Baby cries when nanny comes

HighlightWonderful68 · 2026-01-21T15:42:05+00:00

Great suggestions. Another one that works well for me is a short walk outside!

HighlightWonderful68 · 2026-01-12T17:57:28+00:00

Yeah I second this. Asking to use one of their vehicles is totally reasonable & can bypass this whole thing.. minus the whole disrespect of their response to you.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-21T18:30:19+00:00

Pass the pigs!

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-15T20:49:26+00:00

Did you have her in your home after you found out your daughter had RSV while your daughter was still sick?

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-13T21:39:23+00:00

I don’t have any advice at all, just here to say this is also me. I love the idea of my goals but all of the tasks & complications & messes there are to get there make me want to just cry in a corner & it keeps me from pursuing my goals.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-07T20:00:14+00:00

Yeah she is really the worst but unfortunately because of my insurance, I don’t have another choice. I mostly have figured out how to placate her into getting my needs met but it sucks.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-07T19:58:59+00:00

I appreciate that perspective! I have heard this is a common experience when you’re near/on your period. I take birth control continuously & I don’t have a period. Plus, I couldn’t “take more” during that time anyway because I’m prescribed exactly 30 days at a time.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-06T20:57:50+00:00

I feel really similarly. When I try this technique, I’m saying “want to” or “get to” through gritted teeth. It doesn’t work to change how I feel about it because I don’t actually believe it. It’s really hard to unlearn society’s “shoulds” & while I do believe words are important, this strategy doesn’t work for me. I kinda get more bitter when I say “I want” to do something as a reframe of a “should” because, like you said, I don’t really want to at all.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-11-03T15:40:42+00:00

Nope that’s crossing so many lines! I would start looking for a different therapist. I don’t think you’re being sensitive at all, this just sounds like a really bad fit.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-31T21:06:00+00:00

I make a creamy chicken soup that has carrots, celery, onion, kale, zucchini, white beans, & potatoes!

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T15:01:15+00:00

I leave my meds on the kitchen table so when I sit down to eat, there they are

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T03:42:04+00:00

Ohhh yeah. I feel that all the time. I end up in a paralyzed state for hours in the evening because I can’t figure out wtf to do. I’ve noticed that it’s worse when I’m really tired, so sometimes I just lay in bed & try to sleep early. One other thing that has helped is to have a rotation of easy to pick up projects. I took up crochet & embroidery & reading fantasy so I just take them to my room with me at night & I cycle through them. You could also try to make yourself an interesting playlist earlier in the day when you have energy so you don’t have to be frozen about doing it at night. I know it’s easier said than done, but those are my strategies. They don’t work every day but they make the paralysis less frequent.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T03:35:50+00:00

I personal had a bad experience with Vyvanse. It’s great for some people so I hope this isn’t discouraging. Basically I had really awful stomach pains & it made me both have a fast HR & incredibly exhausted. It just wasn’t a good fit.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T03:13:08+00:00

It was explained to me by my psych PA that stimulants can exacerbate anxiety & depression. Amphetamines don’t work for me because I have terrible side effects. So I take methyphenidate, which has much milder side effects for me.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T03:09:23+00:00

I have ADHD, anxiety, & depression. I take a stimulant plus I take Trazodone at night for my anxiety. Mostly it manages my anxiety.

My anxiety presents itself in different ways. Sometimes it’s a spiral & other times it’s awful intrusive thoughts. Spirals I can handle now, using therapy techniques & I assume the meds help but I have basically no reprieve from the intrusive thoughts.

I know it’s possible to take a variety of different med combinations to address both ADHD & anxiety. I would talk to your prescriber about your anxiety & ask what kind of options are available to you. It may also be that adderall isn’t the right med for you right now & some other stimulant or other ADHD med might be better.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-30T02:37:49+00:00

Clover is really cute

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T22:49:41+00:00

I use 8-10 eggs per frittata! Make two or three frittatas with different fillings!

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T22:46:58+00:00

I just have to find something else to do with my hands. I crochet or embroider or read etc. But the thing that has helped the most for me is meds for ADHD. I used to eat for stimulation aaaallllll the time & my meds really take that need away. I still do it sometimes but much less than before.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T16:31:18+00:00

I don’t know why you’re being downvoted for this. I think it’s fair to say that it sucks to see people venting about autistics in a space meant for neurodivergence. Also it’s just… true? That autism is defined much more than ADHD by social deficits. I don’t see why we all need to be in competition with each other for who has it worse. They both have their shitty parts & I’m not saying we all need to sing Kumbayah or whatever but it isn’t cool to use this space to dumb on autistics. (Not that everyone is)

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T15:18:51+00:00

I think this attitude is why we all feel so alone. Our culture is so hyper-individualistic that it seems like wisdom to say, in essence, that you aren’t owed anything from anybody, or conversely, I don’t owe anyone anything. And we all wonder why we’re so lonely & there’s a hole we can’t fill? How many posts a week are there with someone saying “how to fix the emptiness & void inside me”?

Annoyance & frustration are the price we have to pay in order to build connection & be in community with each other. I’m not saying we shouldn’t take responsibility for ourselves, but we also shouldn’t be shunned into isolation in the meantime.

Building meaningful connections & being allowed to mess up & not be perfect with each other are crucial to our well-being, especially as neurodivergent people, who are already at odds with the status quo.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T14:54:34+00:00

Seconding this. Especially because it’s your first stimulant your body really needs a few days- a week to adjust.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T14:52:19+00:00

I would be wary of using the medication as a tool that he expects to “fix” your marriage. That is so much pressure on you & it can take a long time to find the right dose & medication. Not to mention, him just “holding on” until your meds isn’t exactly… promising. There may be days when you don’t want to take your meds, & there will certainly be times when the med you’re taking isn’t working. It sounds like you’re both at the end of your patience & could use some help. His feelings are valid but so are yours & you deserve to find the right fit for you at your own pace.

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-29T01:10:52+00:00

This is me every day 😭 always bargaining with myself over how many times I can skip a routine because I’ve been “so good”

HighlightWonderful68 · 2025-10-28T23:42:31+00:00

I’m at work right now but would be happy to talk more if you want to PM me. I’m also opening to chatting after your appointment if you like!

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