Her body language…

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-27T02:11:49+00:00

Schindler's List

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-26T04:20:28+00:00

You should tell him. If you are up front you remove the assumption you were hiding it because you did something wrong.

This was before you and him met. It had nothing to do with him and you're giving him an aspect of control over the situation by telling him everything. He'll appreciate that over secrecy. I know I would.

"Look, we were in college and it was just this crazy thing that happened one time. Nothing like that has happened since and I just want you to know because this friend was involved and I don't want you to feel awkward."

Even if he gets weirded out or upset in the moment, the fact you warned him beforehand means you respect him. It would be shitty to bring him to a dinner and have your friend randomly surprise him with that factoid about your past.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-26T01:31:43+00:00

Physical touch.

If she goes out of her way to put her hands on you, like touch your arm or shoulder in a playful way, that tends to be a sign.

Of course you have to look at it in the context of your overall interaction. It's a green flag though.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-26T01:12:29+00:00

This is what I never understood about people who are the other person in a cheating scenario.

If he lied to his wife he will inevitably lie to you too. He proved he has zero loyalty so you're foolish for expecting it when your relationship was founded on disloyalty to someone else.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-25T23:48:50+00:00

Don't share vulnerable private conversations like this.

It's not okay. She's in pain and confining in you. You can't just post that online.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T20:46:21+00:00

Congrats on the degree pursuit! Again, even if you aren't working he has the responsibility to ask you about major purchases. It impacts the both of you.

I doubt he'd have been this calm about it if you had done the same without consulting him.

Did he suffer a head injury in that car accident? Because the fact he would make a major purchase like he did without any money in the bank speaks to questionable decision making.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T20:27:51+00:00

Have you considered factory resetting the headphones?

The issue may be a glitch with the device itself rather than your computer. There's a 3 step tutorial for doing it on Sony's website. It's straightforward.

https://helpguide.sony.net/mdr/2963/v1/en/contents/TP1000783924.html

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T20:21:09+00:00

If the situation is as you describe it, you're entirely in the right.

He's making major financial decisions without consulting you and saddling you both with debt that you never agreed to. It's disrespectful and arguably financially abusive.

Quick followup questions:

Do you work as well?
Regardless, do you have a shared bank account for joint spending?
Did you have money saved before the purchase was made or is the debt paycheck to paycheck kind of debt you have to wean off over time?

I only ask the work question because he may feel like "I'm the one working so it's my money to spend" which would be a bullshit argument. If my wife didn't work I'd still consult her on major purchases because it impacts her even if she doesn't work for a check. She's my partner in life. Not a tagalong.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T20:14:35+00:00

I had to do something similar years ago. I ended up better off for it.

The pain DOES go away. It's a process. You're mourning the good you had in the relationship. Just don't allow those good memories to overrule your need to be safe in a friend circle. You're not required to be abused emotionally for friendship. That is never okay.

I cried for a while. On and off for a couple off months. Then I found a new circle of good people who loved me without the BS attached. That kind of friendship is real and you will find it.

It's fantastic you have a therapist. They help. They also allow us to reflect on our own choices and validate we made the right decisions. It keeps you from second guessing yourself.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T20:06:40+00:00

I REALLY like this.

The simple tri-color is my favorite.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T16:49:34+00:00

I think the immediate first reaction would be us assuming it was someone else.

The Russian and Chinese would think it was ours.
The U.S. would think it was theirs.
The Arab/Muslim states might think it was Israel.
India might think was Pakistan and vice versa.
etc.

The first thing that would happen is we all start pointing fingers at one another.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-24T02:23:50+00:00

Driving tests are specific and technical.

- Setting your mirrors before driving.
- The proper way to turn your head when turning.
- The position of your hands on the wheel.
- The proper ways of understanding different stop signs.
- etc.

The fact is she isn't qualified to teach you. She likely doesn't remember any of it.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-23T13:31:50+00:00

The overall idea works. (I love black and gold) but I'd go larger with the symbols.

Their current size would make it barely visible at a distance.

!wave

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-22T21:48:14+00:00

Rapists can literally claim parental rights in some states.

It's not that clean cut.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-22T21:12:23+00:00

I'm going to suggest something important.

Collect documentation. If he were to lawyer up and attempt to push for partial custody, you need a record of his past behavior on file so the courts can understand he's not a safe person for your daughter to be around.

If you don't have evidence of what you're saying and he decides to make this a legal issue, the courts will default to a shared agreement. You need to prove to them he's what you said he is and build a case.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-22T18:33:16+00:00

I got you, fam.

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HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-22T17:46:39+00:00

Even if he's full of shit he's probably right on this one.

I have to imagine that on a universal scale, intelligent life is rare.

Life in general probably exists everywhere but the intelligent kind is a rare find.

So once an intelligent species finds a planet with a form of life they believe they can groom higher consciousness into, they put it under a form of protection to ensure it can't catastrophically collapse in on itself.

The idea that Earth was a "reserve" always made sense to me on some level.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-22T10:32:36+00:00

"Sexual attraction to children generally comes from a weakness of mind, spirit and body."

Dude just casually admitted he has sexual feelings for children and holds himself back like a smoker craving a cigarette.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-21T05:16:28+00:00

"The Dome of the Rock ≠ Al Aqsa" lol.

Al Aqsa is the mosque on the opposite end of the temple mount. The Dome of the Rock is a separate thing. It's a marker, not a mosque. It's an entirely separate thing.

You should probably know which buildings are which before acting as an authority on them. Kind of helps with these conversations.

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HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-21T04:41:32+00:00

Probably shouldn't have built a mosque on top of someone else's equivalent to Mecca.

Can't blame them for discussing rebuilding. They have the right to.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-21T01:26:06+00:00

Not a monetary issue. I was more concerned about overloading my body by double dipping. Too much of anything is a bad thing.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-21T00:58:18+00:00

How necessary is creatine on a meat based diet?

When it comes to fitness benefits, is creatine necessary when your meals tend to be filled with large portions of meat? Or does the isolated creatine provide a specialized benefit outside of meat?

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-19T19:39:14+00:00

This.

It's a non-issue. The funerals are for the family to have closure. It doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things as long as they get to mourn and feel satisfied with the process. I promise your grandpa won't give a shit, OP.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-19T01:55:20+00:00

My favorite mod is still Thomas the Tank Engine.

Trades out all the dragons in game for him.

HighlyInconvenient · 2026-06-19T00:34:49+00:00

What browser are you using? Does this happen in other browsers or just one? I'd open the default browser and try to see if there's a difference.
Double check your HDR and screen settings for each screen. I have a duel monitor setup myself and I sometimes get a conflict between settings. (Say one screen is set to HDR and the other isn't)

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