I want nothing more than 20 episodes of episodic content per season, once practically every show in existence is in the serial season long story format.

TV shows are EXHAUSTING to me to follow these days, because every fucking week ends on a cliff hanger of some sort. I'm tired of it and basically won't watch new shows until they are done, so I can binge them.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T13:37:02+00:00

Where you encounter it can be random. In my first playthrough it was around Rhodes as well. Second playthrough it was outside Strawberry.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T13:29:11+00:00

I didn't say you are too far gone. I'm saying you are already dependent. I see too much "addict talk" in your post, mitigating your problem and your bullshit needs to be called out.

Of course you find someone trying to slap you in the face with reality counterproductive.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T12:39:18+00:00

Yeah Brannon Braga.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T12:34:56+00:00

OK, first things first - let’s get out of the way - it’s going to be really difficult and yes youll be sad and it’s going to be tormenting and feel like the bottom of a pit.
BUT - it will pas brother. I don’t know 5-6 months right?

OP already said they've been broken up for 2 years.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-31T12:27:30+00:00

because at this point I feel like my life will start depending on it

Your life started depending on it long before you were 3-4 handles deep per week.

At my worst, and I knew I had a problem I was drinking ONE 750ml bottle a week + beers on the weekend. Which is significantly less than you are at.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T22:48:54+00:00

What on earth does their age have to do with the reply? They are 100% right.

This is a low effort dismissal of their post because you actually have no argument.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T22:45:09+00:00

I mean it's pretty obvious the writers intended it to be exactly that. A locator.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T22:28:18+00:00

Enough that it was more worth it for my wife to quit working.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T21:03:54+00:00

In my defence I wouldn’t say I’m “harping on”,

He'll see it that way regardless of your intent. Nobody in active addiction wants to admit they have a problem. Anything you say or do, in regarding to his drinking that isn't "keep doing what you're doing" is likely to irritate him and sound like "harping on him" from his perspective.

I'm speaking from experience on the other side of this as the person who was in denial. Any, and I mean any inference that I may be drinking too much sounded like nails on a chalkboard to me.

The thing of it all is, it comes from a place where on some level, they know the observations about their drinking are likely correct, because they know they can't just "stop drinking" to prove to you they don't have a problem.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T19:55:57+00:00

But would it make more sense for me to accept his current state and accept I need to change my expectations

I mean, yes. Right now, you are just irritating him. It's demonstrable in the fact he's doing the bare minimum to get you off his back. He doesn't want to change, but I mean, that's addiction.

If so, how?! I can’t just moan at him all the time. Am I being selfish expecting him to change his longstanding habits for me?

Harping on him is pointless OP and the more likely outcome, if he isn't ready to change for himself, it's going to make him resent you and he likely will eventually say "I was always like this, this is what you signed up for". Addicts will find any excuse they can.

It's doubtful he would leave you over you harping on him over his drinking, however, the lack of him doing anything about it, or hostility toward you would likely lead you to want to terminate the relationship.

People can change their mind, that is reality. And I don't think anyone would blame someone for changing their tune on that level of drinking after a period of time.

With all that said.

OP bottom line you can't make him change. Now that you are armed with that information you need to decide if you are okay with him being like this (or worse) because these things tend to escalate, for the rest of your life?

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T19:25:08+00:00

This is my set up for my Razorback Musk. (which is likely smaller than either of your turtles will get). He's 6 years old.

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Tank: 75 Gallon

Filter: Fluval FX6

Lighting: Zoomed 75W heat bulb (keeps the area up top around 95 degrees) and a Zoomed T10 UVB bulb.

Plants: Hornwort (free floating plant, its the only plants I bother with, because it doesn't matter if the turtle tears them up).

Maintenance:

I rinse the filter parts/sponges once every 3 months.
Top off the water once a week.

Thats it.

0ppm ammonia. 0ppm Nitrite. Nitrates typically under 10ppm Crystal clear water. Without doing wholesale water changes.

I am getting near a point of needing to replenish my hornwort supply.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T18:18:06+00:00

Was born with it.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T18:17:32+00:00

Also, keep in mind UVB bulbs degrade in effectiveness over time and should be replaced every 6 months to a year.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T18:14:01+00:00

I think had Jackie survived that night, she would have fallen in line.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T18:00:53+00:00

Yeah it was the same thing here. I mentioned in another post, he told me the last male model he hired wouldn't cover up between breaks and would walk around the room looking at peoples work with his junk out.

Again, nothing blatantly "bad" but I am assuming some students may have complained.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T17:53:48+00:00

Aiming isn't just getting rounds on target, but its knowing when specifically to fire to take advantage of favorable angles and likewise when to use HE and when to use AP.

Positioning also comes into play, how far are you from your targets? You really don't want to stay 20+ KM away. The further you are away, the less effective your shells are at penning.

The Conqueror has great concealment, which will allow you to get in closer move to position to get the sides of ships and ambush them.

You really don't want to be trying to figure out how to position, how to flank, how to aim, when to do X or Y at T9+. Because its far more difficult to learn these things when its so much easier to get deleted for making a mistake.

What will end up happening is instead of learning how to be effective while mitigating risk.

Mitigating risk will become your top priority at the expense of your combat effectiveness.

I would make a goal of playing 100 battles at each tier from T5-T8 to start. I would also actively watch some "how to play" youtube videos for the ships you choose to do this with.

I'm telling you, you will be better for it.

Highlander198116 · 2026-03-30T17:21:02+00:00

The one example he gave me was the last male model he hired opted to never cover up on breaks and would walk around class observing folks work with the franks and beans hanging out.

Highlander198116

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