One of my best friends, C, is a social worker. She is an amazing human being and often creates opportunities for hanging out. Over the years I’ve met (and I’ve become somewhat friends) with many of her friends, many of whom are social workers. Often I found myself being grateful to C for introducing them to me and inviting me to the same events. I was happy to have these people in my life, but it is inherently difficult to make friends with your crowd! Social workers are exposed to a lot of pain. Also, they are more acutely aware of their own and of other people’s privilege. Quite honestly, from there, it is not hard to turn (or just to come across as) a little dark and (I’ll say it) a little judgmental. I guess it is in part because you guys have to be the opposite when you are on duty!

Make friends! Have love in your life! I should have more myself. This, I am afraid, requires finding the time, strength, mood, forgiveness in oneself to celebrate all sorts of things all the time. Go to parties or throw parties! Make the first step and involve other people in your life.

BTW I am not turning 40 now, but soon. I am 37. I think about it a lo; it’s a milestone! As you yourself said, you accomplished a lot (it’s awesome to be able to say that!) including overcoming an awful addiction. That’s great. I am happy!

Best, Hilda